Remembering Our Veterans on Veterans Day

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November 11, is Veterans Day. This is a day set aside by our Government to honor those who have served in the military. I do not see why we should just honor them on this day but I will go with this. I believe we should honor them every day. They fought for us, so that we would have the freedom to worship, speak, and live in a way that we see fit, for us.

We all know someone who has served in the military. My husband served, my uncles and great-uncles served. My son and step-son tried to serve but injuries during basic training took them out. My father did not serve but only because he had broken his ankle as a child and they decided they did not need him during peacetime.

I have had relatives serving this country since before the Revolutionary War. Every war this country has been in, has had someone from my family serving in it. During the Civil War, they served both sides. Some made it through their service and some did not. Some made it back, changed totally from the people they were before. War is hell, they say and I totally believe it.


Dennis

My husband served in Vietnam for four tours. He was in Special Forces and was all over the country. His group was the one they sent in when someone called in for help. The team jumped in the helicopters and were inserted into the middle of a firefight. I have met a man that he retrieved from a prison camp. The man said he would have died if my husband and his group had not gotten him out. He received 4 silver stars and 5 purple hearts. Yes, he is my hero, but he should be a hero for all.

He suffers from many ailments from these actions, some from Agent Orange but mostly from PTSD. The nightmares he has and the withdrawal from society is scary to watch. He is still changing, withdrawing more and more over the years, even with treatment. When we married, he was an extrovert who got along with everyone. He could talk to anyone and enjoyed most people's company. Now, he stays away from people and is getting harder to live with. This is not unusual for people with PTSD. The withdrawal is common and predictable.

Uncle Delmar

My uncle Delmar, my dad's older brother, was a Marine. He was at the Battle for Iwo Jima. He did not talk about it to me. I was too young when he died. I know some of what he went through when he got home, from the stories my dad told. His wife did not sleep in the same bed with him for several years. If he felt her move in the night, he would have a choke hold on her and she was sure she was going to die. She slept in a separate bed for a while until he calmed down.

He eventually did but no one ever tried to sneak up on him when he was sleeping, at least not twice. He had a very well developed sense of humor and was often playing a joke on someone.

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Great-uncle Howard

My great-uncle Howard, or Howdy as he was called, was a shy, quiet man. He was friendly and easy- tempered. He was in one of the worst battles of WWll. The Battle for the Ardenne Forest was a terrible place to be. He talked about it a little, shortly after coming home but then, never again. He told his sister, my grandmother, about when they were withdrawing, the trucks went through and if you didn't get on one of the trucks, you were dead. They piled onto the trucks and held onto the sides. Some were being carried out by their friends hanging onto them because "there was no more room". They piled on the tanks and bicycles and anything that moved. There were soldiers running alongside the trucks, trying to get out of there alive. Most of these did not make it out. She said he was crying by this time. He lost a lot of friends that day.

Invitation to Tell About Your Veterans

I would like to invite all who read this to tell us about your special veterans in the comments. We would love to hear about every one of them. For those who have served, thank you for your service.

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Sunnie Day 5 years ago

Hi Becky,

Thank you for sharing about the wonderful men in your family who served..God bless them all..We are as you know a very military family..I would just like to say thank you if you don't mind on this hub to My dad who served in Vietnam, My husband and brother who served in the first Iraq war, my son Josh who is now serving, my two son inlaws, Jermaine and Josh who are serving. Our friend Dusty and Mike who served and many more..God bless all our soldiers young and old..God bless them all..Thank you Becky for letting me do a shout out..Such a wonderful hub..maybe others can come and do a shout out too..

Love,

Sunnie


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Becky Katz 5 years ago from Hereford, AZ Author

Sunnie, I would love for people to honor their veterans here. I honor all veterans. They are what keeps this country great.


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Hyphenbird 5 years ago from America-Broken But Still Beautiful

Becky, you come from a very brave family and one with a patriotic heart. I wish all the people who live here and trash America could see the blood shed for them. My heart is saddened for your husband and others like him. Some do overcome. I saw a man on Dancing With The Stars who was burned terribly. Yet he has put that scarred face before millions. We should acknowledge our wounded and all of their scars. I pray your husband will heal one day and laugh again. Bless you all.


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Becky Katz 5 years ago from Hereford, AZ Author

Hyphen, your heart shows with that comment.I do love you and Sunnie. Both of you are as good as can be with hearts full of love. I so appreciate your coming by and leaving this wonderful comment.


