The Art of Transference and Countertransference in Psychotherapy

The Art of Transference - When Feelings go Awry

Transference and countertransference are merely phenomena otherwise known as a natural occurrence or an observable fact. These phenomena are closely related to the defense mechanism, known as projection.

Projection, on the other hand, is somewhat different. In projection, you take an unconscious ascription of a feeling, thought, or impulse especially ones that are considered undesirable in nature and you outwardly project it onto someone else. As if to say, it’s not mine it’s yours.(NOTE: My experience of projection is depicted in the poem, Good Byes.)

My knowledge of these phenomena is based from my own personal experiences in psychotherapy within the confines of the therapeutic relationships in which I engaged. I will draw from these experiences, hopefully providing you with a visual of a first hand account of what it is actually like to experience these phenomena

What is Transference?

Getting back to defining transference; transference is a feeling from past interactions with other relationships that you transfer into your current relationships. Transference refers to the feelings a client may have towards the therapist.

Countertransference, on the other hand, is just the opposite. Countertransference are feelings the therapist may have towards the client. Feelings the therapist has had from past interactions with others are transferred to the current relationship with his client.

Either way transference is a natural occurrence that happens between client and therapist throughout the course of a therapeutic relationship. Transference of feelings, like all feelings are neither good nor bad, they are what they are. They are simply feelings; very real feelings! As I denoted in one of my previously published poems, Feelings are feelings there’s no right or wrong, like lyrics and limericks an unfolding song

My Personal Recollections

The story begins....

I had been seeing a male therapist named Paul, for several years. Although, we had developed a very trusting therapeutic relationship there were many struggles and obstacles in this relationship that I had to overcome. I will only touch upon a few of them that are relative to understanding my experience of transference.

The first and foremost issue was my fear of men. "So why, pray tell, would she choose to see a male therapist?” you might be asking yourself. Trust me, so too was I. In fact, it seemed absolutely absurd.

Paul came very highly recommended from a reputable source. I was desperate at the time, not knowing where to turn; I found myself dialing his number. Making the initial call to his office was one of the hardest things I had ever done. For up until this point I had never needed help from anyone else.

Another predominant obstacle that I had too overcome was on an unconscious level, unbeknownst to me Paul resembled my father, (the very same person who abused me) in a way that only the unconscious mind could recognize.

So along with the ordinary struggle of resistance, fear and the normal transference that one might expect to encounter during the course of a therapeutic relationship. There was an additional, much more intense and pervasive obstacle that I faced each and every week.

Every time I was in the presence of Paul my symptoms would exacerbate, many times triggering a flashback. I would become paralyzed with fear. I could not speak. I would totally dissociate from the present

Through many associations and triggers he would become my father and it was extremely hard to differentiate between the past and the present moment.

Upon leaving one of those very intense sessions I immediately picked up a pen and a piece of paper and began to write. The poem titled, "Take Back the Control" was written as a result of one of those experiences.

This poem clearly depicts being triggered by silence, experiencing a flashback while simultaneously transferring my feelings of the past onto my therapist

"Take Back the Control"

Your silence sends shivers up my spine,and throws me back till I was nine.I struggle for control, I can-not find; the adult in me is left behind.

The defenseless child becomes so real; resigned to the pain that she now feels.Confused and bewildered, she silently pleas, "Can’t you see, that you’re hurt-ing me?”

Then comes a shift from past to present;you become him, inflicting the torment.I want to scream and shout in your face! “Please rescue me, from this painstaking place.”

"TAKE BACK THE CONTROL,I don’t know what to do. The seeds that were planted never grew. You annihilated my freedom and ravished my soul; and now you expect me to take control."

After the struggle and amongst the pain;I felt as though I was totally deranged.In my mind I kept trying to arrange; something des-par-ately needed to change.

I felt like a discarded amputee: struggling to feel what I could not see.

And then out of nowhere, the serenity prayer came.I knew I must accept the script with my name.

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Transference and countertransference may exist in other relationships as well. It’s just more common to hear it referred to as, existing in a therapeutic relationship. In a therapeutic relationship there is an over all advantage for the client to learn from their experience; achieve personal growth and heal.

That is based on the fact that this is a healthy and safe therapeutic relationship. I personally have experienced both healthy and unhealthy therapeutic relationships.

