Is Mother's Day a Real Holiday?

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Mother's Day in the US


Mother’s Day in the United States is observed on the second Sunday in May. It is to celebrate motherhood and to show appreciation for mothers and mother figures. Many believe Mother’s Day originated in 1870 when Julia Ward Howe encouraged pacifism disarmament amongst women. The holiday was continued in 1907 by Anna Jarvis, who held a private Mother’s Day celebration in honor of her mother and then organized Mother’s Day Work Clubs to improve health and cleanliness of the area in which she lived. In 1908 Anna Jarvis helped arrange a service in the Andrew’s Methodist Episcopal Church in Grafton, West Virginia that was attended by 407 children and their mothers. Andrew’s Methodist Episcopal Church is now the International Mother’s Day Shrine and has been designated as a National Historic Landmark.


Most people send cards and visit their mothers on Mother’s Day. Traditional gifts include flowers, candy, clothes, jewelry, and meals.


I Love Being a Mommy


This year will be the second Mother's Day I have celebrated since becoming a mother. And let me tell you - it isn't for my own benefit that I will be celebrating it. No - it is for my own mother's benefit and for my children. Let me go back and explain my history with Mother's Day a little bit more to help you understand my position.


I love being a mommy and I love my mommy. So what gives? Why do I dislike Mother's Day? To be honest - I dont dislike it but I also dont like it. My first Mother's Day I was super psyched as a new mom and I was happy to celebrate by spending the day with my 2 month old baby girl. Then every Mother's Day after that I have worked. Now before you start to feel bad and throw me a pity party I DIDNT MIND! Seriously. Mother's Day is just like any other day of the year to me.



Working on Mother's Day


I rather enjoy working Mother's Day and being alone. Does that make me selfish? Maybe - but since it's Mother's Day nobody can hold it against me. It IS my day after all. See, I only work two days a week. Therefore I get to be Mother all week long, Monday through Friday and do all the stay home mom things like volunteer in classrooms, read to groups of children in the preschool, attend any and all sporting and scouting events throughout the week and to be honest I AM EXHAUSTED when I go to work on Saturday and Sunday, to work 12 hours each day. BUT my job is a lot easier than being home with three kids. I need my two days at work to recuperate from the week. And if that means missing Mother's Day because it just so happens to fall onto one of my work days - then so be it.


I dont want to be celebrated one day out of the year - I want to be celebrated every day of the year. And technically I am. I have three wonderful daughters who spend time with me, defend me, look up to me, write about me, and love me all year long. I always get special little surprises from all three daughters. One wrote me a hero acrostic poem last July, another picked a bouquet of wildflowers for me out of the front yard in September, and the third asks me to cuddle with her almost daily. THAT is appreciation. On the other hand I also love and appreciate my own mother all year long. I almost die if I go more than a day without talking to Mom. And I think about her all the time. Everything I do or dont do depends on the things Mom taught me while I was growing up.


The Ultimate Mother's Day Gift


So to me, Mother's Day is not a real holiday even though it is recognized as such. Don't get me wrong - I know there are many women out there who love and look forward to Mother's Day and who have surrounded it in family tradition. Really, I think that is wonderful. Keep up the family traditions and do what you want. However, for my own celebration I think the best Mother's Day gift is the one that is given all year long and not just one day a year. Love me all the time and appreciate what I do for you all the time. Tell me how much I mean to you throughout the year. For me, seeing my children grow up into wonderful, responsible, loving, compassionate, successful individuals is the ultimate Mother's Day gift. I do realize some mothers and mother figures will expect a gift - something you spent time finding and money buying. So please at least make these tangible items in addition to the year-long expressions of love and gratitude that you show.


Other Mother's Day Gifts


Because so many people do purchase Mother's Day gifts I also feel like i should add traditional Mother's Day gifts to the mix. Some tradition gifts include:

  • Flowers and a card
  • Dinner
  • A visit
  • Spa Day
  • Music
  • Candles
  • Bath beads
  • Candy

And then of course there are the really creative gifts you can give mom or grandma - the gifts that aren't typical like the ones mentioned above.

  • Experiences - such as a helicopter ride over your city
  • Scrapbook collection of family heirloom photos
  • Share/s to her Favorite Company such as Disney, Harley, or Martha Stewart. Be sure to include a plaque to thank Mom for the years you "share"d together
  • Movie of images from family vacations - use your own computer and scan images to a disc that can be played in your DVD player


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Phil Plasma 4 years ago from Montreal, Quebec

Yep, I feel totally the same about Father's Day... we are parents all year long, we have moments throughout the year where we can welcome and be happy with 'parent appreciation'. Having a day set aside for it seems to me to be very arbitrary. Voted up.


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland Author

Thanks Phil! Same story about Father's Day :) Now you can write the Hub about that so I can link to it.


