Santa and Mom 12-19-11

Visions of sugar plums....I am sure still dance in their heads.
Visions of sugar plums....I am sure still dance in their heads. | Source
Santa hands out the gifts
Santa hands out the gifts | Source
Santa and Mom
Santa and Mom | Source
Decorations
Decorations | Source
Ready for her nap
Ready for her nap | Source

Could this be the last ?

Another great time with my mom...We have spent four Christmas's now with Santa at the Alzheimer's facility she lives in and each one has been the same but still very different.


It is always amazing to watch these adorable elderly people almost be kids again. The big smiles and the comments should all be recorded because they only happen once, and then are forgotten by them. Today was absolutely no exception. Small decorated Christmas tree's (fake ones) were set in the middle of each round table, and without a doubt, fondled with amazement and love, a sparkle in their eyes and smiles on their faces. A volunteer guitarist was playing and singing the usual fun songs, as we all joined in . It was very relaxing while we waited for Santa Claus.


Though mom had her eyes closed , one wouldn't think she pays attention, but I know she does. She was aware of the party mood. We had gone to her room earlier and combed her hair, put it in a ponytail, then put on one of the caps she likes to wear. Found a nice spot at a window and sat there holding hands and singing.


I have to say right now that once I returned home and began this writing I was so frustrated I was crying. One of the caregivers had taken the best picture of mom and Santa with my camera, then asked me to send it to her because she had forgotten to use her camera like she did for all the others. Of course I gladly said yes...but I can be such a dork at times and while I was in my photo shop somehow I deleted it. I told myself "everything happens for a reason" and have finally settled down.


Well Santa came , made his way around to each resident and it was wonderful. Some of the things that came out of the mouths of these demented sweethearts had us in stitches...Santa asked questions like "what do you want for Christmas?"... Answers were varied...like..." I don't believe in Santa anymore"... "I want a husband"..."Can I have the cookies"..."I want you to sit down and talk to me"... "I want my family here"..."I want to go home"...

...and "have you been good this year?" "well I think so"..."That is debatable" ..."Maybe you can tell me. I forget"...Then he went back around giving them each a gift and it was again like he just arrived. Cookies and juice were served, a few more songs were song, then off to take their naps...Living in the Moment is all one can do.


One moment I know she enjoyed, was her dear friend of many,many years who came to see her while Santa was there. It took a few minutes while mom digested her friends voice, but then she opened her eyes and smiled...Thank you dear friend so much...


Mom is on Hospice and I am learning so much about all this and that death is tough. We have taken some meds away as they just aren't doing anything for her, at this point and she doesn't need extra chemicals going into her frail, weak body right now. She hasn't been eating a whole lot, but she opens that mouth when she wants too and as far as I am concerned she can have whatever she wants at this point. However since she doesn't speak it is trial and error on my part, but the last few days I have been taking her eggnog and she loves it. I remember as a child on the night we put up and decorated the Christmas tree mom and dad made eggnog...yummy was that good. She still enjoys it.


The question is (in my head) will we have another Christmas together? I plan on spending Christmas day with her.

The photo's I put here are from today December 19,2011 God Bless and MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE...:O) Hugs G-Ma

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Jackwms 4 years ago

This is, once again, beautifully written and a great tribute to your mom. Have a very Merry Christmas.


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G-Ma Johnson 4 years ago from NW in the land of the Free Author

Jackwms..Thank you so much...I just want to try to help others going through if I can...everyday trials can get tough and seem endless but one needs to "enjoy the moments" and keep going...Merry Christmas to you...:O) Hugs G-Ma


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Feline Prophet 4 years ago from India

You'll always have your memories, G-Ma! Merry Christmas and lots of love...:)


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G-Ma Johnson 4 years ago from NW in the land of the Free Author

Feline Prophet...Yes my dear I sure do and very pleased to have them. God is wonderful...Thank you for commenting and MERRY CHRISTMAS...:O) Hugs G-Ma


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Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

Usually even if you delete something you can go into your recycle bin and get it out if you haven't emptied your recycle bin, just pull it out with the mouse I think. I am always doing that and having to go in a get something out. Hope you find it, beautiful hub, will mark it up.


