The Family As A Protective Shield For Children - Role of Family in Children's Lives

The Family As A Protective Shield For Children

The Family As A Protective Shield For Children. Let's face it, family is still the basic social institution that caters to the overall need of the children from birth until they are deemed independent to live on their own. That being said, people look and take the family as the primary structure in making sure that our children will have a good life. Everybody then is obliged to make sure that as an institution it will survive the test of times amidst shifting development and changing primary concerns of every individual specially the parents.

This hub focuses on the strength of the family as the protective shield for children -- for their overall growth -- physical, mental and social and the way it is changing brought about by the challenges it faced today and what we can do about it. Although the family confronts many challenges as a factor of social development and shifts in the economic situation, still family holds the key to primarily taking care of our children and we can't change that fact. What are we suppose to do if the basic social institution the family is misguided and confronted by the many problems we face today?

In celebration of the International Children's Day on on June 1 and with International Day of Innocent Children Victims of Aggression on June 4, join me in celebrating the sector of our society which needed most our love, guidance and care -- the children.

You can donate to children's causes by reading this hub -- Where to donate for children's causes, but before donating you may want to read this -- How to Avoid Schemers When Giving to Charities.

The Family As A Protective Shield For Children

The family faced a lot of issues these days and we as members of it is continually challenged to come up with solutions amidst all the problems the society is facing -- like economic crisis, disintegration of values -- protection of children form sexual predators, be it online or actual, in person, nutritious foods that are affordable and making sure that they are guided through education. Being a parents is a huge responsibility indeed.

Some of the major issues that the family is facing nowadays :

  1. increased in the rate of divorce that breaks the family apart and the first victims are the children
  2. domestic violence and physical abuse in children
  3. child labour -- forcing children to work at an early age when they should be just playing and going to school -- this is more prevalent in developing countries where laws are not in placed
  4. changing structure specially in the developing world in which one parent work overseas and the children left behind with the care of one parent -- thus at times causing the disintegration of family -- they break apart
  5. solo parenthood by choice-- the balance between choosing to rear the children alone or away form the other parents in virtue of conflict between parents or by choice
  6. economic problems which exacerbates the hardship and economic problems of the parents i.e, unemployment etc -- emotional consequences and how it affects children
  7. social issues and changing values brought about by technology for example "sexting", Internet pornography -- how to secure children from this
  8. violence in the home -- where the children sees physical and verbal abuse among parents and they affect them emotionally
  9. sexual abuse which the perpetrators are the family members which should protect the children in the first place, but they are the ones who are inflicting abuse to the children

The Family As A Protective Shield For Children

What We Can Do As Indidividual :

We as individual can't do much if the structures like economy etc are beyond our control, but with little efforts which can be done we can ensure that our children will be protected. Family will come along way as the protective shield for our children. There are social scientists that predict and say that family lost its value as the primary caretaker of society. On the other hand, yes there is an increasing rate of divorce but people still remarry and form a family.

Surely it is a huge task as it is big responsibility to raise children which are happy and which future are secure. Amidst of all the problems we are facing today, economic problems, lest we forget that the kind of lives we build for our children will be inherited by the next generation.

Let us consider these :

  • Family issues in choosing government leaders should be considered in carefully choosing leaders in the government.
  • We cant afford to be selfish as well, making sure that we think of our children first before we can make drastic move, like divorce -- Making it easier for the other parent specially if you decide on divorce to facilitate that you both take care of your children and for them to have easier access to the children as well.
  • Making it sure that we have time for them even if we are busy making a living by striking out balance between time and job. Children always remember the time we have with them.
  • Yes we are not perfect but in all our little ways we can build and make sure that our children are protected and taken care of. Little moves and action as a parents goes a long way, it is not difficult as long as we always think about them first.

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Michael Jay 6 years ago

Great hub! Thank you very much for sharing this.


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Thank you Michael, I appreciate your comment, Maita


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breakfastpop 6 years ago

Good parenting is an art and a science that has to be learned. I think it is the most important role anyone can play in life.


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Coolmon2009 6 years ago from Texas, USA

Good information and well written as usual. Thumbs up on this article Maita :)


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

thanks breakfastpop, it is the most important role indeed Mam, difficult but fulfilling one, Maita


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

thank you cool, Maita


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anglnwu 6 years ago

Good time to raise awareness on how to protect our children.The family is an important institution and should be protected as well. Thanks.


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

thank you angel and it is nice to see you, Maita


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samboiam 6 years ago from Texas

Very well done, Maita. In the busy world we live in we need to be reminded to slow down and make time for our kids.


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Thanks samboiam, yes, we need time for them as they will always remember the moments we are with them, Maita


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Hello, hello, 6 years ago from London, UK

This is a really great hub, Maita, and thank you for writing and sharing. Lovely thoughts and good advice.


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Nellieanna 6 years ago from TEXAS

Excellent choice for a meaningful hub, maita! I felt a lot of caring in your points and at times felt like you and other young parents of your generation are so BRAVE to be taking on such a responsibility and making real efforts to face it with strength, common sense and sensibility, - and I'm sure - everything you can summon within yourself.

There is one point I might add to what can be done to help and ease some of the strain of being young parents in such times as these - in fact to becoming young marrieds! Schools and homes can focus on teaching the skills, attitudes and preparations needed in choosing a life partner who is worthy to father or mother their future children, with whom ideals and goals are genuinely shared. And teaching young folks how to deal with those unexpected - but inevitable challenges and even pitfalls which can stop them in their tracks if they have no "plan B" to put into effect.

We train them how to get and hold jobs in the workforce, but the greatest and most significant job on earth - parenting -from choosing a mate to all the rest - is left to happen pell-mell to young folks who are swept up in hormonal situations with the first idea of what is involved!