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Just Ask Susan 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

I can see how you view Mother's Day, but for me now that my boys are grown I look forward to Mother's Day just because I get to hang out with them all day :)


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States

Mothers day sure is special day to thank our mothers. To take a day off on that day is not possible since the care continues...

Love this beautiful hub ardie :)


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Patty Inglish, MS 4 years ago from North America

Asking if Mother's Day is a real holiday is perhaps like asking if women are real people, and some individuals and groups still believe that women are not people.

I'm not a mother, but I advise women to take any holiday they can get in order to highlight that cause and then work on good and proper respect all year. Kids need to be taught from birth and husbands, partners, and friends need to support the teaching. Respect for everyone. Thanks for the Hub!


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ThoughtSandwiches 4 years ago from Reno, Nevada

Ardie...

OH hell no you can't be blamed because you are right...It IS your day and, as such, the spending of it should be your decision. (it's my party and I'll cry if I want to...lol)

IS it a real holiday? Eh... I'm generally of the mind that if I don't get work off it's not holiday...it's an obligation. Don't get me wrong...I loved my mom...the pageantry of the day was exhausting, however. We should have gone on a helicopter ride...

I'm starting a petition to "Celebrate Ardie Every Day!" cuz it's just right.

Hugs,

Thomas


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robie2 4 years ago from Central New Jersey

I so totally agree with you about Mothers Day and I love the way you express your feelings in this hub. I have to laugh when I think that both my husband and I were only children of divorced parents so we both had mothers and stepmothers to buy cards for, which kind of took the starch out of Mother's Day-- but once I had children of my own, the whole character of the holiday changed for me. It wasn't just a Hallmark holiday anymore and to this day, one of my most treasured possessions is a little plaque my oldest son made for me when he was about 8 that says " world's greatest mom" It was one of the best gifts I have ever received.

Voting this up and awesome-- oh and Happy mothers day to you, Ardie:-)


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ThePracticalMommy 4 years ago from United States

I like your thinking. If I was still working, I'd consider the same thing. For now, my hubby and I just get useful things for around the house as our 'gifts' from the kids. Last year, I got a nice umbrella for our patio. :) Of course, we celebrate the holiday a bit more traditionally for our moms: dinner, flowers, little gifts, etc. I guess it's all changing for each generation.


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Cardisa 4 years ago from Jamaica

I am not a mother but as a child I value mother's day. I love and honour my mother and look forward each year to reminding her how special she is. It is especially special for both of us since we haven't lived together for over 20 years. She lives in the US and I in Jamaica. I think Mother's Day is a real holiday, and even though you honor you mother every day, that day should commemorate her motherhood.


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randomcreative 4 years ago from Milwaukee, Wisconsin

I don't think of it as a real holiday. I don't mind doing something nice for moms and/or with moms (dinner, etc.), but I'm also of the mindset that one small gesture doesn't make up for a year of neglect.


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ChristyWrites 4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

I find your take on mothers day is refreshing Ardie. I like that you are direct in what you feel and write about it. I laughed when you wrote that your work shifts are easier than your time taking care of your kids!


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland Author

Aaw JAS I didn’t think of it in terms of after my kids are grown!! Dang…that puts a whole new spin on it. I’m sure I will look forward to any excuse to have my girls all day once they’ve moved out too.

Hi Ruchira, I do agree it is a special day to thank our mothers – perhaps I need to change my stance that Mother’s Day should last all year!! :)

Hi Patty :) I see your point. It has indeed taken women a long time to gain the recognition they have gotten. The respect factor is so important! I guess I am naïve to believe that women get seen for the great things they do daily. I am lucky enough that the people around me are appreciative. But I would never try to take recognition away from a woman who only gets it on one day set aside for her.

Hi Thomas! It’s my Mother’s Day and I’ll hide if I want to, hide if I want to…you’d hide too if my kids belonged to youuuu. Oh Im kidding of course. I don’t know why but I don’t really see the big deal behind holidays of any sort other than the family time. And I can get that any day. I guess I am just a big bah humbug haha BUT I can get all over International Ardie Celebrations :)

Hi robie :)I can see how having to pass cards out to multiple moms could leave the holiday feeling less special. I do appreciate the idea of a Mother’s Day – I think all moms deserve it but I would rather spend it quietly, no gifts, and like any other day (maybe with a few extra hugs for good measure!) Happy Mother’s Day Robie!!

Hi PM :) I know my mom prefers the traditional celebration to Mother’s Day too. I think it really hurts her feelings that I work and I don’t see her. So this year I requested the day off just to spend it with her!! I like the way you and your husband think…

practical gifts for the practical mommy? Yes!

Hello Cardisa, I am so glad SO many people have commented here with different opinions – especially the ones that DON’T agree with me. I see all the different sides of Mother’s Day now. I think I’ve just taken for granted how close I live to my mom and that my kids are still with me. Man…when things change for me I will be singing a different tune. I know you and your mother will be thinking of each other on that special day.

