Treat Yourself To Special Days
Whether the special day is preset, such as birthdays, New Years, Valentines Day, etc, don’t wait for others to provide that special something to you. Some are lucky to have people who we can rely on to do things that feel special to us. But others of us find that relying on or waiting for others to make us feel special just leads to disappointment which tends to feel not special at all.
Either way, why should we feel the need to wait for others to form these special days for us? Why do we need to put the sense of being treated special in the hands of others? Sure, it’s nice when others let us know that we are special to them; but why not take responsibility for providing ourselves with that sense of importance? After all, the one who should love us the most and with whom we should be most important to is us.
On one of my birthdays, I was feeling very down because no one provided me with any recognition on my special day. On this day, I felt like I wasn’t remembered by anyone and I moped around for most of this day. Then, it dawned on me that I don’t need anyone else other than myself to make my day special. So, I set out to give myself my own special day and it turned out to better than any other birthday. The reason why, was because I did the things and got things that I really enjoyed; it was all on my own terms. It turned out that my own company was pretty good and I knew myself better than anyone else, so the love I showed myself was the most special. Since then, I have never felt down again when I don’t get that special treatment from others on those occasions.
Here are some ideas to provide a treat yourself for making your own special days spectacular and all about you.
Take Extra Care of You
Treat yourself to some extra “you time” for the day. For me, this means taking time to lavish myself in special treatments, such as a relaxing scented bath and putting extra time into my appearance and attire for the day. If you’re like me, this simple act of providing yourself with some extra care and attention is extra special treatment for your special day. You’d be surprised how some extra special care for yourself can make you feel pretty special. If you have the budget to do so, you could choose to do this by treating yourself to a spa day.
Get Yourself a Bouquet
Nothing says “you’re special” like a bouquet of your favorite flowers. I’ve heard that guys enjoy getting flowers too. So go pick yourself out bouquet of flowers and take them home or to your workplace to enjoy. If you want to go a bit flashier with this, you can treat yourself by ordering a bouquet and have them sent to you. You could also surround yourself with other fun bouquet type arrangements, such as a bunch of balloons or other creative arrangements that you would enjoy seeing and would brighten your day.
Get yourself your favorite treat. Maybe that would be candy, ice cream, specialized coffee, baked goods, even your own birthday cake or Valentines Day goodies. You can also treat yourself to your favorite meal out or a drink. If you feel uncomfortable dining out alone, pick or up or make your favorite dish to eat at home. Whatever kind of treat that feels special to you, get it for yourself and enjoy.
Cards & Gifts
Why not get a card for yourself? Find a card that makes you smile and feel special on this special day. You can also write a loving note or poem to yourself. Showing such appreciation and care to ourselves means a lot more than most of us realize.
Get yourself a present that you would enjoy. Anything from your favorite self care products, massage kits, books, an outfit, a tech gadget; whatever it may be that you would enjoy and that also fits into your budget. Treating yourself special still requires that you live within your budgeting means.
Stay In or Go Out; Do What You Enjoy!
Go see a movie that you’d really like to see, or rent your favorite movie and settle in complete comfort with your favorite treat at home. Enjoy the pleasures that are your own and that other people most likely wouldn’t think to fill your special day with even if they try.
Go on a day trip. Whether you like to visit the downtown stores, head out to the countryside, spend time at a park/local gardens, go to a museum, head to the beach or spend time in the mountains. Think of where you feel most peaceful and happy and make a date with yourself to go there.
Grab a Friend
Be willing to initiate a special day with a friend. Other people may not know what you’d like to do on your special day and often, in the busy-ness of our own routines, the special days of others often has a tendency to sneak up on us and leave us totally unprepared to provide something unique and special to you. Presenting a suggestion to them may be a great way to treat yourself to sharing your time with those you greatly enjoy being in company with without over-burdening them with expectations or disappointments.
Any Day Can Be a Special Day
You don’t need to wait for your birthday, Valentines Day, or the few preset special days per year to do something special for yourself. Why not treat yourself special on a more regular basis? Every now and then, choose one or two special ideas simply to brighten your day, make yourself smile and to remind yourself that you are indeed special.
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