What are you scared about?

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Are YOU scared?

Sure, all living beings are scared of something or the other in this life. To name a few, I FEAR lizards, cockroaches, mice, rats, spiders, destruction, darkness, illness, bad people, heights, getting lost while driving...Phew!

The list could be endless.

How many of us waste our precious time pondering over it...most of us!

So, what is fear that makes us scared and sit on the edge of the seat?

Fear is an emotion and we ALL experience it. This emotion is NOT "within" us but we manifest it 'cause of some reason.

My Example

I like to share an example of mine. When I schooling in India, I was bit by a stray dog and had to take the necessary shots. Since then, I was scared of dogs and honestly, am still not very comfortable around them. It's the memory, which keeps flashing back and makes me avoid them. But, IF I happen to face them, What should I do?

Should I just run away from them or face them?

I think, I ought to face them inspite of the fear inside me. Man is an intelligent soul and being scared of "things" does not suit him. We have to face the situation. My fear of these 4 legged creatures is much less than what it was earlier since; I DARED to face them.

Natural Disasters

Lately, so many people and countries have been struck with natural disasters and so many people were left homeless and many lost their loved ones. Sure, people experiencing the calamity were scared when this "thing" actually occurred. So, how did they face the situation.

Initially, people must have screamed, shouted, and even cried for their loss. That helps in releasing the anxiety pangs within us. But, unfortunately, the scene did not change by doing the above.

They FACED the situation even though they were emotionally and physically muddled.

Darkness

Most kids are scared of darkness and eventually they grow out of it. But, there are some who still fear the dark because of some past episodes in their lives.

Planet Earth faces light and darkness in every 24 hours. Scientifically, 'cause the earth rotates around the sun every 24 hours, which causes it to face light and darkness.

Perception on Darkness

Darkness is a pattern of our lives and also of our planet, Earth. At some point in our life, we face happiness & darkness i.e we are happy and at times we are sad 'cause of some circumstances.

However, our planet, Earth faces light and darkness everyday. This is to make all living species aware the meaning of life that it is not a bed of roses. We have to LEARN to face darkness since; it is a pattern of our lives and there is NO escaping from it.

There is a television show that is being telecast ed all over the world...Fear Factor.

I have never been on these shows but, I admire the people who come on it. They are common people like you and me. They have fears but, it is admirable how they face it and take on the challenge of performing the act. Sure, the crew gives them extra protection but, the fact that a person is taking steps on overcoming his fears is admirable. It does not matter, if they win or lose. What matters is that they went past their fear.


I have carved out a few mantra's to overcome FEAR

Humans are social animals and cutting ourselves off from the society 'cause of a particular fear will not help solve the problem.

  • Never say NEVER

Never is a negative word and using the above makes us go far from reality. We are living a LIFE, which is real and trying to hide from reality will not help us avoid the situation.

Stress will always be in the Air. We have to carve our path along it and try to give ourselves a second chance to everything in life.

This is known as the BEST medicine. Laugh out your fears and they will stop following you.

Learn to balance your life and your priorities. This will make fear will be far far away from you.



Cheers to ALL my fellow men a LIFE, which is bountiful and fear-FREE.


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Saleeln18 4 years ago from Illinois

This is a great hub, pretty simple but very informative.

Everybody is afraid of something, it's one of the connecting factors between all people. Unfortunately not everybody knows how to deal with and/or conquer these fears. But you offer some pretty effective methods.

Anyway, good job I enjoyed it.


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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

When I was drinking I was afraid of life in general; now that I'm sober I don't think I have any fears. Makes sense! This is a wonderful hub; nice job my friend!


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albertsj 4 years ago from Pittsfield, Ma

Hi Ruchira,

I don't know that anyone is fear free. While it's a nice idea in theory, it's not realistic. Most live in fear of losing everything they have, that's why they continue working. Most live in fear of getting some toxicicity, that's why they don't eat doughnuts, and half eaten pieces of pizza out of garbage cans. Oh, it's not on a conscious level, but fear is something we need sometimes. For survival. But maybe a fear like you and I share: getting lost while driving; maybe we could tame that one a bit if it holds us back from things.