Randomcreative – yes! I think you summed up perfectly what took me an entire Hub to say haha

Thanks Christy :) I cant help but be direct haha sometimes I wish I could be a little more…indirect! The part you like is so true! I don’t get a moments peace at home. Thanks for reading.


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ThoughtSandwiches 4 years ago from Reno, Nevada

Well now dear...I don't recall saying "International" Ardie Celebration day...that would be a DIFFERENT petition...United Nations stuff and shit...

I loved your song and could hear you singing it in my head. I should add..the voices that reside in there did a nice job on chorus.

Thomas

PS...sharing with everyone again.


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland Author

(best whining voice) Thoooomaaaaaas. But I want to be International! Huge! Ever-present! Ok ok I will take Ohio :) Thanks for the reshare


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BlossomSB 4 years ago from Victoria, Australia

Enjoyed reading your hub. We celebrate Mothers' Day on the second Sunday in May in Australia, too. As it's coming up - Happy Mothers' Day!


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland Author

Hello BlossomSB! Im so glad to see your happy smiling face after the last hour I've had. I needed to see a ray of sunshine :) I hope you have a wonderful Mother's Day as well!


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Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

Hi Ardie... well written and I stand with you on many of your points and think it should be made into a National Holiday in both the US and Canada. Where would any of us n=be if it were not for Mom's.

I love your passion you have for being a Mom I have seen it over and over again in your writing.

Hugs from Canada


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland Author

Hiya Rolly :)thanks for agreeing with me and then some haha You're much too sweet to me.


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Marcy Goodfleisch 4 years ago from Planet Earth

I'm so glad to see a other woman (especially one I respect and value as I do you) admit that we don't always need the festivities and trappings of various celebrations. I sort of like being alone a bit on that day, too. I love my kids, and I cherish (and miss) my mother, but there's something to be said about the benefit of internalizing such things.

Thanks for a very interesting hub! Voted so, and up and shared!


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Wesman Todd Shaw 4 years ago from Kaufman, Texas

I know Mother's day is a real holiday, Ardie - as it is usually one of the ...two or three days in a year that I wind up going to church! Mom wants her sons sitting next to her in church on Mother's day....and that is all.


Sunnie Day 4 years ago

Hi Ardie,

Honestly I celebrate Mothers Day for my mom and mother inlaw as I would hate to ever not take the time to recognize them on this day but it is not only on Mothers day.... We really do not need all the hype of Mothers day, we should value our moms everyday for sure. I think it is horrible to ignore ones mother all year but one day a year send her a card or make a phone call why not once a month..once a week... Thank you for a great hub with much heart.

Sunnie


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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

I actually did not know the history of Mother's Day so I'm glad I stopped by and read this. Now I feel informed and fairly intelligent before going to bed.

Great hub and I concur; I feel the same way on Father's Day...all I ever want is a barbecued steak and that's it. I'm an easy guy to please...give me meat!

bill


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland Author

Hello Marcy :) Thanks for the read and the vote. I was sorta feeling bad for writing this and trivializing the holiday but hey – it IS my opinion after all. I respect others who make a big deal out of Mother’s Day. But I would rather celebrate it quietly.

Hello WTS :) it’s sweet that you go to church with your mom on Mother’s Day. I bet she appreciates it more than you know. I will be spending this Mother’s Day with my own mom for the first time in 10 years and I am looking forward to it.

Hi Sunnie, yes! Let’s boost mom’s esteem and sing her praises ALL the time. I know I wouldn’t mind that from my children and I know I can do that for my own mom. I like your idea – let’s celebrate Mother’s Day AND show our moms appreciation all year long.

Hi Bill, Im glad you read this too because now I have a comment from one of my favorite Hubbers! Mmm steak – I wonder how I can get my kids to cookout for me…


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barbergirl28 4 years ago from Hemet, Ca

Well said... Personally it isn't that I hate Mother's Day either, but I don't find it necessary and it gets expensive... not only a gift for your mother and mother in law, but now start adding gifts for grandmothers, great grandmothers and all the cards! If you aren't crafty and don't have the time to make stuff by hand, this day (and Father's Day) can be a big expense. But, my kids celebrate Mother's Day every day of the year, and I don't need a day for them to show how much they love me... however, I was kind of hoping for an ice cream maker for a gift this year... so I can't knock the holiday too much ;)


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John Sarkis 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

Awesome hub Ardie. I love My Mother very much!... Additionally, I think the word Mother should always be capitalized, because, Mothers are wonderful (most Mothers...sometimes you hear crazy stories here and there...those are the exception to the rule...) and they're a proper noun; furthermore, "Mama" is one of the first words babies learns to say (I believe it's because of jaw movement...don't quote me on it though)

Take care and thanks for this wonderful hub

John


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RealHousewife 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Hey Ardie - I almost missed the party on this one:) glad Stacy shared it!

