A true story: Is Santa Claus Real?

This is a true story and was featured on the Hubpage's home page the week of 12/18/10:

After two years of suspicions the young boy demanded answers from his parents. “Do you go to the store and buy presents on Christmas Eve? Tell me the truth.” It was one of those moments that you will never forget. Suddenly we were confronted with the idea of our lies. Lies that were intended to bring joy, yet they now threatened to erode a measure of trust that is built between a parent and a child. “What do you think we do?” We were grasping at straws in a sad, but futile attempt to prolong the wonderful fantasy. “I think you go to the store.” With a silent look into each others' eyes we knew the time had come: “Once, long ago, there was a kind man, who helped bring happiness to all the children. But he is now in heaven.” The big blue eyes started to moisten. His face began to fall and the shroud of disappointment and sadness was enveloping the innocent one. “We have all maintained the tradition of Santa Claus by buying presents for each other.” He was confused: “But, what about the elves? Are they dead?” This was getting tough: “We aren’t sure about the elves anymore. We think there may be some still alive, but we have never seen them.” Now for the final confirmation: “What about the flying reindeer?” We could feel our own childhood as these questions were being raised. We had viewed the old-time Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer video earlier in the evening. The tears were now being shared: “There are reindeer in the world, but they do not fly. We’ve never seen a reindeer fly.” Silence….. Then this: “I’m going to tell all my friends tomorrow at school about this.” “NO! Please do not do that. Your silence will be the best course. Let each child learn the truth in his or her own way. Remember son, Christmas will still come. We still have love in our hearts and giving is now, more than ever, very important. But we have a way to keep Santa Claus’ spirit alive.” We had a paper ornament from the Christmas tree at work inscribed with the name of a poor Hispanic youth facing a bleak Christmas. He wanted a Lego pack, or maybe a Spiderman doll. We gave the ornament to our son: “Son, we’re going to be Santa Clause for this young boy. That’s the whole point.” Our son then said: “I want to go with you to the store and help buy the present.” Santa died and was resurrected all on the same day, as it happens every year.

Note: This story was featured on the Hubpages home page in the slide show section the week of 12/18/10.

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dahoglund 6 years ago from Wisconsin Rapids

It seems thst we just gradually came to disbelieve. I remember kids discussed how Santa could be in so many different places at the same time, the store , street corner etc. I don't hink we made any attempt to perpetuate the myth with our own kids.


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

We made the decision to "perpetuate the myth" and it all worked out.. the scene I described above was real...


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Petra Vlah 6 years ago from Los Angeles

We are the Santa of the world and could make Christmas a reality if we choose to give love to others every day of the year.


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vrbmft 6 years ago from Yucaipa, California

Santa must have been with you to walk you thru that delicate moment. I am impressed.

I love the Polar Express and the bell that you can only hear if you believe.

I still believe in Santa Claus and for a few years now, I have sat out in the spa waiting for his arrival. I am not living at "home" any longer, but this year I will be with my sisters and I am sure we will find a way to wait for Santa.

For several years, I have been telling people that I am not sure about Santa Claus but I have no explanation for the reindeer poop on my roof every Christmas morning and that usually makes them look at me with "What?"

I love Santa.

THANKS FOR THE AWESOME STORY

Vern


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

So true Petra... that is what I hope my son took away from that day... he continues to hear the message from me.


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Thanks Vern,

I think I believe too... the whole thing is so full of sentiment and nostalgia that I was a bit shocked at how it hit me as we explained it to him.... that story was as it happened...


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Jean Bakula 6 years ago from New Jersey

Our son is grown now, but we were discussing the "myth" and why people still perpetuate it. As parents, we did the same as you, and it was a beautiful and magical time of year. But it still can be once the kids figure out the truth. Just as your son became a "Santa" to someone, other people's kids do the same. It really is better to give than receive, and getting involved in making another's Christmas a joyful one is really fun! Great hub!


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Thank you for commenting Jean,

My son actually reverted back to believing for a couple more years after this happened. I think he just loved the whole season and wanted to go with it. Plus I think he was hedging his bets!

I know there are differing opinions about this (telling the truth or playing the myth) but it seems to have worked out for us...


