Seeing dead people in dreams
If you are seeing dead people in your dreams, know that it is a common experience. By dead, I mean someone who has passed away (not someone who is currently alive that you dream is dead ). By dreaming of someone who has departed this life, we are, no doubt, trying to make sense of the passing; but, because dreams are so multi-faceted, here are some of the different ways we can look at a dream about a dead person, based on my own experience.
Let's face it, the death of a loved one can be traumatic and the grieving process intense, so much so that it creates an overload on the psyche's circuits. If we were to deal with the voltage of grief in one sitting, we might short out emotionally. So, the subconscious mind now is doing overtime, helping us to process and to come to terms with the event and to integrate it into our experience. Our dreams give it free reign to express, especially when we are unable to do so in our waking life.
My younger brother's death from cancer at 18 was a great tragedy for myself and my family. In the years after, I would often see him in my dreams, where he appeared alive and healthy. Sometimes, I would dream that the doctors had made a mistake, that he didn't have cancer. Sometimes, even when I wasn't aware that I had dreamed of him, I would talk to him in my sleep, according to an ex-boyfriend. I did have a lot of unresolved grief around his death, which at the time, I couldn't adequately deal with, since I was a teenager myself when he died. In time, the frequency of the dreams about him decreased. Yet once in a while, once in a very long while, some 35 years later, I still seem him in my dreams.
Seeing dead people in dreams: Message from beyond the grave?
Do you believe in life after death? If you do, or if you might, then you are probably open to the possibility that your departed loved one is trying to communicate with you from beyond the grave. During the night, I believe the veils between the worlds disappear, that the three dimensions of time and space relax, and we can perceive what we are unable to during our waking hours.
Indeed, I believe the the spirit of the loved one is trying to communicate with us in some way. I think in many cases, they are trying to tell us they are OK, that all is well on the other side. I've even heard stories of the spirit of a loved one remarking that there is no need to grieve, or live in the past, for the grief keeps the spirit of the dead person closer to earth in the astral plane.
On the other hand, I've heard some stories of the spirit of a dead person who appeared in a dream and had some information about "the insurance policy" in the safety deposit box. Think what you will. You can only go by your own experience.
Charateristic of the dead person
If you are not in grief mode, perhaps seeing a departed loved one in your dream conveys a symbolic message. Ask yourself, what characteristics did that person embody? Who in my life today is like that? When someone close dies, we sometimes adopt some of his/her traits. If you are dreaming of someone who has passed away, ask yourself would the traits of this person serve me? Are these traits ones that I have internalized, that I express today? Is this a trait I need to express?
The answer to these questions, of course, depends on you. Your own innate intelligence will tell you when you are right. Some people refer to this as the "aha" moment. The only way to describe "aha" is the click, (of course..that's right), the light bulb (as in a light pops on in your mind's eye). Perhaps there is another message. Again, only you know for sure.
Personally, I rather hesitate to apply any meanings that come from a dream dictionary. Perhaps these lexicons of the psyche and spirit can give us some clues or send us in the right direction but, since you are the dreamer, then you have to become acquainted with your own internal language and symbols.
Revisiting the past
While I was doing graduate work in education, I occasionally dreamed of my favorite instructor from Journalism school. He had passed away some ten years earlier, but in the dream, he was still alive, still the the Dean of the Applied Arts division, and still occupying his office. I had learned a lot from him, and considered him to be a role model as both a journalist and as a teacher. I believed I had taken part of his essence with me on my own career path as a writer and a teacher. While I was doing the graduate work in online education, I had been reflecting a lot on the past, about where I was coming from. Meanwhile, I was also moving to a new future. Perhaps, this nocturnal vignette was more symbolic of the past, than the present, and helped me put my previous careers to rest.
Getting ready to pass
Both my grandmothers, a few short days before they passed away, reported dreaming about their own parents and grandparents who had long ago left this world. In their dreams, their long departed relatives appeared to be waiting for them on the other side, even beckoning them to come. I have read and heard stories that sometimes, as one is preparing to depart this life, the spirits of their elders do appear as if to usher them along the journey into the afterlife.
No exact answers
The mind is complex. The only way to gauge anything with respect to the meaning of any type of dream is through your own experience. Death is a universal experience which affects the living in many ways. Depending on you, your personality, your relationship with the person who has passed on, and how affected by the passing you were, seeing dead people in dreams will have different meanings. Ultimately, only you can interpret what it all means, and what the connection is to your waking life.
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