As you say:

Cheers. ; )


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livingpah2004 4 years ago from USA

Nice philosophy on fear. Yes everyone has fear one way or other. It`s just how to overcome your fear. Thanks for sharing it. Voted up!


Sunnie Day 4 years ago

Hello Ruchira,

Such a beautiful hub filled with much wisdom concerning fears. This sounds maybe silly...but I have always had a fear of speaking what I was scared of. It is like I keep it hidden so it will not happen or spoken into the air. Have you ever heard of such a thing? Thank you for sharing...I have never been bit by a dog but I do fear strange dogs that are out and about running if I am walking.

Take care,

Sunnie


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writer20 4 years ago from Southern Nevada

My fear is the dark and it always has been. When you see a dog that's already with someone, you can hold your hand out for the dog to sniff. If he likes your smell his tail will wag or he'll hold his head up for you to pat. Best of luck to you. Voted up and interesting.


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RealHousewife 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Interesting thoughts to ponder! Hmmmm...I'm afraid of insects in general, my kids getting hurt/sick...oh snakes! I hate snakes - Ew. I do not like strange dogs as I also was bitten by one when I was like 10? It had it's shots but maybe why I'm partial to small dogs now? Small teeth! Lol

Up and everything!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Saleeln18

Welcome!

Thanks for your vote of confidence. I am glad you found a way to challenge your fears. I am also challenging mine and am pretty sure, will overcome it :)

Good luck to you, my friend!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Bill,

Well said indeed. Once we try to overcome our fears then we have this "no matter what" kinda attitude which helps us make the right choices. Bev is a great woman, treasure her and enjoy life :)

Cheers!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Jacy,

The fear that you are talking about i.e "in fear of getting some toxicicity, that's why they don't eat doughnuts, and half eaten pieces of pizza out of garbage cans" That is common sense and not fear. Sure, food on the floor or in the garbage can will be contaminated.

Having fear of one's life sure makes one achieve something. Thus, it is advised to live as if you are dying that way you use each day to the fullest.

You say that "Most live in fear of losing everything they have, that's why they continue working" IF Fear is the factor that makes them go to work, sure then that fear is good. 'cause there should be a factor in all our lives to drive us to do something creative/productive.

Regarding the fear of losing one's way while driving...lol

sure, that can be taken care of thank heavens, man invented GPS :)

Cheers to you as well, my friend.

Thanks for such a valuable comment.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi livingpah2004

Thanks and Welcome!

I am glad you agree with the above.

Thank you and wishing you a Fear Free life...Cheers!


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rambansal 4 years ago from India

you deserve my thanks for shaking the age-old trees of notions at their very roots. Congratulations..

There is no need of being afraid of a fear or eliminating it -

http://rambansal.hubpages.com/hub/Fear-leads-to-Vi...


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Frank Atanacio 4 years ago from Shelton

Ruch I am being most honest when I say I am secretly learning from your hubs.. I won't tell anybody.. and I'll deny it.. but I take something away every time I read your hubs thank you so much.. Mister Anonymous.. oh wait.. they can see my name right?


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alocsin 4 years ago from Orange County, CA

Well, I'm pretty much afraid of everything, lol. But as you said, facing your fears is the only way we can grow. Voting this Up and Useful.


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Ruchi Urvashi 4 years ago from Singapore

Hi Ruchira, great hub. Enjoyed reading. Your hubs are unique, special and original. When I was small, I used to have fears. Living independently in later years, challenged me to overcome fears and live a life without fears. Spirituality helps too. The moment I have thought of fear, I replace it with positive affirmation. Voted up and useful. Keep it up.


