How to Spend Valentine's Day Single - Things to Do to Be Happy and to Survive Alone

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Does being alone have to be lonely? How to Survive

Having been single on Valentine's Day for much of my life, I can tell you that being alone does not have to mean being lonely.

When I haven't been with someone, I've always been aware of February 14th, but I've often found other ways to spend the holiday so that it wasn't a negative day for me. Perhaps it's just another day to you, or maybe being alone does bother you. Whatever your mindset, Valentine's Day can be a day that you take care of your own needs and pamper yourself a bit for a change.


How to Be Happy - Pamper Yourself!

Take Valentine's Day to pamper yourself. Even the Bible says you must love youself before loving others, so take care of "number one." Treat yourself to a manicure, pedicure, or a massage. Whatever your pleasure, indulge in it on this day.

Drown yourself (not literally) in a bubble bath with candles all around. Sip on champagne while listening to your favorite relaxing music. Enjoy Valentine's Day by nurturing and enjoying yourself.


Go to a Valentine's party!

If you are single, chances are that at least some of your friends are, too. One of your friends may be throwing a party for singles, and you may want to go! Heck, you may want to throw your own Valentine's Day party!


Have a "date" with a special person

Not having a romantic date doesn't mean that you can't spend Valentine's Day with someone special. Get together with a good friend who is also alone. Go out dancing or just stay home and talk.

You can also spend time with your favorite kids. I've sometimes given my nieces Valentine's gifts. Consider taking a niece or nephew or other special child out to a favorite place. Fast food? Ice cream? Movies? You will get your mind off of things and make a special kid's day.

If you're a pet lover, you can even spend the day with your beloved furry family. Take your dog or cats to the local pet store. Buy special chews for your dog and some catnip toys for your cats. Have a great time with your pet family that is always there for you.


Work on your favorite hobby

You might want to take some time to work on one of your favorite pastimes that you normally don't take the time for. Take your mind off any possible loneliness by enjoying something you love. What do you love to do?

  • play piano, guitar, or other musical instrument
  • scrapbook or organize photos
  • cook; create a new recipe
  • sew or work on a craft

These are only a few ideas. Just lose yourself in something you enjoy.


Get something done!

Another option is to make yourself feel good by accomplishing a chore that you've been wanting to complete. Have you been putting off cleaning out certain closets at your place? Do you need to organize the garage, or maybe just your movies? Whatever project you have been putting off, this day might be just the time to make you feel better about yourself by completing something that you have been wanting to get done for a long time.


Write or contact others

Another quiet activity is to reflect on the special people in your life. Write a letter to someone you love. Jot heartfelt notes on cards to send to people. Share your heart with others to make this a special Valentine's Day.

Email and phone calls are, of course, another option to connect with those you care about in your life.

Spend some quiet time

Enjoy your evening by reading, watching a movie, or writing in a journal. Exercise your mind with crosswords or Sudoku.

Maybe you've been wanting to try yoga. Do that or some other exercise in the comfort of your own home. Improve your mind or your body with some time alone with just YOU.


Make a list

I love making lists, whether for daily tasks or long-term goals. When you're spending Valentine's Day alone, you have the perfect time to reflect on your life. It's an excellent time to think about things you want to improve, tasks to work on, and goals to accomplish. Make a list of all the things you're thinking of that you want to implement.

There are other ways to survive being single on Valentine's Day. Look at all that you have to be happy about. Be productive or just have fun. Whatever you decide to do, just enjoy yourself.


Valentine's Day Question

How do you usually spend Valentine's Day?

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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

No longer single and also no longer have any money. LOL I think we'll have to be creative around here. :) Good suggestions Vicki!


lovedoctor926 3 years ago

Great suggestions for those who are single on Valentine's Day. My favorite on this list is pampering yourself whether it's going shopping or going to the hair salon to get my hair done.


tattuwurn 3 years ago

I used to dread being single on a V-Day, though now it seems it's just one of those ordinary days. I don't make a fuss on it anymore. But good suggestions though. Voted up. :)


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Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

Hey, Bill, as long as your'e together, that's enough, right? We don't do much on Valentine's Day. If we do, it's pretty cheap. :-)


comedygirls 3 years ago from Seville

If I'm alone I hang out with my friends!!!! Its not so bad.


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healthylife2 3 years ago from Connecticut, USA

These are such great suggestions. I loved that you said a date could be with someone special and doesn't have to be a significant other. Although I'm not single I see no reason for me not to pamper myself anyway:) Valentine's Day is one of those commercial days but it makes us feel like we should be romantic anyway. Voted up and shared!!


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Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

lovedoctor--Pampering ourselves with something we enjoy will definitely make any day better. Thanks for the input!


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Laurinzo Scott 3 years ago from Phoenix, Az.

This is an excellent hub Victoria... and these are some very smart, and practical ways to enjoy this day, and others

thank you for the link, and this one I am definitely Voting up

and pinning


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Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

tattuwurn--That's a good attitude to have. It really IS just another day. Thanks for reading!

comedygirls--Oh, yeah, there are always friends to hang out with! :-)


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Valentine's Day? I haven't made a big deal over it since I was a kid and brought those little cards to all my friends at school! I don't think I'm very romantic. ....but it hasn't seemed to cause me any issues!! LOL....