I have been on the side of countertransference, with a therapist that never worked through her own issues and ended up transferring them unto me. It was an extremely confusing time. It was like being abused all over again. I was going to therapy to get better and felt as though I was sinking deeper and deeper after each visit.

A therapist, like a parent is supposed to be someone you can look up to, trust and learn from. Luckily I had many good years of therapy behind me before I encountered this relationship.

Even then it was extremely difficult to work through and get out of. It took its toll and I ended up in a psychiatric facility for a short period of time to literally get my feet back on the ground again.

Sometime during the course of my therapy, my husband,Tom and I entered into marriage counseling with a counselor named Ben.

Due to the nature of my issues relating to sexual abuse and my fear of men; I soon found myself overwhelmed and feeling trapped. Having three men in my life, two of which were representing the same person was more than I could handle at that time.

Talk about transference, this was transference running amok. Something had to give. To lessen the confusion and to maintain my sanity, I made a decision to leave my therapist, Paul.

The decision to leave Paul was a very difficult and painful decision. I had very strong and favorable feelings towards Paul. He had taught me so much and had always been there for me with support and loving guidance.

Example of Projection - Notice how upon feeling these undesirable emotions.  I quickly projected these elsewhere.
Example of Projection - Notice how upon feeling these undesirable emotions. I quickly projected these elsewhere.


I can’t help to know, how you must feel; to be there for someone on the same Ferris Wheel.

Supporting them, each step of the way; encouraging them when there skies gloomy gray.

Then comes the day, they’ve become strong.They need you no more, dismiss you you’re gone.

You’re left wondering, “What went wrong?”Standing alone, singing the same old song.

I’ve never had pleasure to be on this side;my pleasure is sadness, so deep and so wide.

I can’t help to see that I haven’t been fair; to know how it feels with an abandoned chair.

I’m not feeling guilty, please don’t read me wrong.I know where I’m at and am feeling quite strong.Now that there’s distance,

I can clearly see.How important! “Good-bye,” are meant to be.

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Hence in my panicky state of mind and seeing no other way out; I decided I would find a female therapist to continue dealing with my abuse issues; thinking that this would free up some of the confusion and fear, allowing me to continue on with the marriage counseling with my husband, Tom and our counselor Ben.

I never gave it any thought as to how I would feel or what I might encounter after leaving the therapeutic relationship with Paul. At that time I just needed to feel safe and needed to know that there was a way out

This was the first relationship that I had ever left on my own accord. This in itself was a huge step for me.

Several days later Tom and I were traveling in the car. I became aware of a sinking feeling and was suddenly overwhelmed with sadness. It seemed to come out of nowhere. Thoughts and feelings relating to leaving my therapist began to surface and were consuming me.

I picked up a pen and a piece of paper and began to write.

As with all feelings what lies on the surface is usually only the tip of the iceberg; a powerful triggering force, creating a chain reaction like cascading domino's to what lies beneath the surface.

My losses ran deep, very, very deep; the feelings emerged from the depths below and were unbearable. I began to write; these feelings were expressed in a poem. The title of the poem was “Good Byes.”

Several months later I reflected on this poem and realized two things.

1. It was apparent that I had never learned how to deal with a loss.

2. Rereading the poem I realized that I had projected my undesirable feelings of loss onto my therapist.

By the way, for the record, the second therapist was basically chosen at random, an eanie, meanie, miney mo pick from the yellow pages.

Dear readers and fellow hubber,

if there is one thing of value that I wish you to take from my experience it would be that you go that extra mile in choosing the right therapist for you. Aside from a normal credential check you may wish to have a word with your perspective therapist on the topic of transference.

The moral to this story, take heed from a reputable source or your may encounter an experience that may be contra indicative to the experience in which you had in mind.

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keira7 6 years ago

Hi my dear Sage, I am so glad you wrote a hub like this. Thank you so much for all this brilliant info. I do understand now why my nephew is so confuse. My sister need to look for another therapist for him, I think. I will informe her about the countertransference. I have learned something very important via reading your excellent hubs. Thank you so much for sharing. I admire you a lot, for your talent of a writer and also for been so strong. God Bless you my lovely friend.:D

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Sage Williams 6 years ago Author

Keira-Thanks so much for stopping by and reading. Your comment has touched me very deeply. As always it is written with sincerity from the heart and graciously expressed.