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G-Ma Johnson 4 years ago from NW in the land of the Free Author

Jackie Lynnley...wOW THANKS WILL TRY THAT...SOMETIMES i AM JUST A LOST SOUL.... oops for the caps...Merry Christmas my dear...:O) Hugs G-Ma


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WillStarr 4 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

Alzheimer's took my dad, so I'm praying for you.


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G-Ma Johnson 4 years ago from NW in the land of the Free Author

WillStarr ..Yes Will I know and I pray for you too...Thanks and she is still inspiring me as the others do also. This is a terrible disease and they say will get worse...:O( Merry Christmas my dear Man...:O) Hugs G-Ma


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Pollyannalana 4 years ago from US

Hope you will share Mom's Christmas with us when you get time. Hope you are well. Happy New Year, will push all the buttons.

Polly


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G-Ma Johnson 4 years ago from NW in the land of the Free Author

Polly..Bless you and HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU...:O) Hugs G-Ma


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Rosemay50 4 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

Your story is such a pleasure to read. So many are left alone and forgotten and family get tired of visiting, that's if they do have family or friends to visit them.

She has a wonderful daughter in you and whatever happens you will always have these wonderful memories. Each moment is precious.

Thank you for sharing


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G-Ma Johnson 4 years ago from NW in the land of the Free Author

Rosemay50...Thank you for commenting...and yes many there don't have visitors it is very sad. Happy New Year...:O) Hugs G-Ma


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Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

Did you recover your picture? You know things your mom is saying sound more like an uncle of mine they were over medicating with something and of course since my mom has passed on I cannot ask her what it was called. I know you say you keep up with all her meds but you may want to check about that. Is she asking questions and then answering herself? Thank you so much for the comments on mine, most people stay away from hubs like that but I hope it will help some. If just one it is worth it, but I think you are pretty keen on it all. Thank you so much.


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G-Ma Johnson 4 years ago from NW in the land of the Free Author

Jackie Lynnley ... Thanks for commenting and Well she can no longer even speak, just mumbles and it is so hard cause I know she is trying to tell me things. But her body is in pretty good health she only takes a few meds and that is for her blood pressure and thyroid, a tylenol and then Vit.C. a Probiotic and Zinc for her ammune system.

No I still haven't found it yet(the photo,)but my son-in-law gave me a few suggestions..:O) Bles you my dear...:O) Hugs G-Ma


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 4 years ago

G-Ma Johnson, What a lovely thoughtful way to spend Christmas with your Mom! It is not easy seeing your Mom diminish or do what I call "a slow good bye!" I see this as here giving you time to make the adjustment for whenever she passes on to the other side... Continue to cherish the wonderful fond memories of her in your heart that will always be a part of you!

Thank you for sharing, In HIS Love, Grace, Joy, Peace & Blessings! GOD BLESS YOU!


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G-Ma Johnson 4 years ago from NW in the land of the Free Author

DeBorrah K. Ogans...Thank you for your Blessings and I do try very hard to enjoy each moment...though it gets tough sometimes and I wonder why she has to live in this dreadful way...but I also know God is in control...Bless you and keep you safe...:O) Hugs G-Ma


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ripplemaker 4 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

G-Ma, reading about your experiences with your mom never fails to amaze me...how you view life, this challenging situation and how you are coping with it all. To another Christmas celebration with your mom. Hugs and blessings always. :)


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G-Ma Johnson 4 years ago from NW in the land of the Free Author

ripplemaker ..yes they have been a challenge...but God knows what I need and what she needs...So difficult at times , especially when I heard about Cris...:O) Hugs G-Ma

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