So that's my 2 cents worth. Parents already in that position can start training their children - even in the crib - by setting an example of courage under fire of "outrageous slings and arrows" of LIFE going on - and can build appropriate to the child's level of understanding - the building blocks of qualities that will hhelp him or her grow into the kind of individuals who are bbetter prepared for the job too.


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Thank you hello for the appreciation, Maita


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Excellent points Mam Nellieanna, I think it will be under Home Economics or elective both for boys and girls as early as the elementary years. It will be very helpful of the education sector can do that alongside the family's effort with the children -- molding them into a good citizen,

For one, I think a good education which will teach them the value of good parenting is a must, lets work for that,

Thank you very much, Maita


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BkCreative 6 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

There was one time we knew the need for the extended family - you know grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins - now somehow it is a single mom expected to do all these roles.

In the many years that I have taught I can always tell when a student comes from a great extended family, they are more mature and well rounded. One 8th grader has such a proud walk. One day in talking he told me when he was younger his grandfather always walked him to school and so his gait became like his grandfather. Wow! Imagine how protected he was, first of all being walked to school regularly and then learning how to walk like his very proud grandfather.

I have to say Maita - our children have almost no family at all because mom being a single parent is often working two jobs to support the household - no one is raising our children - the village no longer exists. And I am adamantly opposed to schools being the catchall - which we've become. It simply does not work. Children need a family to protect and educate them from birth - and then sustain their well-being, it must be consistent. Take an elementary school class of say 25 children - the teacher is supposed to address the needs - of 25 different children, well, no woman gives birth to 25 children at one time - her job is impossible to begin with.

Thanks for a timely topic that needs to be addressed.


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Carolyn, you are very mostly correct, The school is just a second home but stil the family nurtures the child until they are able to sustain on their own, we become a society of too much into finding jobs etc that we forgot to take care of our families, specially children,

Exactly what you said, there is a big difference in a child which grew up in a safe and comfortable family than otherwise. Family is still the major nurturance of children, and I think it will be this way.

I so much appreciate your comments, I know you have been a teacher it means a lot, Thank you, take care BK, Maita


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suny51 6 years ago

what I feel pretty,child gets to learn so many things when still unborn and reflects them by smiles,cries he/she makes when still infant,and gets to learn a lot before schooling begins,so parents have a lot to do with that.Maita.


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

thank you, you are corect suny, parents do a lot with child learning and nurturance, Maita


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States

Miata, I think this is an excellent hub and all those things you mentioned are so important for children. When I was writing about children huffing, one thing that really hit me was that children that young are experiencing hopelessness. I think that is happening exactly because of the things you wrote about. Great hub.


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Nellieanna 6 years ago from TEXAS

what great comments too! Thanks for the reply to mine, Maita. BK - this point about the extended family is central to the theme of the series I'm writing on my hubpage - Magnolia. My premise is that most families before WWII were extended families and the generation going off into the war were products of it and took it so much for granted. Their own kids - the Boomers, though - really had almost no contact with all that, but had many other things in their immediate world - more material things, less time with their parents who were busy trying to provide those things they'd somehow come to think essential. Consequently - a "generation gap" happened - the parents not understanding what was missing and the kids having no idea what it was. The kids began to create their extended families among themselves - but without the wisdom and family traditions of such a family. Many results of all that - many of which I think are still rverberating in our society and in the world.

What do you think?

Suny - I could not agree with you more! A child's concepts begin before birth and accelerate more for the next few years than they ever will in the same amount of time for the remainder of his life! Thanks for mentioning that!

I hate to admit it in a way - but mothers not being at home with their children is a loss nothing can ever make up for. (dodging pans and notebooks being hurled at me!)


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Mam Nellieanna,

excellent points you made about extended family, the children when the fanmily or extended family are not there turn to peers for consolation and peers are the people who most influence when they are outside the home -- without guidance from parents, they form a value -- different than what is good for them, they are more into risk behaviors, sexual - and non sexual experimenting with drugs cigarettes etc, these some stuff are most into teenagers stage, but now as the society becomes more industraialized and mother is working outside the home -- lesser time for children -- children are into more riskier lifestyle --

Thank you mam Nellie, I hope your series of Magnolia will be published soon?

and what is your stand about the history textbooks here at TEXAS?

Thanks to you Mam, love you, Maita


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Thank you Pamela, yes you are right, family is being challenged more than ever and it is the primary source of nurturance so there is confusion to chidlren, Maita


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MsCookM 6 years ago

Hi PTD, very nice and well written hub! I definitely agree that family is the most important part of each person.


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Dave Mathews 6 years ago from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA

Ate' Maita, Hi! The children of the world are our greatest gift and resuouce ofr the future of this world we shoud cherish them and do everything possible to help them to be all that thet can be.

KUYA Dave.


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

thanks MsCOOKM, family is the basic unit of instituion, Maita


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Kuya Dave, yes you're definitely right and you summed it for us, Take care always, Maita


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manlypoetryman 6 years ago from (Texas !) Boldly Writing Poems Where No Man Has Gone Before...

You said an incredible amount when you said: "the kind of lives we build for our children will be inherited by the next generation." Another one of many, many well said/written Hubs by our PDH!Enjoyed reading this one and agree that the Family is the Protective Shield for the Child. it is a very important task that the Family has been given.


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Micky Dee 6 years ago

We have to protect, support, and raise our children. We must raise everyone up. Thanks Maita!


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lxxy 6 years ago from Beneath, Between, Beyond

I agree Maita! The family structure, no matter how it's comprised, is vastly superior than lonesome tribes.


princess kitkat11 3 years ago

We must love what god gave us...because its a gift !

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