My heart goes out to your nephew. I pray that he will find a good therapist and am happy that this article has shed some light that may be of some assistance.

Many thanks and hugs to your nephew,


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Ghost Whisper 77 6 years ago from The U.S. Government protects Nazi War Criminals

Hello Sage-another excellent hub.

Transference often happens between a client/therapist and it often happens when just loving and helping others who are in need. It is natural and as long as the helper is aware of it--and acts accordingly-all is well.

Thanks for good reading-and your explanations-through first hand experiences certainly will help many!

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Sage Williams 6 years ago Author

GhostWhisper - Thanks so much for stopping by, it is always a pleasure to see you. You are so right on your comment, I like the way you put it, "as long as the helper is aware of it - and acts accordingly-all is well.

Thanks so much,


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Darlene Sabella 6 years ago from Hello, my name is Toast and Jam, I live in the forest with my dog named Sam ...

Dear Sage, you are a bright star, I can feel light coming from you to all your hubber friends. The desire to share such an emormous part of yourself. I am seeing the best therapist, finally and have experianced your feelings, it's a very important relationship. Thank you Sage, you are special. Remember that all of us are handicapped in one way or another. What is Normal feelings?

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Darlene Sabella 6 years ago from Hello, my name is Toast and Jam, I live in the forest with my dog named Sam ...

Willing is a choice.

Strong, weak, happy, miserable, loving, resentful,

the effort required is the same.

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Sage Williams 6 years ago Author

Darlene- Good to see you again, thanks for stopping by and taking the time to comment. I am happy for you that you have found a good therapist. You are right, it is a very important relationship. Thanks so much for your comment, it is genuinely heartfelt.


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States

Sage, That was an excellent article on transference and countertransference. Your poems show so clearly where you were at various stages of recovery and they are excellent. Your experience is very well written and I think you are sharing a part of yourself that touches everyone's hearts. I know it does mine. Thanks for sharing this part of your recovery.

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Sage Williams 6 years ago Author

Pamela- Thanks so much for your endearing comment. You brought tears to my eyes. It is always refreshing to me when someone clearly gets the picture and understands what I have written. It's always nice to look back and realize just how far you've come.

Thanks so much your comment means the world to me.


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Micky Dee 6 years ago

I could write a tome (I almost have)about therapeutic care. It wouldn't apply to anyone but me. I spent decades in denial or "hiding" about PTSD and traumatic experiences away from Nam. I made a pretty darn good living for a man trapped in a body he refuses to change. I've not cut my hair in 40 years. I was successful in other ways. But I suppressed. I doubt I could have played my hand any better. It would be nice to have a time machine. Thanks!

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Sage Williams 6 years ago Author

Micky Dee - I hear you loud and clear. A time machine would be nice. Makes me think of the song by Cher. "If I could turn back time."

Thanks so much for sharing your personal experience and thoughts. I wish I knew what to say, but I don't.


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CuzzoShizzo 6 years ago from USA

Thanks for sharing this great Hub with the community. You are a great writer and are very willing to help others. Thanks for all you have shared.

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Sage Williams 6 years ago Author

CuzzoShizzo - Thanks so much your beautiful, heartfelt comment. It is greatly appreciated!


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa

I really learned a lot from this Hub - thanks so much Sage. Your journey is so interesting and so rich, even if full of pain. As one who has been in therapy off and on for a loong time now I really relate to your experiences as told here.

Love and peace


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago

I especially loved your poem...Goodbyes are very every sense of the word. I am sharing this it's really important.

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Sage Williams 6 years ago Author

Tony - So good to see you, every since I read your hub on the Fifa world cup. South Africa is calling me.

Thanks so much for your comment. It is always refreshing to me when others can relate. You are so right, my journey, although much pain, it has been very rich. Kind of reminds me of the lyrics to Garth Brooks song, "The Dance."

(Lyrics) The Dance by Garth Brooks

"Yes my life, it's better left to chance. I could have missed the pain, but I'd have had to miss the dance."

Tammy- So good to see you as well. You are so right about Good Byes, having most people walk out of my life. I really wasn't aware until this experience, just how important good byes are meant to be.

Your comment is greatly appreciated!


