In Search of My Sense of Humour.

Pity Parties

Pity Parties.!!!!! I had never heard the expression before.! A lady was being interviewed on a T.V. programme about living with and fighting cancer.

She said that occasionally she would have a ´´Pity Party´´ i.e. feeling really sorry for herself., either alone or sometimes sh´d call a friend or FRIENDS..... They would all gather around with something nice to eat and drink and talk, talk talk. She cries when she needs to , some friends cry with her........ then the following day....... that´s it! Pity Party over for now. She holds her head high and does what she can with her day. Never expecting too much of herself.


It struck me as a wonderful way to deal with any long standing problem. Whether it be cancer, or a loss or depression. Anything that could really get you down , if you don´t help yourself. If you never want to be the sort of person who is continually thinking´´poor me´´, then a ´pity party, may be just the thing for you. Positive thinking can be a pain in the neck if you´ve been feeling negative for a long time and if you feel you have good reason to be negative, but positive thinking is essential if you want to remain at least a modicum of happiness.

I´d recommend reading the hubpage of Dream On. He´s the only person l know who doesn´t seem to understand what a negative thought is. He sees good in everything, and everyday.! I guarantee Dream On will put a smile on your face


Personally , that is what l need at the moment , a smile a laugh, in fact l just need my sense of humour to come back.. l can´t remember when l lost it?

Where is the Dim who wrote hubs like ´´Good reasons to keep breathing´´ and ´´Toyland ! Here we come´´ Or ´´Say goodbye to the BMW´´ or ´´I live in a biscuit tin´´ ?????????

For sure, Dim Flaxenwick is still here (but where´s my sense of humour?).

I´m here feeling grateful to a multitude of hub friends who have shown so much empathy through their comments and E mails. I couldn't have asked for better friends. Yes of course l have some really good friends , who sadly live far away from me, l have a wonderful husband, yet , still there has been nothing quite like the unexpected rush of support and love l´ve had coming from hubfriends.

Your commens have left tears in my eyes on a good day and left me sobbing on a bad day, both with joy in my heart. Thank you so much ACAETNNA ..........ALASAR PACKER........

EIDDWEN...........ASTRA NOMIK.......... BLAISE25..... SADDLERIDER1..... MAGGIE MAY..

MICKY DEE......... EPIGRAMMAN ........... DOORMATTNOMORE.......CRE8IVONE..........

SUNNIE DAY ......... MOVIE MASTER........TNDRHRT23 ...... DEE DEE LAW.........TSMOG.

LADY TENAZ.......... SILVERGENES.........VOCALCOACH......CAGSIL........... MCKBIRDSBKS

DARKNLOVELY3436......... JENUBOUKA.........TEYLINA.......EXOTIC HIPPIE QUEEN......ZZRON

SINGLMOMAT52..............JASPER420..........THELYRICWRITER.......RNMSN.......WINSOME....

LUCKY CATS.........WANNABEWESTERN........ AND at

the risk of repeating myself. Dream On.....

If l´ve left anyone out, don´t let it go. TELL ME!! l can fix it..

It´s only thanks to you that i´ve found the inner strength to go in search of my sense of humour. I´ve looked under the bed. , but it wasn't there. I tried the bathroom amongst all the creams and lotions and make up and perfumes .......Nope! No sense of humour there.

l tried my kitchen cupboards, one at a time, but each time l opened the door a gruff voice would shout.....´´GET OUT´´ or ´´GO AWAY´´ ´´CLOSE ME, PLEASE´´´´ was the most polite answer l got from the kitchen cupboards. Gradually l had to accept the fact that the kitchen is my husbands´domain (no complaints for that) apart from the washing machine,and er no the washing machine was not closeting my sense of humour..

So, emboldened by my Pity Party avalanche of encouragement from all you hub friends I continued my search.

I tried the wardrobes and at least had a minor response.... The first door I opened, I was greeted with laughter followed by ´´You don´t seriously think you´ll ever fit into any of us again do you?. Move along fatty!!!. I did as I was told only to be met by my favourite flowing, flowery, brightly coloured, but flimsy, Summer Wear. More laughter. ´´Move on , Dim, unless you´re going home for a visit. You´ll not need any of us in he North of England.´´´´


Okay.! Slightly saddened by the truth of this, i approached the sensible suits.(moi?) SENSIBLE SUITS?. Have I morphed into my grandmother ? They said nothing. They know better. No way will I find my sense of humour amongst sensible suits. Sheesh.......Aha! Plenty of pinks and purples and gold, silver and all things sparkly as accessories. Gottcha!.

That´s a bit better, but I still haven´t found my complete sense of humour .Where oh where can it be?. Not in the wardrobe, nor under the bed, not in the kitchen or bathroom. Not on a bookshelf, nor on my desk.. Where can I find it, ? I need it so much. May I leave a suggestion box on my page, please.???

Meanwhile I´ll try looking inside myself, maybe it´s not lost, just hiding deep down inside me No Pity Party today for me, thanks to you..... All of YOU.........