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ahorseback 4 years ago

Such great Advice from a great hubber! Ruchira , most dogs want to just lick you to death really! One old way of telling is ...Is the tail wagging ! I think animals pick up on our stress' too. Can I give you a one hundred on this hub ! Your great!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Sunnie,

Sure, there is a fear of speaking. I used to have that as well :) But, now I have this carefree attitude, which makes me speak and thus overcome fear...it was a long road.

Thanks for your vote of confidence. I appreciate you stopping by. It was good to see ya :)


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi writer20,

Thanks for your tips with regards to a dog...will keep it handy :)

I wish you luck in trying to overcome your fear about the dark...try singing in the dark and I hope that helps :)

Wishing you luck and joy :)


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

haha...kelly with your amazing sense of humor...I don't think fear is gonna be stuck around you for long 'cause I feel that laughter makes fear go far far away :)

You are a FEAR free lady :) Cheers!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Thank you Rambansaljee for your kind words of appreciation :)

Always a pleasure to hear from you! Will check out your link..thanks!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Frank, my friend your sense of humor is amazing and I am always delighted by your visit :) I have myself learnt a few tricks from your hubs so, barter system is working...lol

wishing you a fear free life :) Cheers!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Alocsin, your sense of humor always delights me, my friend :)

Wishing you ALWAYS peace and happiness in your life...cheers!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Ruchi

Thank you. The vote of confidence coming from a prolific writer like yourself means a lot. Thanks!

I agree...living alone makes one face our fears. I too have learnt a lot in the coming years.

wishing you a fear free life my friend :)


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

thank you ahorseback for such high marks ;)

i am glad you enjoyed the text above :) wishing you luck in overcoming your fear as well. Cheers!


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anglnwu 4 years ago

Ruchira, I was bitten by a dog too when I was young. To this day, I don't have a dog, despite my kids' desire to have one--haha. I still have many fears but like you say, it's good to face them--they may not be as bad as they seem. Thanks for sharing.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Thanks Angi for your vote of confidence.

Sorry to hear that you too were bitten by a dog. I am still not open to having a dog even though my kid is also after me to have one...lol

wishing you a fear free life, my friend!


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always exploring 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

Excellent, informative hub. I am afraid of snakes, darkness and worst of all, heights. I know it's a must to face your fears, but there's no way i will face a snake. I have flown, but i didn't enjoy my time there because i was too worried about the trip back. HaHa..Cheers


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Ruby,

I feel one has to try to face the worst scenario when facing one's fear and trying to talk oneself out by saying..death is not an option so, let's just face it.

I agree it is not easy...I still have my shivers but, am working on it by using the above key words ;)

wishing you luck my friend!


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ishwaryaa22 4 years ago from Chennai, India

A very thoughtful hub on overcoming one's fear(s). I have a few fears - lizards, ghosts and devils, and sleeping in the dark - I always sleep with the light on. This wise hub of yours made me think how to overcome my fear of darkness very soon.

Thanks for SHARING. Useful & interesting. Voted up.


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Millionaire Tips 4 years ago from USA

I have a great deal of fears as well. I was bitten by a dog as a child, and was dreadfully afraid of them. You're right, facing the fear, and looking at it clearly is important. I understand that it was my actions that caused me to be bitten, and as long as I avoid antagonizing dogs, there is really a slim chance that I will get bitten again. Now I live with a dog. I'm still somewhat afraid of dogs, but not mine, and I am learning to get over my fear of other dogs as well.


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thumbi7 4 years ago from India

Very nice hub!

I have a fear of closed spaces and as far as possible avoid them.

Thanks for sharing


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi ishwaryaa22,

Sleeping with a night lamp on is usually not recommended by therapists although I understand your fear about darkness...try a few tactics to get over that.

I fear lizards too and still can't overcome it...haha

Wishing you luck, my friend and thanks for stopping by!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Shasta,

I am sorry to hear that you were a victim to a dog. But, am so happy that you overcame your fear and have one as a pet. My kid is after me to have one but, that fear is still bothering me...hmm...gotta learn something from you now!