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anjalichugh 6 years ago from New York

Hi Sage: 'Mind' plays they say. The more you try to know it, the more intriguing it gets. I had read a similar story many years ago about a female executive who, on the basis of her competence, was promoted by the board of directors, to the level CEO in a very short span of 3 years of working tenure. Following that incident, there was a change in the company management and her immediate boss was replaced by someone else who was transferred from another department (inter-se). Suddenly people started noticing a stark decline in the efficiency of this female CEO and no one could understand the reason behind this sudden change in her. Things got out of hands and she was asked to consult a psychotherapist and during the sessions it was revealed that the new boss resembled her step father who had been responsible for abusing her in her younger days. I believe that's what you call transference. It seems our mind never forgets the abuse irrespective of the time and distance factors. So my dear, all I want to say is that the psychologists may help us to find out the cause of our dis-ease but they cannot help any further. Medication is not a long lasting solution and that's all they have to offer. The only thing that helps is spiritual healing. Its the soul which needs to be healed so that at some point of time, its able to get rid of those scars which keep bleeding every now and then. I really am a fan of your work. You're a fabulous writer.

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Sage Williams 6 years ago Author

I can't thank you enough for this beautiful comment. You are so very sweet. Thanks also for sharing the story regarding the female executive. I can't believe how similar the situation was to my own. It serves as further validation. I felt so crazy at the time.

You are so right about spiritual healing as this was the key in my recovery process. I learned to trust my unconscious and knew that in time the answers would be revealed to me. And they were. They came to me as a knowing. Learning to listen with an open heart and trust the knowing when it came to me was a learning process in itself; one that I still cherish to this day.

Your comment means the world to me. Thanks from the bottom of my heart.


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US

Goodbye and how to deal with a lose, and I got what you said about taking heed form a reputable source about what you have in mind,

I am very happy for you SAGE, you continue to inspire all of us here not only through your writings but what you have dont in life, Maita

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Sage Williams 6 years ago Author

Maita - You are so sweet. I just left from leaving a comment on your latest hub. I can't keep up with you. You write the best hubs and you are amazingly fast.

Your comment is genuinely heartfelt and greatly appreciated.


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Ann Nonymous 6 years ago from Virginia

Very deep, Sage and your goodbye poem....beautiful! The serenity prayer although short is a powerful and wonderful prayer...You did a really excellent job on this hub!

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Sage Williams 6 years ago Author

Ann Nonymous - Thanks for stopping by. I am so glad that you liked it. I agree with you on the serenity prayer, short but very powerful and wonderful poem. It is one that I have reflected on in my darkest moments. Your comment is greatly appreciated!

Many Thanks,


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Mystique1957 6 years ago from Caracas-Venezuela

My dear Sage...

Here I am learning from you about something I experienced in a far past. It has been dealt with and I feel very much at peace with my own self. The path hasn´t been completed, I am still walking upwards but here and there I bump into small stones, fall down and pick myself up again! Your poetry deep, and painful but with a bitter-sweet flavor of exquisite poems.

" It is not the how´s of getting to the top,

It´s the unbreakable will power not to stop,

It is not the how´s of the Olympus being reached ,

nor the promises of the mind or the way they´re breached,

but the earnest doings that keep yourself up"

Great work!

Thumbs up!

warmest regards and blessings galore,


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Sage Williams 6 years ago Author

Al - What a beautiful comment you have left. Thanks for sharing yourself. I absolutely love the poem. You have really touched me.

Thanks so much, I needed this.


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Beth100 6 years ago from Canada

Sage, your poetry is moving and touches my soul. As beautiful as your poetry is, it has come from deep pain, which I am sorry that you have had to experience.

Your explanations of transference and projection can be easily understand by the written word, yet in real life, so difficult to recognize and understand. I, too, have encountered all three types. Projection is one that I can see a mile away and it is the easiest of the three for me to recognize. However, transference and countertransference are not always so apparent and easily spotted. It takes great insight about oneself to become aware of what is happening.

You have written an excellent hub, as usual, and have given your readers important knowledge. Thank you Sage, for sharing your life and your experiences with us all.

