Surviving The Holidays

Being Alone During the Holiday Season

Holidays are a time for family, friends and celebration we all scramble around in the hustle and bustle of the season and do not realize their are so many out there who will be spending the holidays alone. It maybe that they are stationed on the other side of the world and fighting a war, or they have relocated and are out of their environment. It could very well be that they do not have any family and certainly do not want to impose on their friends or they just went through a bad break-up or Divorce. Holidays are definitely not a time to be alone. Suicide attempts are higher during the season then any other time so it is important to embrace it if you are alone as it really isn't that bad after all.

My husband and I have been seperated more during the holidays due to his career then many could imagine and there were times when I let depression get the best of me, as for me the holidays were about family and friends. I would cry and couldn't wait for the day to end , Just like you, I have walked those empty corridors alone, desolate and not wanting anybody around not even friends. I created a survival guide for myself and have used it like clock work and believe me it certainly has gotten me through.

Survival 101 During the Holidays

You do not have to be alone for the holiday season and it is up to you if you want to embrace the season or be scrooge. We  hope that you choose to be an Angel and share the holiday and enjoy it , in your own special way.

Here is my mini survival tips to use during the holiday season,

1. You have a free "Get out of Jail" card , go to the mall, an electronic store anywhere you want to shop and buy yourself gifts. Bring them home, and do not open until Easter. We realize it may sound a litle nuts but it certainly works. 

2. The elderly need love to , many facilites across the country have nursing homes, rehabilitation centers and they are full of patients who do not have family, or their family has ignored them and they are dumped and forgotten. Volunteer to come and visit , help them write cards or do crafts, you will find that your heart will overflow with love and they will appreciate and hope that you continue to comeback.

3. If you have a homeless shelter or safe havens in your area contact them and see what you can do to assist over the holiday season.

4. Animal Shelters and veterinarian hospitals need volunteers to babysit those adorable pets, that have had surgery or are ill so how you can work with them to spread some of the hugs back to our furry little friends.

5. Attend church or a social gathering do something that you would not normaly do on a holiday. 

6. Spread cheer to everyone and you will find that you as well, will feel so much better about the season and yourself.

 It is the holiday that brings us down, it is what we do with it that makes it exciting.  

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Storytellersrus 8 years ago from Stepping past clutter

A very thoughtful Hub. I was alone once, on Christmas, because I couldn't afford to fly home. It was the worst holiday of my life and I got horribly sick. Thanks for helping me remember that awful time and raising my radar. I will try and be sensitive and conscious regarding those who will be alone this season.


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BDazzler 8 years ago from Gulf Coast, USA

Nice Hub, Julianna! As a practical application to #6 ... here in the South, Waffle Houses are open 24/7/365 ... nobody wants to work on holidays ... buy presents for the wait-staff, bring 'em in and watch misery turn to joy!

Well, i'm off to eat turkey with a family that thoughtfully invited me to join them!


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AEvans 8 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Storytellerrus, It is horrible being alone and I have experienced but now that I seem to keep a survival plan in place, it works. It hurts me when others are alone and I hope I was able to shed some light on the subhect. :)

BDazzler, I didn't know they still had Waffle Houses and that is a wonderful idea in regards to bringing them a gift. I am glad you are not alone and have a Happy Thanksgiving. :)


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Princessa 8 years ago from France

What a great way to spend the holidays in you are alone. Bringing happiness to those people who need it more like the elderly and the homeless among many others. I think giving a bit of company to those who need it most is to embrace the real meaning of the season.

Thumbs up!


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Gods Child 8 years ago from New Orleans, La

Holidays used to be the loneliest time of the year for me along with Sunday. The only thing that has changed is me. Now I face the Holidays with joy and look forward to Sundays, These tips are fantastic.


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Mighty Mom 8 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA

Spoken from true experience -- your tips are wonderful. There is nothing better than SERVICE to take you out of yourself when you're feeling down, lonely and pitiful. No matter how bad you have it or think you have it, there is always someone out there -- and not very far away, either -- who is less fortunate than you.

I have often wanted to spend holidays with just friends. Some day...


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Amanda Severn 8 years ago from UK

I used to live with an Irish guy who disappeared back home each Christmas to be with his mother. I had family I would visit, but not stay with over the holiday, and in a strange way I quite enjoyed the solitude. Having said that, I wouldn't choose to be alone now, and I'm very, very glad of my dear old fella and our two gorgeous kids. Christmas can be the loneliest time of the year even for those who are used to being on their own, and it's good to be aware of those we know who would welcome some contact on Christmas day.