The picture below is one of many that make me smile. It helps, a little to see humour in all walks of life.



If the kittens only understood what is beneath them AAAAArgh!
If the kittens only understood what is beneath them AAAAArgh!

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Comments 38 comments

Lady_Tenaz 5 years ago

Ronnie- If you need to have a "pity party" to get it all out, I am with you! I truly understand the ups and downs of life. I am so glad you are here on HP and I am so grateful to have you as a new friend. Whenever you are down, I will be here for you. Your email brought me up when I was down, so you see- you helped me! Your sense of humor is still there, its just hiding. Don't worry- all of your friends on here will help you find it :-) HUGS- JJ


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Hugs right back at you JJ. I know you´ll be 1st in line if I need a ´pity party´.....

Great comment. Thank you (and thanks for E mail)


jenubouka 5 years ago

I find when the objects begin to talk back and my clothes have formed anarchy I put on my favorite shoes for they never hold judgement and streak down the neighborhood yelling/singing "I Feel Pretty"

This works, though they won't approve my patent.


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Well at least your shoes loveyou.

Thank you for such a great comment.


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saddlerider1 5 years ago

When you are feeling glum and down in the dumps, remember there is always someone else feeling worse. I am thankful for every smile my creator gives me, I to have my frown days, I try to turn them upside down and grin again.

Know that you are loved by so many here at the Hubs Dim. I stand in line with the rest of your friendships here and if I can ever help in any way to break you free of being down instead of up, please email me and I will do my best to cheer you up.

Try to keep looking on the bright side of life, it's there, we just have to sometimes push those dark clouds aside to find the light. hugs from me to you dear Dim.


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Thank you so much, Ken.

I´ll try the upside down grin next time the corners of my mouth turn down.

Writing this hub and naming so many of you who have encouraged me has helped a lot.


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Teylina 5 years ago

Guess we just try, Dim! We love your work, and probably most of us know exactly how you feel. Many years ago I discovered that, for me, on those occasion when my real sense of humor was on vacation, it's dark-sided "black humor" sister filled in the gap. Been a blessing to me--just not sure about the people around me--sometimes good, sometimes not!


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Cheers!!!!! Teylina!

My dad had such a black sense of humour it was almost sick.

Thank you for all your support and for reading this and commenting.

l shall continue the search for my sense of humour and I think it will be obvious when I´ve found it.

Hugs, Dim x


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota

As a cancer survivor I sure know about the pity party but quickly learned that the best thing in life is to live to the fullest and thank God for every day. Nothing wrong though with having those pity parties.


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Movie Master 5 years ago from United Kingdom

Hello Dim, your kitchen cupboards are talking as are your clothes, yes I can see some flashes of humour creeping back!

We are always here for you, hugs MM


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Teylina 5 years ago

It will be obvious. And, no, there's nothing sick about mine--it just started popping out years ago when I seemed to NEED something--to say, feel, share, etc. YOU WILL FIND IT! Discovered if it's an innate part of you, it probably just wants a break. It'll pop up and you'll laugh at where it's been hiding!


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

THANKS TEYLINA. iT WOULD PLEASE ME GREATLY IF MY SENSE OF HUMOUR WOULD JUST POP UP AS THOUGH IT´S NEVER BEEN AWAY. Din´t realise cap on. sorry. l should look at the screen more. sheesh! What else can l get wrong today.........???


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Minnetonka twin, well done you, for fighting off cancer. Thank you so much for your support. l do thank God every night for putting up with me.

l just need to carry that thought through the daytime.


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Hey Movie Master. You could be right. l should try the wardrobe again. It may be hiding in there.

Hugs and thanks for supporting me, as l feel like a bird with a broken wing. Can´t fly....


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mckbirdbks 5 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

Did you check the bottom of the bag of sugar cookies?


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Feline Prophet 5 years ago from India

Cheer up...your errant sense of humour will be back soon...what will it do without you, anyway? :)


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Oh Mckbirdbks, that is classic!!!! Thank you.

Silly me, for not looking there. Iñll keep you informed..........


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Good thinking , Feline Prophet...... l visit my doctor today, that´s usually funny in itself.

OOOOH.. Maybe l left it at the surgery ...... Wouldn´t that be great. ???? It means l´ll bring it home tonight... Yippeee!!!!!

A special thanks to you for commenting ´cos l think l left you off the list, which is quite unforgivable, since you don´t even have to speak to cheer me up. Garfield in that pose does it for me every time. HUGS!! xx


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Teylina 5 years ago

Whoever said it can't live without you is absolutely right! It'll find you--get ready!


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Nice one, Teylina. Thank you.


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Teylina 5 years ago

Hey, Dim, it's Saturday; the sun is shining where I am, even though I call it "COLD"-- that's ok, laugh at me all you tried and true folks who like it below 90. (I will take 88).Anyway, honey, hope the sun is shining and no lousy gray overhead--it's easier to find your hiding sense of humor when the sun is laughing at your hunting! Hope it's a good weekend for you. If not, hey, I have had one or two great Mondays in my decades! Hope you're smiling at something, anyway. I just smiled when I saw my 6-yr-old's shirt: "It hurts to be this cool!" -- Be cool. Hope things are better!


