For Men - Art of Shopping for a Woman

Art of Shopping for Women

How does a man know what Christmas gifts to get his wife that she will love? Here we are again in the holiday season with the smell of evergreen in the air and delicious aromas in the home from all the cooking. It is typically a happy time of year. The art of shopping for women isn't that difficult if you learn what a few phrases really mean. You want to be wise in your choices, as your holidays will be much happier.

Gifts Under the Christmas Tree

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If she doesn't tell you, what are your choices?

For instance, if you wife says she doesn't need anything, she is really saying get me a gift. Often she is just not going to tell you specifically what she wants, so you men have to be a little wiser. Is this fair? Of course not, but it doesn't have to be a big deal either.

Think about buying her a service that she typically doesn't buy for herself, such as a day at the spa, a good massage or manicure. A gift card at her favorite store with a nice balance of at least $50 would probably be acceptable to many women. Anything that will pamper her will probably please her. Perfume can be a good gift if you happen to know of one she likes. It should be a good quality perfume. Of course, everyone is different, and there are no guarantees in this guessing game.

Gift Ideas

Maybe your significant other might say, “I want something for the house.” This translates to I want something for the house that I don’t have to operate and cuts down on my chores.

A I Robot Roomba is a good choice as no woman I know likes to vacuum. This little robot runs all over the house and vacuums everything, under furniture if it is high enough off the ground and so forth. The only thing you have to do is clean it when it is finished.

You could also hire someone to clean the house for the next month which will probably be a hit, especially if you have young children that require a lot of attention.

Another thing she might like is some of her favorite photos blown up and framed. You could even get them done in black and white for a different look.

It is hard to go wrong with jewelry. Ask her mother or best friend to help you choose something they know she will like if you are having trouble deciding.

One time my father got my mother flowers that were delivered once a month for a whole year. He got a lot of mileage out of that thoughtful gift.

Homemade Gifts

If she says she want you to make her something, and you are handy around the house, then you can probably come up with something clever, as she has probably mentioned this item in the past.

Other ideas include involving the children. You can take them to a local pottery shop and let them paint a flower on a plate or vase or get there little hand prints done on a plate. This is a treasure she will keep forever. You can also use pictures from a photo album, male copies, form a collage and make a place mat collage. You will have to get it laminated.

If your honey says I want something from the heart, this is a request you don’t want to mess up as she sure doesn't mean a new electric mixer.

You could book a romantic weekend getaway, maybe a bed and breakfast or rent a place on the ocean. This is a “from the heart gift. Another idea is to get a piece of her jewelry engraved or buy something new with engraving. If you use a piece she already owns she may go a little nuts looking for that piece, but in the end she will be delighted and you can enjoy her frustration as she searches for the missing piece.

"If You Just Started Dating Advice"

If you have just started dating this person she will probably say get me something small; she is really saying this is your first chance to impress me. You don’t want to get a gift that is too expensive as that will give her the idea you are trying to move the relationship too fast.

A simple piece of jewelry would work. I would suggest not buying a ring because that would probably give her the wring idea unless you are ready to jump in with both feet. Bath products are a nice gift (more than a bar of soap). Try a little gift basket with a nice scent. Also a book for an I Pad or Kindle if she has one, or music for an I Pod is another idea.

Buying the Perfect Gift for Women

Now there are some gifts to avoid all together:

  • candy
  • pets, unless she requests one
  • large stuffed animals (those are for children)
  • sexy lingerie as that tends to be a gift for you instead of her

Beware of the Doghouse- Hilarious!

In Conclusion

If you listen to your wife or sweetheart, which I know is not always easy; she will probably give you some not so subtle hints. Getting you wife a Christmas gift she really wants is important. She may mention something she has been wanting for a long time or just hint around, but women for whatever reason don’t always ask directly. Others may make you a list, as they are all different. Have fun and enjoy your holidays.

© 2010 Pamela Oglesby

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Adrienne Petersen profile image

Adrienne Petersen 6 years ago from USA

The best way to find out a great gift to buy for a woman is to ask her best friend!


