How to fight post-holidays blues - an opinion


Confessions of a holiday-olic

Are you one of those people who love everything about the Christmas holidays?

I am. My favorite day of the year is the day before Thanksgiving because it is all ahead of me: the decorations, the music, the food, the shopping, the gift wrapping, the cards in the mail - all of it.

Unfortunately, my least favorite day of the year is the day after Christmas. It's over. The magic is gone. Even the promise of New Year I find depressing. But I know this about myself, and over the years I've established some ground rules for fighting off post-holiday depression.

Now, if I ever won the lottery (or wrote a bestselling novel!) I'd book a wonderful trip to a new, exciting place every year leaving, sailing, launching, rowing, whatever, on December 26. But until my numbers hit or the book starts selling, I'm left with only the self-help techniques I've come up with myself.

Number One: Do not, under any circumstances, succumb to the impulse to start undecorating the house before New Years Day. It only adds to the depression. And even on January 1, do not do it all at once. I put a few things away at a time, starting with the outside lights so as to not be that irritating neighbor who still has lights up at Valentine's, and ending with the tree itself. Taking down the tree is the biggest chore, and I find I feel much better when it is the last of the un-Christmas-ing tasks I finish. I'm so pleased when I'm done, I don't mind so much that it is the final nail in the coffin of the holidays for another year.

Number Two: When I'm pulling out the wreaths and nativities and candles to decorate for the season, I try to put every day items away to make room for the decorations. Then, when I'm putting Christmas back in the closet for another 11 months, I have things to return to their place so the house doesn't look so empty.

Number Three: If space is available, have an established closet, shelf, corner of the basement or whatever to store all your holiday paraphernalia in one organized place. This gives you a feeling of control - over material things at least, if not over your emotions.

Number Four: Realize what you really miss at the end of the holidays is the fellowship, the connection with friends and family, the feeling of celebration. There is no reason that has to end. Get on the phone and make some dates to fill up that empty January calendar: lunch with the girlfriends, dinner with your favorite couple, a shopping trip with your nieces to exchange all those wrong gifts. Folks are too busy? Schedule a massage, a pedicure, a hair cut, a manicure every weekend in the month. Check the movie schedule and determine to see all those Oscar contenders before the awards show in March. Visit all the museums in your town before February. Make yourself busy and before you know it the crocus will be blooming.

Number Five: Rearrange the furniture. Even if you live in a small apartment, switch around the lamps, turn the kitchen table to the other direction, replace the shower curtains. Do anything to give your surroundings a fresh look to energize you to face the new year, to return to the daily grind, to keep you off the window ledge.

Number Six: Move. Get up. Get out of the house. Walk around the block. Jump rope in the kitchen. Put on your favorite music and Boogaloo. March in place to the bands on the TV football games. If your body thinks there are places to go and things to do, you'll trick your mind into thinking so too. The best way to fight post-holiday depression, deployment depression, winter depression - depression of any kind - is to get up and move. Get those endorphins working for you.

Number Seven: Give yourself a time-consuming project. Scan that scrapbook of family pictures and create a digital book to give as Mother's Day or Birthday gifts this year. Research your family tree. Create your own library by organizing your collection of paperback books. Strip that wallpaper in the bathroom. Start writing that novel you've carried around in your head for years. Start a project you can't finish in one day. It'll give you a purpose - a goal.

Number Eight: Last and probably the best - do something for someone other than yourself. Get your mind on something or somebody else. Best cure for depression ever. Make a fruit salad for all your co-workers who have made a new year's resolution to lose weight. Volunteer to teach Sunday School at your church, to spend Saturday mornings helping out at your local hospital, food bank, women's shelter; to read to children at the neighborhood elementary school. Schedule one day a week to have lunch with a student through Big Brothers Big Sisters. (You can do that. It's a small first step for a wonderful organization.) Do something, anything that benefits someone besides you. It is the best way to pull yourself out of an emotional slump.

Then look on the bright side: winter is one third over, you don't have to have a meal with that brother-in-law you can't stand until Easter, pitchers and catchers report for Spring Training in only eight more weeks. And there will be another Christmas season next year. Every day that passes brings you closer to it.

From "The Grinch Who Stole Christmas"

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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

Great Hub. All of these are excellent suggestions. Thanks.

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teaches12345 4 years ago

These ideas will definitely help break those blues. I follow your suggestion on not taking things down until after New Year's. It does make the holiday seem longer and allow for time to ease into a change. I must try your suggestion on rearranging the furniture next year. This would put a whole new look to the room and seem "new". Great hub!

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Kathleen Cochran 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Thanks! I knew I wasn't the only one who had this annual challenge!

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Kathleen Cochran 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

teaches12345: How did the rearranging of the furniture go? I have to confess, this tradition grew out of the fact that I couldn't remember where everything went after the holidays were over. Our Army quarters were always so small it took a major rearrangement to make room for the Christmas tree every year!

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Kathleen Cochran 2 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Merry? - not so much. Hope this helps some of us with too little leftover holiday cheer again this year!

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Kathleen Cochran 2 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

Merry after -

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phdast7 2 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

Kathleen - I knew this was great 22 months ago and it still is. I especially like tackling all the Christmas things in stages and getting busy helping others. Sharing. Theresa

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RTalloni 2 years ago from the short journey

You offer some great points here, some fantabulous ones, actually (if I can use an opposing word to compare with the ones in the Grinch song), and if everyone would take only the last one to heart the holiday spirit would continue throughout the year.

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Kathleen Cochran 2 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

RTalloni: "Number Eight: Last and probably the best - do something for someone other than yourself." You are so right. Hope your holiday was merry and thanks for commenting.

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Monis Mas 2 years ago

This was pretty entertaining. And I do feel totally blue today :-(

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Kathleen Cochran 2 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

:) Monis Mas :)

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DzyMsLizzy 23 months ago from Oakley, CA

Some good ideas, here. However, we can't follow many of the 'get out of the house' ideas, due to a combination of a low fixed income and my husband's disability. Our "travel budget" is limited to the grocery store and doctor appointments.

I do, however, have everything organized in crates, and we used to over-decorate everything; even the bathrooms did not escape! I have at least 32 crates and boxes of decorations--and that's just the indoors! We scaled way back this year, as we just were not up for it, physically.

As far as my own actual favorite holiday, that would be Halloween (Samhain)--that's my New Year celebration. ;)

Voted up, interesting and useful.

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Kathleen Cochran 23 months ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

By any chance, are you Scottish?

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glassvisage 23 months ago from Northern California

Great tips! My tree is still up - I turned on the lights this morning and lit a Christmas cookie candle :) I think it's still the holidays until after New Year's. Thanks for the Hub!

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DzyMsLizzy 23 months ago from Oakley, CA

There is some Scots and Irish blood in the lineage, but no, my Samhain celebration is my pagan side showing. ;)

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Kathleen Cochran 23 months ago from Atlanta, Georgia Author

DZY: As a Cochran on one side and a Hamilton on the other, I thought I recognized one of my own! Close enough.

Glass: My tree comes down the day after New Years. I put the rest away a little at a time, the way I put them out. It's too much to push myself to do all in one day. That's depressing!

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