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CoauthorU 6 years ago from Inland Northwest, USA

Thank you for the Hub...

The subject is a hard one for me, as a kid... my nose did not grow with every lie I spoke and so I was prolific at it.

My parents, God bless them, in an obvious effort to curb my aptitude emphasized the importance of truth and importance of honesty.

Then I found out the truth about Santa and nearly everything went out the window.

Because of Jesus healing me of this lie-coin (from both sides of it, mine and their's) I bear my parents no malice but I also refuse to lie about Santa.

Your Hub has blessed me with more healing thank you.


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Thank you for commenting coauthorU... I'm 52 and I grew up believing in Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy... it just seemed like a normal right of passage to believe then find out later... I went along with it with my children. I guess I have a relaxed view about what I would call a "fun" lie. I am very strong on telling the truth and my son has been caught in some lies. I don't know if the Santa Claus thing is to blame but it's too late to change now.

As I said before I know there is some controversy and they even made a great movie about it: "Miracle on 34th Street" (I like the old black and white with Maureen O'Sullivan or is it O'Hara?). I can't sit here and say a lie is ok. Intellectually it doesn't add up but emotionally I guess we enjoyed seeing him creep down the stairs with that look of wonder on his face to see what Santa left....

Today he understands what we do (give to others) and he's a part of that....


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unBroken1 6 years ago from Florida

Good hub. Well written.

I'm very lucky. My 7 yr old daughter will not have to go through the loss of Santa in the traditional form.

My father is a professional Santa(yeah, I know that sounds funny). But in my family, my Dad or Grandpa to the kids, is Santa. He is also Santa at Henry Ford museum in Detroit and several other places too.

The traditon will pass down to one of my brothers when the time comes. See...my father wasn't our first Santa in the family. We were raised with my Grandpa being Santa. And from what I understand, his father before him was also Santa.

In my family Santa lives.


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Sa`ge 5 years ago from Barefoot Island

Thank you for your beautiful true story, it was so wonderful and heartfelt.

The way my life wears, I rarely have enough cash flow on Christmas (hate credit debt)to do much for far too many. I give during the year. If i see something I know someone can use or wants and I can get it,I do, then send to them. I do not even save it for Christmas. No, cards is what gets sent for Christmas. Cards is what is gotten, from me, on Christmas. Gifts are for all year long to be given. and many times it is only love that can be given! Love is the true gift on Christmas as is all year round to be given. This has been proven.

Peace and love to all this Holiday season and all year round, all year round to you and yours... Danced across your buttons and voted high in the sky. :D hugs :D


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Nayothara 5 years ago

There are three stages of man: He believes in Santa Claus; he doesn’t believe in Santa Claus; he is Santa Claus. !!!!

Christmas is a family day!

AWESOME!


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@unBroken - that is so cool! A different way to celebrate Christmas but all so real too!

@Sa'ge - thank you for the nice comments... it's hard to find extra money to give but even a couple of toys for one child is good enough. It's not how much you give but thta you give all you can.

@Nayo - thank you and I like that... you can be Santa too!


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adagio4639 5 years ago from Brattleboro Vermont

Really great story Poet. I enjoyed it. Santa is a way that we personalize the spirit of giving. He makes it real for people. Especially for the very young.


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Thank you adagio... life goes on and it was sad to pass this milestone... that same boy declined to go trick or treating this year instead electing to hand out candy at the door...


scriber1 5 years ago

Yes, SP....there is a Santa Claus -- because as with all things that requires belief, there must at times be a suspension of that belief, or the message is confronted by the myth -- and thus serving no one. Thanks for sharing the growth of your child through the eyes of a greater wisdom.


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

scriber1,

I think the giving associated with Christmas is the underlying story and if believing in Santa Claus for a time in our youth spurs us on to give later as adults then I think there has been no harm done. Look at how sane, rational and together I am! Ha!!!


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kashmir56 5 years ago from Massachusetts

Poet awesome story,thanks i enjoyed reading it,loved the ending the best!

Thumbs up hub!!!


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Just Ask Susan 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

Thanks for sharing this story. I really enjoyed it! Merry Christmas.


