Honoring Spiritual Mothers and Mentors on Mother's Day

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What Is A Mother? What Is An Appropriate Honor?

Mother's Day is a longtime holiday and I enjoy hearing about families in which three or four generations celebrate the day of honor with moms to grandmoms3 all in attendance. These ladies are appreciated with gifts, poetry, good food, music recitals, skits, and a good rest from household chores. The rest from daily chores may be the best part, since some married women who are stay-at-home moms feel that they will have the same workload until the day they are buried.

They feel this is injustice, adding the fact that older wives sometimes testify that retired husbands will not help them at home. The thought of cooking three full meals seven days a week and doing laundry for two at the age of 85 is not pretty. So, perhaps it should me Mother's Week and a real vacation once a year.

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A Mother Pours Herself Into Her Children

I am highlighting all this, because of one family I knew. The parents in their early 40s had three middle-school aged children that the husband insisted his wife homeschool. Family vacations consisted of traveling to vacation cabins with kitchens and laundries, where she had the same duties as at home, including homeschooling - not much of a vacation for her or the kids.

I have no idea how that story ended. In another family with similar experiences, the mom packed up and left after the last of the three children went off to college one autumn. She enrolled in college herself, a few hundred miles away.

In a different family structure, how about single dads that are both father and mother to their children, and the aunts that help the family? These men often work full-time with help of childcare, and come home to take on all the family chores, just as do single moms.

All these men and aunts can be honored on Mother's Day and I think a lot of such families celebrate in in their own ways, doing the chores and taking dads and aunts to dinner. We might even want to name an Aunts and Uncles Day.

Mothers In America

I think Mother's Day is not only for mothers, but for anyone raising and mentoring children. These people can be honored in a way that does not detract from Mom and Grandmother on their dedicated holiday.

Have any here benefited from the love and wisdom of a woman that was not his or her mother or grandmother and did you say, "Thank you" ? Many have done so in a number of ways. And how about your single Dad or single Grandad that raised some readers? The single grandfather is one parent that is not often spotlighted and Mother's Day and/or Father's Day are inviting opportunities for thanks.

So what is a mother? Some individuals act as a mother to children and youth, but are not recognized; and the kids sometimes forget to say thanks. Some women spiritual mothers of the faith community, or advocates and mentors in their states, the country, academic disciplines such as fine arts or music (Leontyne Price).

We also have historical mothers and grandmothers - direct ancestors, also the first settlers of America - Native American, Spanish, African, French, Cajun, English, Dutch, Italian, Viking, and all the rest. Next are the pioneer women helped settle the American West and the next wave of immigrants to build a life here: Italian, Irish, Scottish, Welsh, Russian, Ukrainian, and more.

We have mothers of Industry, Science, and Medicine: Lillian Gilbreth, who was celebrated in Cheaper by the Dozen. Madame Curie, Sister Kenny of Australia. Teachers and college instructors and professors can mean a lot to students in terms of education, mentoring and friendship. In some towns, women pastors and Sunday School teachers are a mainstay.

Which of all these people is not our mother in some way? The more I study the world, the more of them I find.

First Person Story

"Janet needed a spiritual mother, someone who would "train the younger women to love their husbands and children..."


Ways to Celebrate

As mentioned above, a celebration of mentors and spiritual moms and grandmas need not interfere with the attention deserved by Mom on Mothers Day. Some churches hold a celebration service that morning, providing corsages to all moms, grandmoms, aunts, stepmoms, caregivers, nannies, babysitters, the church childcare workers, female mentors, teachers, coaches, female pastors - and boutonnieres to the single dads and granddads.

It is a happy occasion to which you can invite a mentor or another woman that has enriched your life and it is a gesture most people would appreciate, even if they don't attend church. Flowers and memorial messages for deceased women that people want to recognize cover the altars.These services often present a program of musical groups, then proceed to a special recognition given to service women and servicemen, having them stand to be recognized. It makes for a good morning of warm memories for those honored.

A New Method - Singing to Mom on YouTube

This biologist, cadamole, wrote a scientific song for his mom, a bit like Jim Lear singing the Chemical Table Of Elements; but it is called More than Everything I Am Is Thanks to You and moms seem to love it.

