Mother's Day :: The Perfect Gift :: My Mother

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Sometimes you Just "Find" The Perfect Gift

Mother's Day and finding the perfect gift to show our gratitude to our mothers is a daunting subject to approach. All of us have different mothers, some of whom do not even want a gift. Sadly, my mother is no longer here in this world, so I am sharing with all of you, my perfect gift for my mother. Perhaps it will turn out that you will find among these paragraphs the perfect gift for your mother too.

While I had started this hub as an article about my mother, I suddenly stumbled on a magnificent web site that I just have to share with you. I will not be hurt if you go check it out, and am not affiliated with it in any way. It took my breath away really, and so I offer it up, even if that means sacrificing you're reading this humble article.

The web site is called DayForMothers.com, and frankly it is beautiful. I wish I'd thought of it. After all, Mother's Day was historically a day to honor one woman's mother. Due to her example, we honor our mothers to this day.

My Mom Loved this Song, and she even Bought White Knee High Boots

Just to give you an idea of the rings

But of course none of these rings were big enough or beautiful enough for my Mother! The two I chose were so much bigger, shinier! Had much more sparkle and color. I can still hear my father trying to talk me out of those rings.
But of course none of these rings were big enough or beautiful enough for my Mother! The two I chose were so much bigger, shinier! Had much more sparkle and color. I can still hear my father trying to talk me out of those rings.

The Perfect Gift

My mother was born on May 11th, and don't ask me, I do not know the year. It was probably around 1928, give or take a year or two. Her first child was born in 1947, and I didn't come along until 1961, but she always said I got her age wrong. I remember on her birthday I asked her how old she was and she said she was 40. I said but you were 40 last year. I think I was 7 or 8 years old at the time. We were at the doctor's office that same year and a child and I were talking. She told me how old she was, and I told her how old I was, and then I said "Would you like to know how old my mother is?" My mother grabbed me and said "Faye Marie, don't you dare!"

I can still hear her voice, still see her face. Come to think of it I bet I have made that face at my own children!

I miss my mother. Her birthday would sometimes fall on Mother's Day. My sister Bonnie's birthday is May 9th and so this year it is her birthday that will fall on Mother's Day. My mom always said that was her best Mother's Day Gift, her children.

She had her first in April and so My eldest sister Cecelia, was her first Mother's day gift, and then Bonnie was her second. Butch, born in January, ten years before me, was her third. Several years later she had another April baby, my brother Joe. See, back then you celebrated Mother's Day, for your mother. Now we all try to give to our mothers, and our children when they become mothers. Back in those days, it wasn't until your children were old enough to "celebrate you" that you received a gift.

My father always honored my mother on Mother's Day, and on her birthday. I remember the first time I bought her a Mother's Day Gift. I got to choose two because her birthday was coming also. I chose two rings from the "Five and Dime" which was like Sears, or J.C. Penney's back in those days. Now we have Dollar Stores, which would equate to a Five and Ten Cent Store today. Yes, back then you could actually buy things from Sears and J.C. Penney's that were affordable. Not so much anymore.

My mother saved S&H Green Stamps, and clipped coupons to make ends meet. She saved labels and box tops so that she could get refunds. Now there is a web site where you have to pay to find out about refunds. Wow, the world sure has changed.

My Mother Reminds me of Eunice, or the other way around.

My Mother truly Loved The Carol Burnett Show

Being a Good Mother

When I was a little girl my mother filled the role of wife, mother, daughter and nurse. I ran a croquet stake through the roof of my mouth, cut the tips of two fingers almost completely off with a pocket knife. I made my brother so angry that he put his fist through the storm window of our front door. (I had locked him out and just kept laughing and wouldn't let him in.) She took care of our father when he got cancer. She took care of our pets when they died. She made the hard decisions, like when our dog had bit too many kids and had to be put to sleep.

She learned how to be a mother from her mother, such as that education was. Back in those days women didn't tell their daughters anything about relationships or partnerships. My mother said the extent of her "sexual education" was these words "never run your hand up the back of his neck." My mother wasn't sure if that meant men like it or don't like it, and I still don't know what my grandmother meant by it. Back then you learned by observing your parents. No one told you how to be a wife or how to be a mother. You just tried to do better than your mother did with you.

The perfect gift for your mother this Mother's Day might be just that. Be a better parent to your children, give them the kind of life your parents wanted to give you but couldn't afford, or didn't know how to give.

Clipa, Made in The USA

Give Her Flowers

Of course, flowers will always be a hit as a Mother's Day Gift. Although the original flower of Mother's Day was historically the White Carnation for Remembrance, speaking with flowers has come a long way. Now one might choose roses for love, unity, and purity, daffodils for chivalry, or even sunflowers for adoration. My mother loved Daisies (innocence) and Queen Anne's Lace (Delicate Beauty).

No Mother will be sorry if she receives flowers, unless of course she is allergic to them.

Perhaps you would like to "think outside the box" and give a lasting practical gift.Clipa is the perfect gift for women on the go. The pricing is reasonable and shipping is free if you buy three.

Finally, the gift that I would give my mother, if she were still alive. My mother was a writer, and an artist. She loved to write, to paint, and to draw. I read everything she wrote, I even hope to recreate and publish her writing one day. I remember it all, even though it has been many years, her writing I understood.

I never understood her drawings or her painting. Those were things she enjoyed, but never really learned to do well. My father bought her art books and pencils, paper for her drawings... She just never learned the basics. She had crocheted and embroidered from a very young age, and was very artistic at that. She wanted to be able to draw and paint her own pictures, not just fill in the patterns of others before her. I lucked into finding this gift, it would not have existed in her time.

Learn and Master Painting Instructional DVD course and Supply Kit would have been the most magnificent gift for my mother. It has everything she would require to learn her art and practice it. My mother loved to learn. She never stopped growing, never stopped changing. She was sick for most of her life, but she was a shining example of a woman who wanted the best for her family, and never got the best for herself. She would have loved this gift.

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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States

Faybe, A lovely hub for mother's day gifts. I fortunately still have my mother. She is 86, so I treasure the time as she isn't in the greatest health. Good hub.


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Faybe Bay 6 years ago from Florida Author

Thank you Pamela. I am recently reconnected with distanced family members. After mom went in the nursing home she was my only link to them. When she passed away I lost touch with everyone. Now I have found them all and wanted to do this, both as a tribute to her, and a memorial to the legacy she left behind, her descendants. I lucked into finding the gift. Now I remember what I went looking for there's a video for the DVD's. I finally found it!


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Sandyspider 6 years ago from Wisconsin, USA

Nice hub.


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Faybe Bay 6 years ago from Florida Author

Thanks Sandy! I am hoping my family will get around to it. My sister said she will stop by.


aslanctr 6 years ago

Hi Faybe Bay,

Our mother would have been very proud of your writing, and I am very proud of you as your sister. My daughter, Katie has done a geneology of the family on ancestry.com. We have two ancestors who came over on the Mayflower. So, you can be very proud of our heritage.


Katie 6 years ago

This is a lovely tribute to grandma. I enjoyed learning more about her life through your writing. Thank you for posting this!


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Faybe Bay 6 years ago from Florida Author

Thank you Katie, and thank you Bonnie! I am so glad you got to stop by. I want to know more about the ancestry, and the Mayflower! You can bet I will write more stories about Mom (your grandma, Katie). I hope, eventually, to write all of our family stories. Love ya,Faye


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Paradise7 6 years ago from Upstate New York

Lovely hub, Blessings to you.


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Faybe Bay 6 years ago from Florida Author

Thank you, Paradise, for stopping by.

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