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eovery 6 years ago from MIddle of the Boondocks of Iowa

My wife makes a list for me, so I can't be in the doghouse, or wait, meybe I am in the doghouse and she is tired of my goofing up.

Keep on hubbing!


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

Adrienne, That is true. Thanks for your comment.

Eovery, Your wife sounds clever to me. Thanks for the comment.


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K9keystrokes 6 years ago from Northern, California

Awesome suggestions Pam. It must be a very difficult task to decipher the female mind for a guy.

You make yourself a guys best friend here! The nail gets hit right on the head when you make it clear that, "For instance, if your wife says she does’t need anything, she is really saying get me a gift". As women, we just want to know you gave it a little thought and tried to do the right thing. Super job here Pam.


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rpalulis 6 years ago from NY

Thank you, thank you, thank you! Lots of great advice here.


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anglnwu 6 years ago

Wow, how did you know all these?--probably 'cos you're a woman--you're right on on each one.I couldn't help smiling--good advice and I'm sure the men will thank you for that. Rated useful.


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

K9keystorkes, I'm glad you liked the hub. It is funny how there is so much truth in those statements but it I also wrote it for a little fun on the holidays. I hope it helps some men figure out what to get for their wives. Thanks for the comments.

rpalulis, I am glad you appreciate the hub. Thanks for your comments.

Anginwu, I do think women somehow want the man to figure out what would really make her happy but often they don't just spell it out. It was fun to write this hub however as I have acted that way in the past on some occasions. We all need to be able to laugh at ourselves. Thanks for your comments.


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Peggy W 6 years ago from Houston, Texas

That video was hilarious. Still laughing. Funny hub!


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

Peggy, I'm glad you enjoyed the hub. I appreciate the comment.


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oceansnsunsets 6 years ago from The Midwest, USA

Great ideas Pamela for women from men. The ideas including children are really sweet and fun.


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brandrocker 6 years ago

Awesome hub... I just wonder what really goes in the mind of beautiful ladies... when they say no, it may be a big big yes! Enjoyed!


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

oceansnsunsets, Thanks so much for your comments. I'm glad you enjoyed the hub.

brandrocker, Yes, that is a possibility but beware as you can't be sure. Thanks for your comment.


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JY3502 6 years ago from Florence, South Carolina

Make sure you don't get your wife the same thing you got your girlfriend...LOL


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

JY, You really know how to get in trouble! :} You're secret is out. Thanks for your comment.


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akirchner 6 years ago from Central Oregon

Bob bought me a set of cookbooks for our first Christmas together and he also bought me towels. We had a little talk about that and luckily, he figured it out. I still have the cookbooks and on thinking about it afterwards, I thought 'ya know - that was really a thoughtful gift'! Hope a lot of men read this, Pamela!


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

Audry, I think men want to please there wives most of the time but don't always know how. It would be good if women would be clear about what they want for a gift. Thanks for your comment. Happy Thanksgiving.


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Darlene Sabella 6 years ago from Hello, my name is Toast and Jam, I live in the forest with my dog named Sam ...

Great hub Pamela, I love these ideas and your gifts are brilliant, so now I must send this to every guy I know LOL really thank you for this awesome advise and info...I rate this up up up love darski


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

Darlene, my friend, I am glad you enjoyed this hub and yes spread the knowledge to the men. Thanks for your comment.


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Hello, hello, 6 years ago from London, UK

When did you take that picture of me? Why are men so boneidle to think and bother to get the right gift. Great hub. Well written.


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

Hello, I got that picture when you were working hard. Thanks so much for your comments.


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daydreamer13 6 years ago

I found this amusing! Great hub!


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

daydreamer, I wanted it to be a little amusing and still have some good ideas. Thanks so much for your comment.


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Support Med. 5 years ago from Michigan

Love how you added 'smart men' in the title. Right, from the heart does not mean an electrical appliance/gadget. "Smart Men!!!" Voted and rated.


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Pamela99 5 years ago from United States Author

Support Med, I believe men need instruction as to what is the appropriate gift for a woman. There's very few men who know what to get their wife or girlfriend unless we communicate what we want. Thanks so much for your comments.

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