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Happyboomernurse 5 years ago from South Carolina

Hi Becky,

This was a powerful hub because you shared personal war stories of different generations of your family showing that all wars leave their scars on those who fight them (this of course, also includes women).

In particular, my heart went out to your husband whose unit saved so many and performed such daring and dangerous missions. His physical injuries sounded severe and it sounds like he is still suffering from PTSD. Sometimes it does get worse as veterans get older. There is a fellow hubber, Dr. Bill Tollefson who has written a book and developed a technique to help with specific flashbacks. You may want to check out his hubs, in particular the one titled "Combat PTSD: A Battlefield of its Own."

My own husband served 2 tours in Vietnam and has PTSD and other combat related health issues. I also have several uncles who served in WW II and one who had a 20 year military career but are all now deceased.

Thanks you for writing this hub honoring all of our veterans.

Voted up, useful, awesome, beautiful and interesting.


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Becky Katz 5 years ago from Hereford, AZ Author

Happyboomernurse, Thank you for coming by to pay your respects to our veterans. I will check Dr. Tollefson's hub. Dennis is totally disabled with his PTSD and gets paid by the VA for it. It only took 17 years from first filing to get it. I understand he was lucky that it was so quick. His other wounds are healed, except for some arthritis when it is cold and he had to wear something over his nose when it gets really cold. Kelvar (to replace the nose cartiledge) gives him migraines. headaches.


Sunnie Day 5 years ago

Becky I did want to say one more thing..Thank you for being the supportive wife for your soldier..You are an amazing and I know Dennis deep down knows what a special woman you are, strong, brave and true..You are the wind beneath his wings..

Sunnie


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Becky Katz 5 years ago from Hereford, AZ Author

Aww, Sunnie, you are going to make me blush. Thank you, my friend.


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drbj 5 years ago from south Florida

You are so right, Becky, we should be honoring our war veterans every day of the year. PTSD is very difficult for anyone to live with as well as their immediate family members. You are a very strong person, my dear. God bless you both.


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Becky Katz 5 years ago from Hereford, AZ Author

drbj, Thank you for coming by to honor our veterans. We find out how tough we are when we are given trials. I have found that I am strong but my veteran is stronger. He is a good person fighting every day to stay that way.


ThomasRydder 5 years ago

Becks, thank you for this hub. Your family members are all heroes who gave selflessly for their country, and there are times when dying in battle can be preferable to what awaits you in civilian life. I'm familiar with all the battles you noted, and they were all indescribable to any who were not there. Although we have suffered much loss of life in our wars with Afghanistan and Iraq, some good has come of it. Viet Nam left this country divided, and full of doubt concerning our military. Iraq and Afghanistan has renewed our awareness and gratitude towards the brave men and women who guard our country and our peace daily. Such a pity that it takes so much death to trigger that recognition. God Bless, Becks...OOOOH RAH!! (sorry...old Marine habit) :)TR


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Becky Katz 5 years ago from Hereford, AZ Author

Thomas, Thank you for coming by to honor our veterans. Vietnam was a terrible war because it not only divided our country but left so many young, patriotic veterans feeling like pariahs for serving their country. We don't all agree with Afghanistan and Iraq but we do support our soldiers. This also should have been done in Vietnam. My husband still feels bitter because when he came home, he had to change out of his uniform so that he didn't get hurt. He was not welcomed home. They still are welcoming each other home.

Old Marine habits can be good.


ThomasRydder 5 years ago

Oh, I know...it was disgusting that Viet Nam veterans were humiliated and hated for simply doing what their country asked them to do. A travesty, and will forever be a shame in history...:)TR


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Becky Katz 5 years ago from Hereford, AZ Author

I have told some who protested that they were stupid. It felt good.


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Story Page 5 years ago from England, the UK

The 11th of November is Remembrance day in UK too. We buy poppies to wear to raise money for a veteran's charity. In London on Sunday there will be wreaths of poppies laid on the war memorial which commemorates those lost in the First and Second World Wars and those lost since.


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Becky Katz 5 years ago from Hereford, AZ Author

Story Page, I am so happy that you came by to honor our Veterans. They sell poppies here also. One of the Veterans groups does it and uses the money to help Veterans get to Dr. appointments and help them when they need something. We will have ceremonies and parades all over the country. My husband has been getting notifications of events planned for the last 2 weeks. A lot of the restaurants will feed the Veterans a meal that day also. My husband usually makes the rounds, eating free meals all day. I am going to have to post a list of free meals before long. I have a huge list.