Hubby and I don't actually make a fuss over most special days or even Holidays....except for doing something for the grandchildren.

I guess we must feel every day is "special," and we have enough blessings to last another lifetime....? Yeah, Vee...that must be it!!..UP++++


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Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

healthylife2--You're right! We should pamper ourselves anyway--whether single or not, and no matter what day it is! :-)


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Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

Thanks, Laurinzo, for the compliments. And you're welcome for the link, too. :-)


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Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

Effer--Those school parties were the best. We got so many Valentines!!! My guy and I don't make a big fuss either, for Christmas either. We do more for each other's birthdays, but we are not extravagant. Yes, every day should be special, huh? Thanks for your comments. They always make me feel happy!


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Mhatter99 3 years ago from San Francisco

Thank you for sharing your useful suggestions.


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Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

You betcha, Mhatter! :-)


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catgypsy 3 years ago from the South

I, too, spend Valentine's Day alone, but it doesn't bother me. To be honest, I'm too emotionally worn out from getting through the Christmas blues that I just blow off Valentine's Day. I sometimes send friends cards and things but I just ignore it mostly. But this is a wonderful list of things for people who it bothers. Great hub!


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agusfanani 3 years ago from Indonesia

I'll do my favorite hobby when I'm alone. I find it more positive than let me be absorbed in front of TV.


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teaches12345 3 years ago

I know this will help many singles enjoy this day. It is hard to celebrate alone, but your ideas will make it pass with enjoyment.


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Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

A wonderful read and thanks for sharing Victoria. Have a great day.

Eddy.


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Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

catgypsy--I hear ya about Christmas. Wears me out, too. It's nice that you send cards to friends. :-)

agusfanani--That's a good plan. Much better than TV. Thanks for the comments.


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Glimmer Twin Fan 3 years ago

When I was single I always had a few friends over for dinner on Valentine's day. It was better than sitting home alone eating a box or two of chocolates. I never really minded being alone of Valentine's day and now that I am married, we really don't make too big a deal of it. Useful hub.


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Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

teaches and Eddy: Thanks for reading and commenting. I usually didn't mind Valentine's Day alone too much once I got a bit older! Happy V-Day!


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Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

Glimmer--I think that's a great idea for people to get with friends. My guy and I don't make a big deal, either. It's just a day, after all. :-)


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epigramman 3 years ago

Hello Miss Perfect 10 and 100 hub score:

Well I just do what I always do - I stay home and cry and feel sorry for myself because you never come and visit me no more Miss Lovely Lynn of Victorious Victoria - lol

Sending you warm wishes and good energy from lake erie time ontario canada 11:24am and it's never too late to wish you happiness, health and prosperity in 2013


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Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

Aw, Epi, your comments make my day. I haven't seen you enough lately. I may not be able to visit you in person, but I will come visit your wonderful poetry sometime soon. You're a doll. Thanks for the warm wishes and good energy. No, it's never too late, and I wish you the same. Good energy all around!


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Amanda108 3 years ago from Michigan, United States

As I'm not currently dating I tend to be spend Valentine's Day "alone", but as you pointed out that does mean you must literally be on your own - or sad. There is family to enjoy the company of and a little sister to offer a valentine too and sappy movies to watch!


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ChristyWrites 3 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

Victoria, I like that you are finding fun ways for singles to celebrate the day! It can be hard for people not in relationships and you touch on many good ways to spend the day. Thanks!


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Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

Amanda--You are so right! There are always special people to be with or things to do. Thanks for the comments!


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Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

ChristyWrites--I appreciate your feedback! Thanks so much!


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Denise Handlon 3 years ago from North Carolina

This is a very useful hub, Victoria. I liked the poll you included. You've listed many great ideas, but for me...it's just another day. I do acknowledge the day to others, however. I send out Valentine cards, and I always buy my nephew a box of chocolates and card. :) Sometimes I'll buy myself some flowers, but with our three cats climbing around now, I won't do that this year.


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Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

Denise--Yes, cats love to get into flowers, don't they? I hear you. If I ever get any, I have to put them up high. Sounds like you have your own plan for Valentine's Day. Good plans! Thanks for the input!


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL

Excellent ideas Vicki! Being alone does not mean one has to be lonely...you are still with the one person you love...Yourself! Eat, drink, be merry and enjoy yourself. Happy Valentines Week!


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Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

Sunshine--You are exactly right! It's great to enjoy alone time! :-) Happy VDAY!


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Nicole S 3 years ago from Minnesota

Awesome hub, lots of great ideas here. I love the pamper idea, that's likely what I will be doing!


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Mike Robbers 3 years ago from London

Hehe... nice tips. Indeed, it is a day that many people feel lonely... well, they shouldn't! :)


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Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

Nicole S--Pampering is always good! Thanks for reading and commenting!


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Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

Mike Robbers--No, people shouldn't feel lonely. They should celebrate themselves! :-)


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Kathryn Stratford 2 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

What great ideas! I like the thought of enjoying the holiday whether you're single or in a relationship. It's good to make an otherwise lonely day feel special or productive in some way, and get your mind off of things.

Thanks for sharing this with us, and have a wonderful day.

~ Kathryn


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Victoria Lynn 2 years ago from Arkansas, USA Author

Thanks, Kathryn, for the input. I totally agree (obviously!) You have a great day, too!

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