Thanks for stopping by with your valuable input.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Thumbi7,

I was also scared of closed spaces but, had to have a MRI done 'cause of a tear of muscle and I remember how I gathered the guts to do it...goodluck, dear friend!

thanks for stopping by!


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prasetio30 4 years ago from malang-indonesia

Very inspiring hub. I just scared with God. He always watching me, whatever I do. But for animal....hiii. I scared with spider. I can't imagine with its legs. Thank you very much. Rated up and have nice weekend!

Prasetio


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cclitgirl 4 years ago from Western NC

You're right about facing your fears. I used to be scared of bees. Now, out in the garden working around them and seeing them busily buzzing from flower to flower, I fear them much much less. Though my fear of spiders and other creepy crawlies remains high, I can actually fall asleep if one is in the room. I used to not even be able to fall asleep at night if there was a bug or something buzzing in the room. It's from working out in the garden. Fascinating hub. Voted up. :)


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA

Interesting hub, Ruchira. Made me think. I have some fears that I can't get over--like snakes--but others that I can force myself through, like public speaking when I have to. You give very wise advice. Voted up among other things. Thanks!


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

Put me down for a couple of phobias. Claustrophobia being on the top of the list. I recently started taking elevators since it seems like every building has them and they hid the stairwells. Haha!!


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Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

Hi, I think a lot of fear is learned, maybe from when you are a small child, for example when my son was small he was sitting outside and a spider climbed up his back and onto his arm, I saw it and nearly screamed! but I didn't, he had a look on his face as if to say, do I cry or laugh? so I deliberately laughed and said, wow, look at that pretty spider, and quickly flicked it of so that it ran across the ground, he giggled, I nearly passed out! lol! but it worked, he doesn't mind them, but I still do! phew! haha!


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SanneL 4 years ago from Sweden

Wonderful hub with a positive and healthy attitude towards fear. When your fears is getting in your own way of living, we must face them, overcome them and start living again. Fear is our biggest enemy, and when fear stop us for following our dreams, it is truly sad.

Thumbs up, Ruchira!


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tsmog 4 years ago from Escondido, CA

I liked this hub. I learned not to let you in my study. Don't want pete to scare you - lizard. I noticed most answers on fear were childhood fears. Interesting. I have fears too. I experienced amnesia, no real memory of childhood. I wonder if those fears are like ghosts. I do have a fear of falling asleep sometimes. thank you ruchira and everyone for sharing those fears. Maybe that will help just a little bit :)


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Melovy 4 years ago from UK

I think you are right that most people have some fear, but it is not part of us. I can relate to what Sunnie wrote about not wanting to voice fears, as I used to feel like that too, and I think it’s very common. Yet hiding from fear only makes it worse. Somewhere along the line I came to see that the saying what we fear the most is fear itself is true, and the more I welcome any fear the more it dissolves.

A thought provoking hub.


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emilybee 4 years ago

I have multiple incidents with dogs that make me fear them. When I was an infant being changed outside (we lived in the country) a dog came bounding over to me scaring the heck out of us, and another time I had just finished making a snowman and another dog ran right into it knocking the head off. I've gotten better but big dogs still scare me. Great hub and voted up!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi praseito30,

I am happy to read your thoughts. Well said indeed. As far as animals...I am scared of spiders too...lol Wishing you a scare-FREE life esp from spiders :))

Hi cindy,

I amhappy to read that you are able to overcome your fears. YOU have the power my friend and you have been able to clear your fear! Wishing you a fear-FREE life, my friend!

Hi Vicki,

thank you for your vote of confidence. I am happy that I could give justice to your question :) I am happy that you force yourself to take the step and step up esp for public speaking. You are a talented lady and hubpages, admire you ardently. Cheers!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

haha Linda your fears are as awesome as you are :) Wishing you a fear-FREE life, my friend!