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always exploring 5 years ago from Southern Illinois

Becky, This is a wonderful tribute to all veternans, but especially to your husband who is still suffering the effects of war fought so many years ago. I don't have any family who ever served in a war, but i do have a dear friend named Tom who served in WW2. He was on Iwo Jima when the war ended. He was wounded twice, has two purple hearts, still has PTSD. It's amazing to me that the horror of war can last a lifetime. Thank you for sharing your story. My hope is that the leaders all over the world will realize that no-one ever wins in a war...


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Becky Katz 5 years ago from Hereford, AZ Author

Always, Thank you for coming by and honoring our veterans. PTSD goes away when it is treated immediately. Our country did not admit until the 80's that PTSD existed. If it is not treated, it just keeps getting worse. If you know anyone who is serving now, have them get evaluated.


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Alastar Packer 5 years ago from North Carolina

Becky, thank you so very much for this. Please tell Dennis I thank him from the bottom of my heart for his service and sacrifice. Do so wish things could turn around for the better with the PTSD and Agent Orange affliction. It's a true honor to read these stories on Veterans Day.

I had an uncle whom I missed getting to know by a few years who was wounded and captured by Germans after snipers killed everyone else in his squad on the Rhine river. A couple of months after returning home from near starvation he saw my mother peeling potatoes a bit thickly; and in a soft and reflective voice he said to her: "There was a time when there wasn't much I wouldn't have done for those peelings sis," and then slowly walked off to sit by himself for awhile in the fields. Mom from that evening on has never sliced her potatoes thick again, ever.


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moonlake 5 years ago from America

Great hub.

I would like to honor all the men in my family that served.

Great, great grandfather Joseph and his sons the civil war

Grandfather WW1

Dad and my uncles WW2

My husband Cuban Crisis all his brothers

My father-in-law WW2

My brother Viet Nam

My son

My nephews Afghanistan

My mother as an army wife


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Becky Katz 5 years ago from Hereford, AZ Author

Alastar, Thank you for coming by to honor our Veterans. Dennis will thank you when I give him the message. I also appreciate you telling us about your uncle. A very touching story. I will be out with my husband feasting at the free meals for him today with all of the other Veterans in town. Ponderosa Steakhouse and Applebees have free meals for the veterans today. Subway has a 6" sub for the veterans. O'Charley's gives 50% off and a $10 gift card. I do not know which he will choose today, he hasn't told me and it is his day, so he has to choose.

moonlake, Thank you for coming by and honoring our Veterans with your lovely poem. Telling their stories is an honor for us all. It makes those who do not know of their bravery, aware of their sacrifice for their sakes. And yes, wives, mothers, and fathers as well. Thank you.


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marcoujor 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Dear Becky,

I am so glad to have read this service related article, written with such heart and compassion today on 11-11-11.

My heart goes out to your husband, my BIL, my Uncle, so many clients I have served through the years with the physical and emotional scars, many too unnerved to ever discuss with family, let alone in a therapeutic forum.

There was a great percentage of the homeless population with some sort of PTSD diagnosis, usually from military service. As a country we have a far way to go with the treatment and compassion of our Veterans. Articles such as this to raise community awareness are a wonderful start.

Voted UP & UABI... all my best, for you are the best, mar.


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snakeslane 5 years ago from Canada

Thank you Becky Katz for sharing your family's Veterans' stories. Reading this on Remembrance Day here in Canada. So many lost in war. It is a sad day. Regards, snakeslane


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Becky Katz 5 years ago from Hereford, AZ Author

marcojor, I read the other day that 46% of the homeless are veterans. It is shameful that these men who gave so much are allowed to be. There are programs within the VA, which will help them find housing and treatment. All they have to do is go down there and ask. Thank you so much for coming by and honoring our Veterans today.

snakeslane, I appreciate you coming by to honor our veterans today. It is Remembrance Day in Canada and the UK, Veterans Day in the US. They are the same, a day to honor our Veterans. It is definitely a solemn day.


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mckbirdbks 5 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

Hey Becky, you didn't tell me to bring tissue when I came to visit. What an enormous Veterans Thank You you have published. Your stories of your family and the friends that were sacrificed and the sharing in the comment section touched me. What a heart you have.