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Kaie Arwen 5 years ago

Santa is a feeling and an emotion; his legend is one of giving........... and yes, he's real. I'd like to think we all have a bit of Santa in us somewhere. Giving doesn't necessarily mean money, gifts, or things........... it means giving of ourselves. Kaie


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@kashmir - thank you. It worked perfectly. The timing couldn't have been better and it flowed like I had envisioned. I knew that moment was upon us because he had been making noises about it earlier in the year but this time he forced the issue.


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Thank you Susan... it was a great moment to share with everyone...


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Thank you Kaie... I agree with you and that is why I don't mind perpetuating the myth with children... yes giving can be so much more than just a toy... attention is very important and I've been learning that lately with my step mother who just blossoms when I give her my time...


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Oliwia 5 years ago from New York

Great story! My kids found The official North Pole Sleight License under the tree, and it worked too :)


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Thank you Oliwia... that's awesome! Great idea... we always left cookies and milk and I'd take a bite or two out of them and leave them there and then explain that he didn't eat all of it because kids all over the world were leaving him snacks and he didn't want to get too full....


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fred allen 5 years ago from Myrtle Beach SC

I remember finding out through kids at school. It didn't change anything about the season for me. I think even young children can process things better than most give them credit for. Even when faced with Santa not being real, I never questioned the reality of God.

Glad you wrote this, glad I read it.


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Thanks for stopping by Fred... I think children are definitely more resilient than they are given credit for and this is a fun thing to get over. Certainly it's all in fun and the world fantasizes about so much anyway. I don't see the harm... It seemed a little much when we went through it but later he told me he was ok with it...


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AliciaC 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

My parents must have told me at a very young age that Santa Claus wasn’t real, because in my childhood I always enjoyed the thought of Santa Claus at Christmas while at the same time knowing that he didn’t really exist. I love the way your son responded to the idea of acting as Santa Claus for someone else.


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Thank you Alicia... he liked the idea of being Santa Claus....


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gramarye 5 years ago from Adelaide - Australia

I still like to believe.

Just to share though:

In my local paper today there is an article about a new book by Dr Joanne Faulkner called "The Importance of Being Innocent" in which the author advocates telling the truth so that children can understand the difference between reality and imagination. She also raises the issue that children may feel that their parents have lied to them.


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stephhicks68 5 years ago from Bend, Oregon

So sad! My (now) 13 year old son - the oldest - wanted desperately to continue believing even up to 2 years ago when his eyes filled with tears when I said something about *wink* *wink* Santa Claus. My 7-year old twins... the youngest.... are probably enjoying the last year believing.


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Loren's Gem 5 years ago from Istanbul, Turkey

Great hub! I'm impressed of the way you're exlaining the disappointing reality to your son - and of the way you write your family story.

I have a 3-year-old who's just starting to live with the traditional myth of Sta.Claus (we call him "Noel Baba" in Turkish) - the modern day metamorphosis of St. Nicholas who was born and buried in the town of Demre, Turkey.

Thanks for sharing your story. Rated it and voted it up! :-)


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carrie450 5 years ago from Winnipeg, Canada

Such a beautiful heartwarming story many parents can relate to. thanks


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DzyMsLizzy 5 years ago from Oakley, CA

I remember that moment from my own childhood, and did not want my children to suffer that horrible let down. Yet, I did not want them to be the non-believing brats that spoiled things for other kids.

Therefore, I handled it by teaching them that Santa Claus was a fun game everyone plays at that time of year. They got to go visit "santas" at various times, received gifts 'from santa,' had all the fun of it with none of the let-down, and gave it up on their own when they were ready to do so.

Yet, as many have pointed out, and as I also taught them, the 'real santa' is in the spirit of giving and thankfulness.


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RNMSN 5 years ago from Tucson, Az

oh Suburban Poet how wonderful! You and your wife are exceptional parents!! How wonderful/I cannot tell you how much this hub touched me...My hubby and I had to also "finally" tell the truth and did it with both the version from the book of Matthew and the version from Germany...and added that it is love we give and receive..

that was OK but I wish I had had your words 25 yrs ago :) so much better than mine!!

you rock!!!!

voted way up!!!