Wow Nell. I wish I could be like you. I would have screamed and that would have inculcated fear in my kid. You are a brave lady! I have learnt something valuable today...THANK YOU!

Hi SanneL,

Well said indeed. Fear is our thing and we should know how to overcome it! Thank you for your vote of confidence.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

haha tsmog...I like your comment :) Wishing you a fear-FREE life, my friend!

btw, talking about your fears will help you face it. So, no harm in showing it :)

Good points, Melovy. Facing your fears help one overcome it! Wishing you a great life where you can over-come your fears, my friend...Cheers!

Emilybee, I am glad to know that I am not the only one haha. Feels good and it's comforting :) however, I still close my eyes when I am around a dog. Still got to overcome it. Thanks for sharing your story. Wishing you many years of fear-free!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Thank you ALL for exposing your fears. As they say that facing one's fear, gives us the courage to face it.

I wish you ALL the courage and the challenge to take up your fear by it's shoulder and be able to toss it away...Amen!


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Sandy Frost 4 years ago from India

Yes Ruchira, fleeing away from fear always leaves few more problems behind rather than solving a situation. Instead of being a timid, one must dare to cope with fear as the essence of this hub is saying. Motivational and great work!! Thanks.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Sandy,

I agree...fleeing from problems makes us shield from it and we are never able to come face to face with it.

thank you for your vote of confidence. Wishing you a fear free life, friend!


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AudreyHowitt 4 years ago from California

Brava Ruchira! Fear helps nothing! Such a wonderful viewpoint---


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Audrey,

Thank you for your support and vote on the above. Yes, Fear is a big stone, which never gets small IF not kicked...lol

Thanks for stopping by!


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Peggy W 4 years ago from Houston, Texas

When I was working in the operating room as a nurse, my dad used to wonder how I could be afraid of bugs when I saw blood and guts all day long. Totally different think in my opinion. That is a controlled situation whereas the bugs come out of seemingly nowhere and scurry or fly across a room unexpectedly.

A few times I have been surprised by seeing a garden snake in our yard and I gave a little shriek and backed up in haste. While they can be pretty and I know that they are good...I would just as soon they live elsewhere. Besides, I don't want to stick around long enough to determine if they are harmless or poisonous. Ha!

I think everyone has fears of some sort, and you are very philosophical in how you approach them. This hub is voted up and useful.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Thanks Peggy. Yup, to be aware of one's fears helps us overcome it EVENTUALLY :)

Good luck in yours, my friend!

Cheers!


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rajan jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

Fear or any other emotion is omnipresent. However, instead of letting them be in the drivers' seat one should be in control. This is what life is all about, getting the better of emotions that do us more harm than good.

Excellent write, Ruchira.

Voted up. Shared.


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Taleb80 4 years ago

Ruchira

Wise words have been used by intelligent writer.

Thanks for sharing this approach.

"Don't keep the fear near, my dear."


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Vellur 4 years ago from Dubai

I guess we all have our fears, we should overcome. Fear should not rule our lives, we should conquer them and get on. Easily said than done!! Great hub.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Yes, Rajan. Fear is omnipresent but present in our hearts in some way or the other. It's the mind set which is needed.

thanks for stopping by with your valuable feed. Always a pleasure to hear such treasured words.

thank you taleb8o for your appreciation and stopping by.

Well said indeed, Vellur. Fear should not run our lives. Thank you!


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Nyamache 4 years ago from Kenya

“Fear is the mind-killer.” As a matter of fact fear of failing hinders a person many opportunities in life. It hinders success. Our hearts needs us to trick them with words of courage. Once we trick the heart then we have the courage to face our fears. The way of overcoming fear is to do what you fearing about. This hub is very useful.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

well said, nyamache.

good to meet you :) thanks for stopping by with your valuable feed.


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midget38 4 years ago from Singapore

My pet fear was darkness when I was younger. had to sleep with a light on. Thanks for the tips to over come fear, Ruchira! sharing!

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