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Becky Katz 5 years ago from Hereford, AZ Author

Mike, I am happy that you approve. Did you notice that you were mentioned? I am happy that you have come by to honor our veterans.

One other hubber veteran that has not been mentioned, is Ghost32. He will tell you that he is Vietnam era, but did not serve in Vietnam, he was in Germany.


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AliciaC 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

Thank you for this great hub, Becky, and for the tribute to the brave people who have served their country. I am so sorry that your husband is suffering from PTSD. I hope that he's able to get some effective treatment.


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mckbirdbks 5 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

Hello Becky, I did notice I was mentioned. I am always humbled when mentioned in the company of true heroes.


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Becky Katz 5 years ago from Hereford, AZ Author

AliciaC, thank you for coming by to honor our veterans. I am getting ready to take my hero to Applebees for his free meal. His PTSD was ignored too long for there to be an effective treatment. The VA blew it on that one. Luckily, our veterans now had the Vietnam veterans fighting for this to be listed as a service connected and treated disability, so they will be treated.

Mike, you served, you are also a hero. It is not your fault if you did not get sent to the front.


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susan54 5 years ago

Becky Katz, God bless our troops,Vote up!! Thank you for writing this hub.


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Becky Katz 5 years ago from Hereford, AZ Author

Susan, I so appreciate you coming by to honor our veterans. And definitely, God Bless our troops, and their families that are waiting for them to come home.


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Rosemay50 5 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

Becky I missed this, not getting your notifications.

Thank you for sharing your families stories. There are so many unsung heroes and it is heartbreaking to think of so many lives lost.

My partmer served in the vietnam war but in the medical corps. I hate to think of the images that still pervade his mind.

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Becky Katz 5 years ago from Hereford, AZ Author

Rosemary, in the chaos of this writing contest, it is amazing that we have not missed a lot more. Yes, medical would have some awful memories. I am not sure which would be worse. Seeing the destruction or fixing the destruction. Like they say, "War is Hell"!!! Thank you for coming by to honor our Veterans.


Jrandol62 5 years ago

BK, thanks for writing this Hub for myself, who served 12 active years in the USAF, and 4 reserve years in the USA. I am proud to be a Veteran, and I served with many great men and women. As a medic, I saw and did things I never would have thought of. My training got me through many crazy ordeals, and helped me to help others save many in those years. I never saw war, but I saw the results of war. My hats off to you and the other wives of the world that have sacrificed it all for your man/men. A military wife is a special breed as well so thank you BK. Tell your husband I salute him and I pray for his health to change for the better. No one knows the hell they went through except themselves. My tears come easy these days when I think of the hell our men and women went through in ALL of our wars, especially the young ones in these last 10 years after 9/11. I pray they all get home safely and soon!! God Bless you and God Bless the USA!!


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Becky Katz 5 years ago from Hereford, AZ Author

Jrandol62, I cannot take credit for being a military wife. I was in elementary school when he went to Vietnam and middle school when it ended. I have just had him since '86. He is proud to be a Veteran also and so are the members of the DAV that he is in. A great group. In fact, they just yesterday towed our van home so it didn't get impounded. They help Veterans. Dennis was in Special Forces and his training is the only reason he is alive. We thank you for serving also. His health is not going to get better. It is just going to go down unfortunately. Thank you for coming by to honor our Veterans.


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DrJez 4 years ago from Narara NSW Australia

Thank you for this hub. That's all I can really say!


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Becky Katz 4 years ago from Hereford, AZ Author

Thank you DrJez, and thank you to all of our Veterans for giving us so much and protecting us.


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dahoglund 3 years ago from Wisconsin Rapids

Hi Becky, not too many heroes in my family. My oldest brother was drafted at the end of WWII. My other brother was in the reserves during Korea.My Dad was between war I AND II. I joined the Navy Reserve but never had to go active.

Your father's broken ankle reminds me of a friend who was 4f for the draft due to having had a broken arm that didn't heal right. He later joined the Peace Corp and some of the training sounded tougher than the military, like being tied up and thrown in a swimming pool and having to get out of the bonds and then out of the water. sharing


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Becky Katz 3 years ago from Hereford, AZ Author

dahoglund, I thank all who serve. I don't just count those who go into a war zone as heroes. I know that all are ready to serve as they are needed. That makes them all heroes in my eyes. Thank you for sharing and for the visit. I appreciate it.

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