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Well l AM smiling, luaghing , even.

Smiling at your comment and howling at your 6 year olds´T Shirt.

Thank you so much for all your support. l´m afraid l´m one of those people who doesn´t complain at 100 degrees. It´s the English October of 45 or 50 that bothers me. Brrrrrrr.

One day l must tell you about my 20 yrs in Tenerife, because, it is honestly not just the sunshine l miss. My whole life was different, and l feel like the ´real me´ is still over there with my son, but l´m improving. Nearly found my sense of humour at the doctors ´surgery last week, when she talked of knee and hip replacements, that won´t make my spine any better,.? DUH??'''

Hugs to you dear friend. Hope your weekend is great.


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mckbirdbks 5 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

FOUND IT! I mean I think this is most of it. Once I pound out this dent here and fill it with some bondo and sand it down a couple of time then test it to see if it will hold all it needs to hold, then scrub it once more, cuz, I can’t tell you where I found it. But I don’t think that critter will ever steal anything again. I have to admit that I had to do a bit of a transplant from a bit of excess sense-a-humor that I will never miss, and I apologize for the change in your personality that will occur once it is installed, but for sure this will work, pretty sure, well we can keep our fingers crossed……


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kimh039 5 years ago

Dim, I don't think you've lost your sense of humor. I can still hear it. I am concerned about one thing, however. I believe your pursuit of humor has triggered an insatiable urge to run naked down the street in Jenubouka. It's the second time this week she has made reference to this urge, and I think I hear her singing, "I feel pretty." Please do hurry!


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Teylina 5 years ago

Sunday--two days later -- surely you've found it for a while; and, oh, do I agree with that 100! I start having panic attacked in Sept. at the IDEA of it MAYBE going to drop to '70s in October! And I'm glad you liked the t-shirt. I did, too. Hey, that gives me an idea for a hub!


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

mckbrdbks....... What´s this?. You mean l didn´t lose my sense of humour......It was STOLEN???? Sheesh.! What is the world coming to.?

Thanks for all your hard work , l´m sure once the gadget is fully installed, we´ll be fine.

Thank you again !


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Hi kimH039.......

So glad you can hear my sense of humour. It must be on its way back, but it does leave me a little concerned about Jenubouka. Let me know if l can help.


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Teylina..... You are a gem to keep coming back to me on this one. Did you read the comment from mckbrdbks?

We may have the answer.

Can´t thank you enough for all your support.

Now.. about this 70 degrees thing..............


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Peggy W 5 years ago from Houston, Texas

I have a similar closet of clothes that laughs at the absurdity of thinking that I still look good wearing them. Those darn things. I swear that the longer they hang there the smaller they get. There should be severe penalties for clothes that belittle us in that way!

Try and be stern with yours when they talk to you with disrespect and I'll try the same. If we can get just that one situation under control...the rest should be easy. Cupboards next!


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Oh Boy! Someone with the same sense of humour.......... that means l´m winning......l´m getting there.

Priceless comment.!!!

Thank you.


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Lola1929 5 years ago from Oregon

Hi Dim... I'm new to your hubs and will check them out. In the meantime, if you're looking for some humor, check out some of my recipes. I think you might even laugh out loud. And, don't worry, humor never really goes away, it just takes an occasional vacation.


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Your comment about your own recipes made me laugh .

Thank you and so nice to meet you here on hubpages.


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Teylina 5 years ago

Hey, Dim, just checking in to see if you're a bit better, and think so from what I've been reading--although not commenting a lot, cause SERIOUSLY trying to catch up so can write, write, write--finally coming back to me! LOLA1929, can't wait to check your recipes! Love your comment--so right-on! Welcome!


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Perfect timing , Teylina, l was literally about to start composing in my head... a hub....l have FOUND my sense of humour. Phew!!! Don´t know what l ´d have done without all you guys out in hubland, encouraging me. Thanks . Hope you writing lots.!!


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Teylina 5 years ago

Yea!!!!!!!


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d.william 5 years ago from Somewhere in the south

I voted: up and clicked every box across the next line. This was an inspiring hub, and made me realize i, too, have lost my sense of humor. My hubs are about equal rights, suffering, being persecuted, hated, lied to, and my disdain for organized religion. Wow, i am depressing myself just thinking about it.

I will try to make an effort on putting out something lighter, upbeat, and maybe even a little humorous. ?

Thanks for inspiring me to look on the brighter side of things once in a while.


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Hugs to you teylina.


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Hi d.william...... so nice to have a comment like this from you.

l have made the mistake quite often of writing about current affairs(all depressing) serious depression when one of my friends was self harming. And more,. You are right. if we only write about such things it can affect our mood.

l still think you should write your excellent hubs about equal rights, Organised religion, suffering etc., but throw in a funny once in a while to keep yourself sane.

Take care. Hugs. Dim

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