A Father's Day Tribute to my Dad

Dad Always Liked Milk Cows

These are my sister Pat's milk cows.
These are my sister Pat's milk cows. | Source

Dad's Old Barn, Silo, and Horse Shed

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A Father's Day Tribute


A Father's Day tribute to my dad is long overdue. Dad passed away suddenly from a heart attack in May of 2004 while I was overseas with the government. Fortunately, I had seen him twice during the year prior to his death. After I returned home to help spread his ashes in the woods on our farm, my brother-in-law wrote a short tribute to dad. I had wanted to write something at the time, but I had to immediately get back to my job in Southeast Asia.

Dad and His Family in 1938

My dad is standing on the left in the picture.
My dad is standing on the left in the picture. | Source

Dad As A Boy And Youth

On the occasion of this Father's Day I want to share with everyone my memories of dad. About 10 years prior to his death, dad and I drove up to his birthplace in Door Country which is a peninsula in northeastern Wisconsin. We had a good time that day as dad pointed out where he was born and the first one-room school he attended. My grandpa was born in Wisconsin, although great-grandpa was born in Germany. Grandma was born in Austria, and according to dad, she came to the U.S. when she was in her late teens after leaving the convent. Dad was born the second oldest. He had one older brother, one younger brother, and four younger sisters. All are deceased now.

I remember dad telling me that when he was a boy he used to run around barefoot a lot of times. After he got his ears boxed a lot in Catholic schools, grandpa put him into the "Republican" school, as dad put it. During the Great Depression when he was about 15, dad dropped out of school and got into trouble with the law. He never liked to talk about that, and he was extremely embarrased when Uncle Dick brought up the incident about four years preceding dad's passing. As a form of probation, the juvenile court judge ordered him to work on dairy farms for a certain period of time as reform through labor. I guess it is from this experience that dad started to develop his enthusiasm for dairy farming.

Dad Farmed This Land in Back of the Barn

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Dad As A Young Man

Dad and mom married during the Second World War in 1943. Receiving a deferment from service for unspecified medical reasons, dad never entered the armed forces. After getting married, dad went back to night school and did eventually graduate from high school. He had wanted to become a vet, and even attended college classes for a semester. It was tough for him because he was working full-time, and after my sister, mother, and I all had appendectomies in a one year period, he had to quit college. The dairy farming bug, though, wasn't out of him, and in 1954 he rented a small dairy farm about 25 miles outside of Milwaukee.

Dad and His Cows in 1959

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Dad Milking a Cow

Dad milking a cow in the late 1980s
Dad milking a cow in the late 1980s | Source

Remembering Dad

What do you remember most about your dad?

  • Helping you with homework
  • Playing ball with you
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  • Being kind and generous
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Dad As A Dairy Farmer

Farming was not easy for my dad, because it was a second job for him. He would do his farming during the day, and then around 2:00 or 2:30 in the afternoon get ready to drive into the city and work the second or evening shift from 4:00 P.M. until midnight. Dad never made much money farming, and it was really sad when he had to sell out at an auction right before Christmas in 1963 to make ends meet. After dad got a new full-time job off the farm along with ma a few years later, dad got back into dairy farming for about 10-15 years before he sold all of his cattle for the last time.

What Made Dad Special?


My father was a unique person, and in my eyes, the following four traits made him special:

1. A Great Interest In Education

Dad encouraged all of his kids to go to school and make something out of their lives. When I was younger, he encouraged me to try to become a doctor. He also encouraged my second oldest sister to become a vet, and he was so pleased when she eventually got into vet school and became a vet in 1986. It's doubtful that my two sisters and I would have gone on to school if dad hadn't arranged to pay for our education. I remember dad helping me with algebra problems in the ninth grade, and pushing me to take all the math I could in high school. According to dad, if you could express yourself in math, you really knew what you were talking about. Into his mid 80s, dad's mind was still sharp at doing math problems.

2. Dad Was A Very Good Handyman:

Dad always said, "If you want something done right and well, do it yourself." Undoubtedly, that's why he became a handyman. There wasn't anything he couldn't build or fix. On the farm, he built pens and put in stanchions for the cows as well as widening the gutters and installing a barn cleaner. Dad built sheds for animals and even put a kitchen extension onto our house. He could also fix cars and tractors. Two years before his death he was renovating a small bungalow in the vicinity of our farm.