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hypnodude 6 years ago from Italy

You have the rare gift to be able to talk about "heavy" topics in a pretty plain way, so that they seem lighter. I'm sure you'll be able to help a lot of people with your true life examples; and I feel pretty lucky to have become your fan. Wise decision. Rated and obviously stumbled. :)

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Sage Williams 6 years ago Author

Beth - Your comment means the world to me. Due to my own comprehension problems of the written word in my earlier years and which I still struggle with somewhat today. I try very hard to write, giving a complete picture to go with the words. So for you to say that my writing can be easily understood is a great compliment. Thank you so very much!

I agree with you regarding the transference and countertransference as it is not always recognizable in the moment. In fact it can be quite deceptive. That's what makes it so crazy making.

For me the insight was delivered through my poems that's where I recognized it and felt that is why I needed to incorporate them into this hub. For this could be the missing link for many readers as it was for me.

My poems were never a thought process, they pretty much wrote themselves. I believe my unconscious mind was the vessel to much of my insight. I just needed to trust it and let it in.

Projection on the other hand, I like you can see it coming from a mile away. Only because I have been on the receiving end all of my life.

Many thanks,


hypnodude - What a beautiful comment. For me, writing about what you know is the easiest and that is where I am starting.

I like many others in this forum often say if my writing helps just one person than it makes it all worth while. I like you feel honored to be your fan as well. I love all of your hubs and am always seeking you out to read more.

I will have to look further into the stumble thing as I am not sure how that works. Thanks so much for reading, commenting, rating and stumbling.

You're the best,


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US

Hey Sage, I am not fast, I am just dedicated like you, I just came by here to cheer you up, courageous one, Maita

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Sage Williams 6 years ago Author

Maita - You're the best!

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manojgk 6 years ago

nice hub

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cashmere 6 years ago from India

I love the way you share so much of yourself, it is helping a number of other people. They draw help and inspiration from your story!

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Sage Williams 6 years ago Author

Manojgk and Cashmere - Thank you bot for stopping by and commenting.

Cashmere thanks so very much for your support and validation as sharing to help others on their path to healing is what it is all about.

Thanks so much,


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blondepoet 6 years ago from australia

Boy oh boy Sage you sure know how to write. Excellent. A huge thumbs up from BP xo

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Sage Williams 6 years ago Author

blondepoet - Wow! thanks so very much for your beautiful comment and for rating this hub up! It is greatly appreciated.


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Moulik Mistry 6 years ago from Burdwan, West Bengal, India

The subject is very new to me and I learned a few basic things about it. Thank you so much...

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Sage Williams 6 years ago Author

moulik mistry - thanks for stopping by and commenting. I am glad that you were able to learn some of the basics.


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prasetio30 6 years ago from malang-indonesia

I never about Transference before. But I get well explanation here. I am glad to read this information, very useful for me. Thank you very much.

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Sage Williams 6 years ago Author

prasetio - I am so happy that you have some understanding now regarding transference. Thanks so much for taking the time to read and comment.


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US

Sage, Are you ok? I always think of your stories and in some way I want to just know how are you doing although I know you are a courageous soul, Night, Maita

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Sage Williams 6 years ago Author

Maita - Your too funny. I'm doing great other than allergies at the present moment. I'm just surfacing after being away. Thanks for thinking of me.


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Deborah-Lynn 6 years ago from Los Angeles, California

You have found a credible outlet for your pain, searching and developing insights. This is a great place to realize all of this because your talent is not only enjoyed in this community but you are helping others in situations that could be comparable, to find themselves and identify their own feelings. Thank you for not just stewing in your own feelings, but using them in such a positive way that truly can benefit others greatly.

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Sage Williams 6 years ago Author

Deborah-Lynn - Your comment means the world to me as you pay me a great compliment. I do try to write so that others going through similar situations can hopefully learn from my experience as well and perhaps they will be able to relate to my insight.

Thanks so very much,


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DustinsMom 6 years ago from USA

Sage, I really enjoy reading your hubs. Although I have no texperienced your trauma, you explain it in a way to really help others feel the gut wrenching pain.

Life can be so unfair. We never asked for the pain that has been thrown at us. But somehow, someway, we manage to get through another day. Please keep writing and I will continue reading.

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Sage Williams 6 years ago Author

DustinsMom - You are right and so very sweet. Life can be so unfair, but somehow, someway we manage to get through. I feel the same way about your situation. I have not experienced that type of trauma, and can't even imagine what it must be like for you. But what I see is a very courageous soul who has so much to offer others through healing and her ability to write.