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edelhaus 5 years ago from Munich, Germany

oh, that is beautiful! voted up.


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

To all who post to this hub - thank you so much for commenting and it's nice to see so many people thinking as I do on this subject....

Specifically to Garmarye - I hear you but obviously the choice was made to play the game... so far so good with the kids and we'll see if there are any latent effects.


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Denise Handlon 5 years ago from North Carolina

I caught this from one of the featured stories and had to follow it up. OMG, I remember the moment that my oldest asked this very question and how I struggled to do the right thing-say the right thing. And, in the end, as she sat crying with the truth, regretting ever saying ANYTHING. HOw your story ended was similar to how my experience was. I elicited my daughter's help in keeping the secret for her little sister and sharing the Santa fun with us grownups. Thanks for bringing this memory out of my mind's closet. :)


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Thank you Denise... it seems silly with all the worlds problems to make a big deal out of this fairy tale but to me it's an emotional powerhouse because we know how cynical the world is and this is just another in a series of blows to the idea of true innocence. I figured most parents experienced this sort of thing. I was shocked at how it hit me and realized how sentimental and nostalgic I really was as a person.


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Denise Handlon 5 years ago from North Carolina

Well put, SP. I related this to my daughter this morning during a phone conversation and she told me that my other daughter is now struggling with this problem with her oldest. That would be my 10 yo granddaughter and that also was about the age my oldest was when the cat came out of the bag.


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Denise,

It's an interesting time when the "to tell or not to tell" time arrives. I think my six-year old is sensing something but at the same time she has four drafts of her letter to Santa Claus! I'm feeling guilty now because I know the truth but she is so into it... tell your daughter that it will be ok... in the end I think my son actually enjoyed being in the know. It made him feel like he was in on a secret and it meant he was more mature. So his ego helped in that regard.


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Tammy L 5 years ago from Jacksonville, Texas

Very touching hub about your son's acceptance of the "myth". My mom never taught her children to believe in Santa. She believed the main person for Christmas was Jesus Christ.

My oldest sister, however, did go to extremes to play the Santa myth for her children. She bought a Santa suit for my dad to wear each year. He would always have to hide his right hand since he has lost all his fingers above the second knuckle many years before. My sister's children knew that PawPaw didn't have fingers on his right hand. She made the mistake of video taping the show one year. My dad inadvertently showed his right hand to the camera. My sister played the video back for me some months later when her oldest daughter (maybe seven at the time) saw the video. Her immediate question, "Why is PawPaw dressed up like Santa Claus?" My sister decided to keep the story going until her daughter was a little older.


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

I would think it's an eternal debate for Christians: Jesus' birth versus Santa Claus. At a minimum the children need to be taught that giving is the whole point but receiving as you know becomes the entire focus. that is an interesting story about your sister and your Dad. I've never gone to that extent; mainly it's been early to bed and ensuring total secrecy when "Santa's gifts" were laid out unwrapped under the tree....


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mom101 5 years ago

Thank you for sharing such a tender moment with us.

My son, now 17, and I were talking yesterday about this same thing. He and I have been on our own for the past 7 years and he KNOWS that noone comes down the chimney and all but I was EXTREMELY shocked as what he said to me. But mom, I do believe in Santa Claus, do you not?

In the time that he and I became just us, both of my parents hsve passed away. They were a huge part of his life, and he dearly misses them. It has become the norm that we have to wait until after Christmas to have our "christmas" but he has always went a day or two before Christmas and bought a couple of stockings and filled them with candy, fruit, a few little hot wheels, etc and took them and hung them on mailboxes of where he thinks need a visit from santa. It was his idea. This is my last Christmas with him before he becomes an official adult, but he will always be my baby.

Hope you and your family will have a very Blessed Christmas.


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Thank you Mom... it has been a true blessing to pull this out of the archives and to see the responses... it is such a part of our consciousness and it is heart-warming to read about your relationship with your son. Thanks again and right back at you for a Blessed Christmas...


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Denise Handlon 5 years ago from North Carolina

Hi SP--loved your response to my comment. Yes, my daughter is no longer traumatized and we actually chatted about that today. She has two toddlers now (3 & 2) and I will be fortunate to share Christmas morning with them. I'm very excited.