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AEvans 8 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Princessa, Thank you for the thumbs up and I am gald that you embraced the article as it works , many are alone so why not embrace them and we to would find company amongst total strangers/

God's Child, I am so happ that you look forward to Sundays and I am certainly happy that these tips have given you some ideas.

Mighty Mom, You have spoken the truth as their is always somene out there who is worse off then any of us.

Amanda, I agree as contact is always good and my husband travels an abundance so I have learned although we have a son who we adopted, that it is up to us on how we wish to celebrate, do we want to be down or do we want to share, my thing is share and now with our son, he is able to also understand the meaning of Christmas if Daddy isn't home. We also Thank God for computers and cameras , so once dad does get home we have 2 christmases.:)


Eddie Perkins 8 years ago

Perhaps many of us have been alone at a time when we should have been with family. I’ve been there, done that. 

I remember my first Christmas being in Korea and playing repeatedly “Blue Christmas” by Elvis.  As I look back, it is amazing that my buddies didn’t kill me and say the enemy got me.

I also remember being down on my luck, away from my family when a family in the church had me come to their house.  My old car broke down on the way there and he had to come get me and tow me in.  He helped me fix the car that day.  We ate a wonderful meal together and the biggest surprise was when they gave me a very nice gift.

I like your survival guide. 

To me Secular Christmas is about children, gifts and laughter. There are so many children who need a big Christmas smile.  Yes, I believe in Santa’s cause.

There are so many elderly who have no one to celebrate with.  Have you been to the funeral of someone in their 90’ or 100’s and the place was almost empty?

Thanks for the great hub. ~ eddie


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AEvans 8 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Eddie, I believe in Santa's cause too and I think so many have forgotten the true meaning of Christmas , it isn't about how many presents , it is about embracing others and sharing in the joy of what the meaning is. If we would just do for others , it would come back around. I love the song "Blue Christmas and I am surprised then didn't get mad too, but they were probably feeling the same way. What a blessing as well for a total stranger to help you fix the car and give you dinner along with a gift. That is the true meaning of Christmas.:)


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oxi_z 8 years ago from Northern Cyprus

AEvans, I loved your hub. THUMBS UP!!! Your tips definitely help. I'm away from my family for 3 years already and I have always felt a bit lonely without them. My friends definitely bring joy and laughter but there is something special about being with your family for Christmas and New Year night.

I will use your Survival guide this year.

Cheers... Merry Christmas!


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xtraTiny 8 years ago

Thanks J.A. It's a wonderful HP. I enjoyed it much. You thoughts are really great. [Thumbs up]


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AEvans 8 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

oxi_z, I am glad that you will use them as life should always be appreciated and this year , be all you can be and your heart will be so full of joy.:)

xtraTiny, thank you for the thumbs up.:)


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Mezo 8 years ago from Egypt

wonderful hub :)

it's a nice guide forr everyone, also u can do thses things with someone,


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AEvans 8 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Mezo, True you certainly can and it is about doing something for others. :)


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Netters 8 years ago from Land of Enchantment - NM

I love your survival guide! You have given me inspiration! Thank you so much!


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AEvans 8 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Netters, You are so welcome as all of us at sometime in our lives have been alone and depressed, but why when we can still have joy in our hearts for doing some of the things I have mentioned. I am glad to have inspired you.:)


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Ashley Tyler 8 years ago from Oklahoma

These are all great ideas :) Very nice hub! Sometimes when people are alone they do not know what to do and they will just sit there and think about the fact that they are alone. This will give them some ideas.


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diggersstory 8 years ago from #1 Tourist Trap O Town USA

Awesome ideas. The worst kind of lonliness is when you are not alone but inside you are. Abused children suffer more on the holidays than any other season emotionally. A time to demonstrate how alone we are in our families.

Children around the world need adults to stand up for them. Without justice how can we have peace? Without compassion how can we have a future that is sane?

I am blessed to have a friend whoes family has taken me in as their own. Sharing your family with others can do amazing things to a life. Love, especially given on the holidays are miracles for all involved.


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AEvans 8 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

diggersstory, You are blessed for having someone embrace you and take you in as there own. Adults do need to stand up to for children and defend them you are also correct and the greatest miracle of all is life, and you have it. Merry Christmas digger :)

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