I say the same to you, please keep writing by speaking out, you will give voice to your pain and will be helping others along the way. You are an inspiration.



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Your Knowledge 6 years ago

I had a really bad experience with a therapist myself and since I have had no interest in therapy at all. It was supposed to be a good therapist and I was in a deep dark place when i went to him.

It was also a tough decision to make to go for therapy. I just realized something had to be done, because I was slipping away fast. But the therapist really only made me worse in a lot of ways. He never noticed that I needed medication, and kept telling me that I was improving, which I know i wasn't.

It was only years later when I started using medication that things started getting better. I have moved passed what this therapist has done to me, but I have lost all faith in therapists because of it. I will never see one again. It was the worst experience of my life.

Anyway great hub, I now finally know what transference of feelings mean because for some reason I keep getting searches for it to my hubs.

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Sage Williams 6 years ago Author

Your knowledge - thanks so much for reading and commenting. As noted in my article I have had both the good and bad.

I agree it is so very hard to trust after such a bad experience with a professional that is suppose to have your best interest at heart.

If you have been a victim you end up being re-victimized setting you back even further. Shit happens! What can I say. You gotta trust your guts and find the right one. When you do it's all worth while.

Thanks so much for sharing your personal experience. It's always nice to see you.


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Your Knowledge 6 years ago

I know therapists can be of value to people. I have given up on them though and I'm happy with where I'm going. In the end you only really need yourself to solve your problems. Therapists can help.

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Sage Williams 6 years ago Author

Your knowledge - You are absolutely right. For me it was just getting to the point of having a self. Today I can agree with you. There was a time I couldn't.

Thanks again,


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adrienne2 6 years ago from Atlanta

Sage, I have heard of Transference before, but did not quite understand what it is and how it helps a person. You have given some very good information here. Thank you for sharing.

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Sage Williams 6 years ago Author

Adrienne - I am so happy that you were able to get a clearer picture of what transference is. Thanks so much for reading and commenting. It is greatly appreciated!3


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allpsychedup 6 years ago from Manila, Philippines

For a psychotherapy to be successful, transference is helpful on the client's part as this ease a lot of repression being unleashed. What is scary is when the shrink undergoes countertransference,as this jeopardize the therapeutic relationship built up already. You hub is a very good example of enlightening this term.

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Sage Williams 6 years ago Author

Thanks so much for stopping by reading and commenting. You are right counter transference is scary and does jeopardize the therapeutic relationship. Your comment is greatly appreciated!

Thanks so much,


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lambservant 6 years ago from Pacific Northwest

A very moving story about you and your therapist Paul. Must have been a very difficult time. Your decision to move on to safer ground reflects your growth in identifying your needs to protect yourself from further harm. You sound like a very intelligent, wise woman. I appreciate you being open enough to share your story and what you learned through it. I have some similar issues going on. I deliberately stay away from male therapists. I find women therapists more empathetic, nurturing, and giving. Not to say there aren't wonderful male therapists. I just am not comfortable with them. It's my own private deal. Thank you for this hub.

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Sage Williams 6 years ago Author

lambservant - thanks so much for reading and writing such a beautiful, heartfelt comment. I like you was extremely uncomfortable with men, at the same time it was exactly what I needed and I was extremely fortunate to have landed one that was so knowledgeable, compassionate and a terrific fit.

Trust your gut,

Good luck to you and hugs to your healing,


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Spirit Whisperer 4 years ago from Isle of Man

This is a very interesting and informative hub and you do great job of explaining the phenomenon of transference. It is indeed a very effective therapeutic tool and as you rightly point out is also a double edged sword that can be disastrous in the hands of a therapist who is not trained appropriately. I was so impressed I have also featured your article in my Hypnotherapy Daily Newspaper. Thank you.

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Sage Williams 4 years ago Author

Spirit Whisperer,

Please forgive my delay in writing. I am taken back with your comment. Thank you so very much to taking time and for sharing this article with others.


Roman 23 months ago

I saw the order for Obama to produce his birth citaifectre that was posted online but it isn't signed or dated or anything so evidently is just the order presented to the judge for the judge's consideration. I'll post any update I find.I'll see what I can find about polls.Thanks for your response.

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