As a Child, I Met Leontyne Price

Leontyne Price at the National Endowment for the Arts Opera Honors, February 2011
Leontyne Price at the National Endowment for the Arts Opera Honors, February 2011 | Source

The ultimate of being successful is the luxury of giving yourself the time to do what you want to do.

— Leontyne Price

Write A Hub About Your Moms and Mentors

This HubMob Topic is a fantastic opportunity to honor your mothers, grandmothers, and any of the advocates and encouragers of your life.

I never met my grandparents and met one great grandmother only once briefly at a funeral when I was five. Here are some of the women I admire and would take to dinner if I could. The ones still living and on the grid, I follow on Twitter!

  • Pocahontas
  • Sacagawea
  • Lady Anne of Clan MacKintosh and Clan Chatten (see links below)
  • Nichelle Nichols - twitter.com/RealNichelle
  • Leontyne Price - Visited my music class. First African-American singer to appear in a telecast opera: NBC's production of Tosca.
  • Lena Horne
  • Judith Resnick - Former Electrical Engineer and Astronaut from Cleveland OH.
  • Sally Ride - Former Astronaut from California (www.sallyridescience.com).

Sally Ride

Sister Kenny

  • Lilian Jackson Braun - Professional Writer from ages 17 to 95; age 98 in 2011. She seamlessly worked Lady Anne, above, into her Cat Who...mystery series. Always used a pencil and legal pad. No Twitter, unfortunately. Lives with her actor husband in South Carolina.
  • Elizabeth Kenny - Australian Nurse that discovered a successful treatment to prevent paralysis in polio.
  • Marlee Matlin - twitter.com/MarleeMatlin
  • Mary Stantz - My first and second grade teacher.
  • Patricia Caston - My 6th grade teacher, with the aide of Richard Kimball, student teacher.
  • Mother Teresa

Nichelle Nichols

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K9keystrokes 5 years ago from Northern, California

Great reminders that not only our biological mothers have made us (slightly more than half of) who we are, but that those who proxy motherhood for us also hold the power found in a mother's heart. The bio-video is the funnest I have found in a long time--big hoots! This hub truly rocks Patty! Love the layout and quality content you provide here. Up and absolutely awesome. Thanks for another top hub.

K9


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Patty Inglish, MS 5 years ago from North America Author

This was fun to write, particularly after I found the biology video. Thanks K9keystrokes! Happy Mother's Day!


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Jean Bakula 5 years ago from New Jersey

I think it is so important to recognize the women in our lives that have inspired us, or been good examples for us. They show us how to grow older with grace and dignity, and as we mature, it's lovely to talk together and understand them more too.


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Bilalnr 5 years ago from Islamabad, Pakistan

Excellent Hub!!!


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Thank you! Great writing - great points! And the lady who home schooled her children while scuttling from cabin to cabin? Now that's dedication but I would never do that:-). I also wonder what the rest of the story is - intriguing isn't it?


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Author anders 5 years ago

This i wrote for a mother in florida usa-

With Love to my Mother by Anders Gillensjø in Poetry

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sweetmummy 5 years ago from Alberta, Canada

This is a great idea! Of course, it's totally fitting to honor our spiritual mothers this way. AWESOME!


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chspublish 5 years ago from Ireland

I love the way you include all kinds of mothers and mothering. That's something to reflect on. Thank you.


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susannah42 5 years ago from Florida

Great insight. Loved reading your hub.


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Hello, hello, 5 years ago from London, UK

A wonderful tribute.


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Patty Inglish, MS 5 years ago from North America Author

I think we become to embroiled in life and work and sometimes forget to thank people. When I was younger, I waited too long and a couple great people died before I could thank them.

Tanks to you all for reading an dcommenting - and Happy's Mother's Day to you all.


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MarilynMorrison 5 years ago

Great information.


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Thelma Alberts 19 months ago from Germany

What a wonderful tribute to those women. Thanks for sharing. Happy Mother´s Day!


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Patty Inglish, MS 19 months ago from North America Author

Happy Mother's Day to you and all the women and any single dads in your extended family!

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