I don't give two flips about mother's day. Every day is mothers day:) lol yes I have a mom and yes I love her - but I talk to her every single day! (ok that's a lie because she is in St. Thomas today so I won't be interfering with all that!

I don't know - personally it isn't a big deal to me. I do not have a big family "thing" over it. I send my mom some flowers or get something for her garden. I'd feel silly having a big party for me:) hahahaha

Also - 9 times out of 10 - I worked on holidays or since my parents are doc and nurse - they did...we have very screwed up holidays. Almost never have them on the right day.

Great hub though and here's a bonus for mama - you gave me a hub idea!! You're the best! And your a wonderful mommy:)


kelleyward 4 years ago

Ardie this is a great hub! I feel the same way for mothers day the best gift I could get would be free time!!!! Being a stay at home mom is sooo hard. I love my kids but need time alone to recoup. Voted up and useful! Take care, Kelley


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Lady_E 4 years ago from London, UK

Very touching Hub. It's a pity you had to work and there's nothing wrong in being celebrated every day of the year or wanting to spend Mother's day on your own. It's your happiness that counts.

I hope this year, you will not work on Mother's day. Maybe you could book the day as leave (holiday) sometime soon and make a special day of it for a change.

Regards, Elena.


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland Author

Hi BG :) You hit the nail on the head! Perhaps my biggest problem with Mother’s Day is that its too expensive. Too many gifts for too many people. I think a small intimate Mother’s Day is great. But it has just gotten too out of hand for my taste. (ooh ice cream maker hahah what kid wouldn’t wanna buy that for mom?!) Thanks for the share

Hi John, you know – I hear you on the capitalization of Mother. I often find myself conflicted over whether or not to capitalize the word. Perhaps I should go a step further and we can start to capitalize the entire word all the time :) MOTHER. Doesn’t that look nice? Thanks for reading!

Hi RHW, YAH every day is MOTHER’S Day :) Maybe I don’t get all concerned about the holiday because I am lucky enough to still have my girls at home and because they are so good to me all year long (I know – its only cuz they’re not teenagers yet!) OR its because my mom worked in a hospital too and we didn’t always have holidays on their specific calendar dates. Who knows – Im just glad to know Im not alone with how I feel. As for the Hub idea – you’ve given me several so Im almost even!!

Hi Kelley :) Im sure being a stay home mom has plenty to do with my stance on this too. A break? Yes a break would be nice.

Hello Lady E, Good new for this year – I got MOTHER’S Day off :) so I will be able to celebrate it my way. Thanks for reading and commenting.


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rebeccamealey 4 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

I loved this! You sound like a great Mom and daughter! I love the homemade cards and the little thoughts, like breakfast in bed with burnt toast the best!


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland Author

Hello Rebecca :) Thank you so much for saying something so sweet (that Im a good mommy and daughter). I try my best and its not perfect but at least I try right? I am hoping for burnt toast in bed this year - thats something I've never gotten! Have a happy Mother's Day


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Peggy W 4 years ago from Houston, Texas

Both my husband's and my mother are now up in heaven. We always did something special for them on Mother's Day but also did things all year long. I totally get your "take" on Mother's Day. Mothers should be celebrated every day of the year! Voted up and useful.


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland Author

Hi Peggy. Im so sorry to hear you and your husband both lost your mothers. I cant even begin to think of the day I will have to deal with that. So in the meantime I plan on letting my mom know I love her ALL year long. Thanks for reading and comments :)


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shampa sadhya 4 years ago from NEW DELHI, INDIA

Voted up and beautiful!

Your concept about the celebration of Mother's Day is quite meaningful. In India it is not a very common celebration but it is picking up and thanks to the card companies.

One point I would like to add here is that no parent is a matter of one day. We love and care for our parents but due to a busy schedule sometimes togetherness gets missing. At least one special day is great to have some fun on their parenthood. It's just like celebrating birthdays of a loved one or religious festivals in a little special manner. It does not mean that through out the year we don't love our loved ones or we do not worship God. It's just a special expression. Well, it's my thought but I respect your thought too especially I liked and extremely believe in the sentence you wrote " For me, seeing my children grow up into wonderful, responsible, loving, compassionate, successful individuals is the ultimate Mother's Day gift."

A well thought hub. Enjoyed reading it.


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland Author

Hello Shampa :) Ah yes, the card companies. They do know just how to push a holiday dont they?

I love your point of view on the holiday. We can have it both ways. Spend Mother's Day with the women in the family, express sincere thanks and appreciation while also loving the moms and grandmas through the rest of the year. You put it so beautifully - I can tell you have a good heart.

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