Forty and Sporty? Birthday Milestones: the Big 4-0

Yesterday was the day. The Big 4-0. I guess that means that I am officially over the hill.

I took a good look at myself in the mirror. Do I look 40? What exactly does 40 look like anyway? 40 is the new 30, right? Ugh, I wasn’t so crazy about 30 either!

I really, really hate my birthday.

I don’t mind other people’s birthdays. I like to make my kids feel special all week when theirs comes around. Oddly enough all three of my children are born in the same month, so we just have a birthday March-Madness month at our house. I enjoy my husband’s birthday, even though it often interferes with Mother’s Day. I give all my FaceBook friends birthday greetings when I see it’s their birthday on my home page. It’s just my own birthday that rubs me the wrong way.

10-Year Goals

In the next ten years... I would like to:

  • Be out of debt
  • Be a published author

I'm pretty sure these are the same goals I set at 30!

Getting Older

Maybe I just don’t like getting older. Why is that? Why is it that I spent all of my childhood longing to be an adult and most of my adulthood trying to hang on to youth?

Thirty was a tough one for me ten years ago. At the beginning of the same year I was to turn 30 I went into this major exercise/health kick. Thirty just seemed so grown-up! Even though I was a wife and a mother of three I just didn’t feel… grown up.

Once the big 3-0 hit, I sat down at my dining room table and thought about my life. I realized that I had accomplished all the life goals that I had originally set for myself. I had graduated from college, I had gotten married, and I was a mother of three beautiful children. While I was proud of my accomplishments, I knew there was more. I needed to set more goals and I looked at how I wanted my life to be ten years later.

Now here we are, ten years later. Where has the time gone? So much has happened, so much has changed, yet so much has stayed the same. Forty seems like such a grown up age, and yet I still don’t feel grown up! Even though I’m still a wife and a mother of three growing kids, inside I still feel like a kid myself.

Mentally I try and recall all of the goals I set for myself ten years ago. I’m sure I wrote them down, I’m a writer for heaven’s sake, but I have no clue where on earth I would find them. The thought of going through the mountain of journals in the closet is tempting, but I think I’ll pass. Memory lane is an all day journey. But deep down, I remember. I know what those goals were and I know I haven’t met them all. Perhaps that’s what’s bothering me the most.

Milestones

All birthdays serve as milestones. Milestones in our lives help us see where we’ve been and cause us to look ahead to where we are going. The big birthdays, the ones ending in 0 really do have special significance. They are the entrance into another decade, another phase, another set of opportunities to shape the next several milestones.

I realize now that I am not exactly where I wanted to be when I envisioned my life ten years ago. I may not have done all that I set out to accomplish by forty, but that’s okay. I still have another ten years until the next decade comes around, right?

So, back to the mirror. Do I look 40? Hmmm… if this is what 40 looks like, then fine. I look 40.

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Pamela99 5 years ago from United States

Happy Birthday Lisa! No, you don't look. It's great that you met your main life goals by 30 and I'm sure over the years you will set more goals for yourself but maybe not such big goals. Great hub.


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lisabeaman 5 years ago from Phoenix, AZ Author

Thanks Pam! You're so sweet! I always appreciate your encouragement! Thanks for reading :)


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miss_jkim 5 years ago

This is a great hub! We all face those birthdays "after 30" a little differently than we did the pre-30 birthdays. I once heard a great saying; "Age is simply mind over matter; If you don't mind, it doesn’t matter." Happy Birthday - Life begins at 40!


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lisabeaman 5 years ago from Phoenix, AZ Author

Thanks for the comment Miss JKim! If life begins at 40... I'm ready to get started!


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Sally's Trove 5 years ago from Southeastern Pennsylvania

This was a delightful introspection to read, Lisa. You reminded me of what my cousin's husband did to her when she turned 40. You know those diesel-powered signs that get pulled around on trailers behind pick-up trucks, the ones with flashing lights and a display board? Well, Larry set one of those up outside their house in the middle of the night, and at dawn he cranked the thing up. It said "Lordy, Lordy, Linda's Forty!"

The good news for him is that she's a good person and didn't shoot him dead on the spot.

Best to take this aging with a sense of humor, and with sharing wonderful reflections, such as yours.

You're not there at the 5 0 mark yet, but maybe you'd like to "Like" and join us on Facebook to see the beauty that comes with age:

http://www.facebook.com/notsooldbroads

I think you are definitely going to be "nifty fifty".

Thanks for a great read! Up and awesome.


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lisabeaman 5 years ago from Phoenix, AZ Author

Thanks Sally! I'm really glad I'm not married to Linda's husband... or I would surely be a widow! I will definitely check out your facebook page! Thanks for sharing :)


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Ms Chievous 5 years ago from Wv

Happy Belated birthday! A great Hub!


ExoticHippieQueen 5 years ago

Lisa, 30 was a hard birthday for me, too. Someone being in your 20's meant you were still a kid, regardless of whether your were married, a mom or whatever. 30 was serious,and I was very depressed. 40 didn't get any better. 50 was a REAL slap in the face, and well I won't go on because I don't want to reveal my exact age, lol. Any way, it was a very well-written hub, you don't look 40 at all, and just enjoy every day, as it goes by VERY fast to the next decade!


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lisabeaman 5 years ago from Phoenix, AZ Author

Thanks Ms Chievous and ExoticHippieQueen! You both have incredible usernames! :) I appreciate the comments and the encouragement. I just wish there was a way to slow down that clock!


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homebaker23 5 years ago from Philippines

Great hub! I'm 44 already but I really don't feel it or maybe I'm just afraid to face the truth that six more years I'm nifty fifty. Anyway, we should all be thankful when we reach another year of our life. The more we become older the more we have to celebrate because our life has been extended. And it is indeed a blessing...


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lisabeaman 5 years ago from Phoenix, AZ Author

Thanks Homebaker! You're absolutely right! We are blessed with each year. Besides the only alternative to aging is dying... bring on the birthdays!

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