3. Dad Had An Interest In Baseball:

Some of my fondest memories of dad center around baseball. Dad said he was a pretty good ball player as a teen, and even claims getting a try-out from the Boston Red Sox. I remember dad teaching me how to catch a ball when I was six or seven. After that, he got me a catcher's mitt, mask, and shin guards. I'll always cherish the time he spent playing ball with me. One thing that stands out in my memory is the village Fourth of July picnic back in 1960. We had a softball game and dad was the pitcher for the opposing team. He must have really grooved me a pitch, because I hit it over the center field wall for a homer.

4. Dad Lived A Frugal Life:

Dad never had time for a vacation with the cows, farm work, and working a full-time job. Because he didn't earn that much money from his job and selling milk, we lived very frugally as a family. Ma and and dad never bought new clothes or a new car when I was a kid. As a matter of fact, dad didn't buy his first new car until he was 80. Up until he died, dad bought all of his clothes at second-hand stores.


My Father in His Later Years

Dad and the author.  Picture was taken in 1993.
Dad and the author. Picture was taken in 1993. | Source

Quotes of Wisdom

Finally, I remember the following quotes of wisdom from dad which have stuck with me through all these years:

1. "We Get Too Soon Old And Yet Too Late Smart:"

Over the years I have discovered a lot of truth in this saying. For some reason, it seems that we repeat too many mistakes and can not learn from our experiences.

2. "If You Work Hard And Apply Yourself, You Can Make Something Out Of Yourself In This Country:"

Dad believed in the American dream, and in fact, he did live and achieve his American dream. The strong work ethic and optimism I possess definitely come from my father.

3. "Do A Good Job In Whatever You Do. Don't Do A Half-Assed Job:"

I have always striven to do my best in whatever I do. If I haven't succeeded, it's not due to a lack of effort. Also, if you can do the best job, cutting corners will never get you anywhere in the end.

4. "Don't Cheat People. What Will It Gain You After You Die?"

My father was a very honest person and instilled this quality in me

Dad has been gone now since 2004; however, his memories and words of wisdom will remain with me the remainder of my life..


© 2011 Paul Richard Kuehn

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drazzle 5 years ago from Ann Arbor, Michigan

Very touching and inspiring hub!


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GNelson 5 years ago from Florida

It is a special memory.


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Paul Kuehn 5 years ago from Udorn City, Thailand Author

Thanks for all of the comments.


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Denise Handlon 4 years ago from North Carolina

Beautiful hub, Paul. I'm linking it to my tribute to my father (It's called Sacrifices of Fathers). If you disagree contact me about it b/c it's going in tonight. :) Voted up and interesting. BTW--be sure to add a summary for this hub, I didn't see one.


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Paul Kuehn 4 years ago from Udorn City, Thailand Author

Thanks for the comments Denise, and yes, you may link it to the tribute to your father. I will also add a summary for this hub. I am sharing this with my followers.


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moonlake 3 years ago from America

Your Dad sounded like a great person. Voted up, shared and pinned to my holiday board.


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Just Ask Susan 3 years ago from Ontario, Canada

I really enjoyed reading your tribute to your dad. I lost my dad six years ago and really miss him.

Voted up and sharing. Beautiful hub!


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ishwaryaa22 3 years ago from Chennai, India

A lovely tribute to your father! Full of beautiful memories! I admire your father's traits and quotes of wisdom. I am sorry that your father passed away. May his soul rests in peace always.

Thanks for SHARING. Beautiful. Voted up


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Paul Kuehn 3 years ago from Udorn City, Thailand Author

Just ask Susan,

Thank you very much for reading and commenting on this hub. I'm sorry to hear about the passing of your dad. I'm sure you miss him as much as I miss my dad. Your sharing of this hub is really appreciated.


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Paul Kuehn 3 years ago from Udorn City, Thailand Author

ishwaryaa22,

Thank you very much for your sympathy. I'm glad you liked reading about my father's traits and quotes of wisdom. I also appreciate your votes.

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