How to make Valentine's Day Traditions of Love.

Valentine's Day, the same as every holiday has become way too commercialized and mostly we have ourselves to blame because we fall for all the slick marketing. Really, does all the stuff we buy make us happy? I'm thinking no. And, can't we show how much we care at anytime, not just as set by a specific holiday. I'm thinking yes. Love daily, make it special, and make it yours.

Everyone wants to feel special.

When asked what I would want to receive as a gift on any occasion, my answer is usually a request to simply do something nice for me that day. Everyone wants to be loved and feel special now and then. Giving doesn't have to be expensive. It can be as simple as -

  • Breakfast in bed.
  • Go for a walk together.
  • Help with chores around the house.
  • Set the bathroom up for her to enjoy a leisurely soak in a bubble bath with music and candles.
  • Supply her with some magazines and insist she relax while you take the kids out.

Just do something out of the ordinary that says I am thinking about you and I care.

Now I'm not saying don't ever buy anything.  I just think that sometimes we get too caught up in the competitiveness and marketing that we lose sight of the actual purpose and meaning of holidays.  Don't worry; I am not going to get into the whole meaning of holidays except to say that mostly it is a time to get together with loved ones.  What I am suggesting, is that before you run off to the store to figure out what to buy for Valentine's Day stop a moment and give some thought to how you want your special someone to feel.  I know some people will say they hate Valentine's Day because it forces you have to think about what to do or buy.  Well guess what, relationships do take a little effort.  But I'm sure that we can all recall a time when a little effort paid off with lasting memories.

OK so here are a few more simple ideas to help make this day personal for you:

Instead of buying a card write a love letter, a little note or a simple poem. Receiving a personal expression of love would make anybody feel special. State what it is that you love about him or her so much, what makes you happy, what makes you laugh or share a fond memory. This would certainly bring you closer and be a personal reminder of your special relationship. Isn't that what Valentine's Day is all about? Maybe it could become an annual tradition. Keep the letters in a safe place or put them in plastic protector sheets and make a personal book. Bring them out now and then to read each other.

Turn up the heat.

Once you are both in a loving, giving mood, turn up the heat a little. Maybe write an additional note letting him or her know what exactly you would enjoy sexually. Try reading a sex book together. Check out some new positions, games or toys. Decide that this is the night to break down the wall between you. Let down your guard a little and open up the lines of communication. What have you got to lose? And there is so much to gain from getting to know each other more intimately.

Make it a Friday night tradition.

We all have collected lingerie over the years - now long forgotten in a drawer somewhere. Dig it out or go through your closet and put together a sexy outfit. Revive it, experience it again. I'm sure you didn't wear it too long the first time anyway. Put on that lingerie or dress you love so much but never get to wear. Strap on your heels and meet him at the door when he gets home from work. I will bet he will forget the stress of the day. Have his favourite drink and meal ready for him. Candles are a given. Rub each other's feet later as you relax listening to music. You don't need to go out to dress up. Do it for each other and who knows where that will lead. Have fun. Make it a Friday night tradition.

A cherished memory of love.

The whole flowers, chocolate and jewellery thing is a little over-rated. Relax, I don't mean no flowers and no chocolate but too much is too much. With every woman in the world on a diet who wants a big ass box of chocolates anyway. And really, do we need to go into debt buying a huge bouquet of flowers or jewellery to say I love you. I think everyone has gained a respect for finances these days. Years ago when money was tight my husband started giving me a single rose every Valentine's Day. At the same time he would give our two daughters each a single carnation. That became a special tradition that he continued even when our girls grew into young women. He has since passed away and that simple Valentine tradition is a cherished memory of love.

Wine and dine with friends.

As you can see Valentine's Day doesn't have to be just for couples. Instead of staying home depressed that you haven't found that special someone yet, plan a get together with a group of single friends. Make your own special Valentine's Day tradition. Have a pyjama party with movies, games and a little red wine. Or get dressed up and go out for dinner together. Make it special for the occasion and have everyone wear red. Maybe a red dress, red shoes, a red shirt or even red socks. You get the idea. Add red lipstick with of course, a little red wine. No crying in your beer allowed tonight.

Love comes in many forms - family, friends and lovers.  Make it special to you and yours.

Don't forget your Mom, especially if she is alone. Stop by to give her a hug. A simple gesture of love goes a long way in letting her know you care.

No need to stress out for Valentine's Day. Keep it simple but put in a little effort. Most holidays, are great reminders to show you care. It would be nice if we didn't need reminders but alas in our busy lives, we do. I try not to get caught up on getting together on a holiday's set specific day. Sometimes schedules just don't allow it. I am happy as long as a plan is in place for another time. We don't have to follow the perceived rules of the holidays.

I have to add that I love a gift certificate for a facial during these dry winter months. Oh, uh, no, that wasn't a hint honey.....really.

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ShadestoShoes 6 years ago

ty for this hub I'm with ya about coming up with more sentimental ideas for your hunny on the most romantic of holidays! Now a days my ideal Valentines is spending it with my 2yr old daughter and making a nice lasagna dinner!

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uliveulearn 6 years ago from Canada Author

I can relate Shades. I am reminded of Valentine dinners with my two young girls. We would light candles and make it a special meal. We all really enjoyed it. You are creating lovely memories with your daughter. Thanks for the comment.

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sunkentreasure 4 years ago


Make your love one feel special everyday.

Do not allow your lives to become routine -

prepare lots of different activities to enjoy.

Never take your loved one for granted.

Keep your love forever precious,

sacred and beautiful.

What you put into your love

is what you will get out of your love.

Enrich your lives with prayer.

Always be your partners best friend.

© Bernard Levine

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