Mother's Day, Last Minute Style

So it's about 11p.m., Saturday, May 8th 2010 and officially, there's only an hour left before Mother's Day: Part intimately-connected-warm-hearted-tribute-to-Moms, part kidnapped-pimped-out-pseudo-holdiay by the flower, gift card, and jewelry industries with a certain visceral obligation in charge of marketing. As usual, I have completely bulled it, and have absolutely no material gift to present to my beautiful, loving mother tomorrow. Without a doubt there are hundreds like me out there right now and this hub is for you.

Now don't get it twisted; I love my mom and everything she's done for me. The nurture I have received from her has allowed me to grow into the space-cadet who whiffs on thinking of something meaningful to buy her every Mother's Day. It has also allowed me to grow into what I consider a genuinely caring person, who is very in touch with his feelings. Maybe that's why I'm sitting here, wondering about this holiday, and so many questions pop into my mind.

First off, how did this holiday come into modern existence? Long story short: Julia Ward Howe wrote a proclamation for Mom's to come together to stop their son's from killing one another due to war, and bringing grief, despair and sadness to their mothers. Howe's holiday waned after a while but was adopted by a woman's group in West Virginia, led by Anna Reeves Jarvis, in order to reunite families and neighbors divided by the Civil War. Now that's a beautiful thing. It was originally about peace. In 1908 Anna M. Jarvis took her mother's flag and ran with it. After a bunch of petitioning, Mother's Day became an official holiday in 1914. Of course it then became completely commercialized and Jarvis tried to copyright it but it was already too late.

Ok, I'm still full of way more pertinent questions.

What does Mom want from me? What does it mean to her? What are her expectations? Should I pluck some Iris's from that church down the street and throw them in a vase with water? Should I just show up with my steady smile and warm, loving presence? Should I be coerced to go out and purchase something for Mom on this particular day just because everyone else is doing it? Mom did always ask, "If all your friends were jumping off a bridge, would you do it?"

Well, only if we were bungee jumping, and only so I wouldn't get called names. On the real though, I'll never know what it is like to carry a child, give birth to it and then nurture it until it is embarrassed to been seen with me in the mall. I can only imagine the patience, giving, and sacrifice it must take to raise a child. Not to mention the immense cost and responsibility. Not to mention the worry and disappointment. I'm sure there are innate rewards too, but personally, I don't plan on having kids.

I guess my biggest question is, why aren't mother's showered with love and gifts and presents and attention and chocolate every other random day of the year? Of course, I want to repay my Mom for all she has done for me, but why do I feel pressure to buy a silly Hallmark card and some flowers that will wilt away after a few months? If Mother's Day was originally about peace, then why are we A-murrah-cuns involved in a consumer frenzy on Mother's Day and the day's leading up to it?

It's now 1:18 a.m. and after reading a complete history of Mother's Day (check the links for my source) really, all I've accomplished in this hub is a little venting of my thoughts, and it's probably too little too late in terms of traffic, but if you get all the way through this bad boy, I would love to hear your comments and opinions.

Thank you for reading. Happy Mother's Day!! I urge you to focus your attention on Peace and Love with your Mother rather than worrying about what to buy her! Huge thanks to all the strong and supportive, loving and thoughtful mothers out there!!! So grateful to have a wonderful mother who is so giving and loving. :) Thanks Mom!

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Feline Prophet 6 years ago from India

Well said, Andrew! And I'm sure your mother appreciates you even when you don't take her irises! :)


daddyj 6 years ago

way to go!


marti 6 years ago

What a GREAT article!


LindsayM 6 years ago

So thoughtful and thought provoking! This beats any flowers you could give your mother. :-)


Betsy 6 years ago

What a nice article. I am sure your Mom is so proud of you.

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