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Denise,

That sounds great and I hope your family has a wonderful day... Yesterday I watched "Miracle on 34th Street" with my Dad and I believe all over again!


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ACSutliff 5 years ago

Great Story! This was a precious moment. Congratulations on getting on the home page. Thanks for introducing yourself by following me!


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@ACSutliff - thank you! It was a moment I will never forget...


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fiksy02 5 years ago from London

this is very tourching. its a painful moment when we loose our childhood innocence but that day do come slowly for every child.


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@fiksy - thank you. yes it is a painful moment when we move from innocence to knowledge (cynicism?). I hate seeing my kids grow up... I wish they could remain as they are now but I have high hopes that they will be as wonderful as adults as they are as children...


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dusy7969 5 years ago from San Diego, California

When you're learning about something new, it's easy to feel overwhelmed by the sheer amount of relevant information available. This informative article should help you focus on the central points.


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@dusy - thank you again for commenting. We tried to shift his focus from self to helping others. He has grown to be an empathetic teenager but we all struggle with selfisness at times....


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swedal 5 years ago from Colorado

Our daughter is 13 and she kindly lets us believe that she still believes in Santa...


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@swedal - thank you for commenting. My now 14-year old son still loves the holiday and doesn't say much about Santa Claus being real or not. It's just a lot of fun so we all go with it....


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MysteryPlanet 5 years ago

Hello Urban Poet! I like this story, we don't teach our children that Santa is real but we still have a lot of fun with all the Christmas stuff


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@MysteryPlanet - I don't know that we "teach" them that Santa is real. I think it's more we go along with it.... my son enjoyed it as does my daughter. He told me that he's glad we did it and he doesn't think we're a couple of liars for playing along with the game... thanks for commenting....


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DRG Da Real Grinc 5 years ago from All over the USA

When I was young I was skeptical and whenever I would see a Santa Claus my duty to pull a bear or something of that nature. I feel it's good for the kids and the story telling that comes with it. Good Hub.


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@DRG Da Real Grinc - Thank you for commenting. My son believe for a while. No doubt about it. Same with my daughter. The story worked for my family and it's fun. It brought us all close.


stessily 5 years ago

Suburban Poet: This short story has a beautiful symmetry to it, starting out with a question based on a suspicion tugging at your son's heart and closing the circle with your son as the new Santa.

I love to watch "Miracle on 34th Street" with Maureen O'Hara every Christmas. She always seemed so real and clear in her characters.

Thanks for the memories.


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@stessily - Thank you! This one of course is right in my heart because I was there... I'll be watching that movie AGAIN this year because it's just so "holidayee" and gets me in the mood....


Joleen 4 years ago

I love the Poler Experes and i do believe in Santa Cluas becuas every year i here him and his sligh!!!!!


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The Suburban Poet 4 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Hi Joleen. It's been so long since I've to Colorado Springs. I have great memories. I'm glad you believe! Long live Santa!


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moonlake 4 years ago from America

Our children believed in Santa but they mostly believed Christmas was the celebration of the birth of Jesus.

I can't remember them asking about Santa I think they just figured it out on their own. I know I did I never ask my parents about it. I think you handled it just fine with your son.


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The Suburban Poet 4 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@moonlake - Thank you for commenting. This was an emotional moment that I will never forget. That young boy is now 15 years old and he doesn't even recall the conversation. I asked him if he minded the "lie" and he said it was fun... it doesn't impact the rest of his life. Make believe is part of life as long as we are healthy about it then it can be managed.


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Daisy Mariposa 4 years ago from Orange County (Southern California)

Mark,

What a beautiful story! Thank you for sharing it with us.


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The Suburban Poet 4 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Thank you Daisy and thank you for highlighting it on FB. He's 16 now and has a deep voice... but my daughter, who's eight, still believes... sorta... she still has that paranoia that it will all end if she admits it's not true...


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Vellur 4 years ago from Dubai

Beautiful, simply beautiful !!! Voted up.


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The Suburban Poet 4 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Thank you Vellur!

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