Why should men spend more money on Valentine’s Day than women do?

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   ngurecoposted 11 years ago

   Why should men spend more money on Valentine’s Day than women do?

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   Frangipanniposted 11 years ago

   I don't really think this is necessary at all but maybe they get stuck for ideas so pay anything they need to when they come up with something. Also it is genetically encoded from caveman days that men show a mate that they are top of chain/ the strongest of the group etc. Now days this has translated to money instead of killing a mammoth!!! Lol.

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   Cantuhearmescreamposted 11 years ago

   Is this supposed to be a trick question? I’m not sure if the question is coming from a man’s point of view like “Why Should I?” or if it is coming from a woman’s side like; “Go ahead, tell him… tell him he’s supposed to spoil me for Valentine’s Day”. Either way, if a couple’s biggest question about Valentine’s Day is surrounded on money then there is a bigger problem. I have told the non-romantic, non- sentimental men in my life that it’s never about money. Birthdays, anniversaries, Mother’s Day, Valentine’s Day, etc. As generic as it sounds, it’s the “thought that counts”. I used to have a long-time boyfriend that was great for buying the first card he saw with a heart on it and whatever was displayed on the “Valentine’s” end cap at the local pharmacy. I might buy him a few little things but I always tried to make the day special by the actions that I took and always made him a cheesy, from-the-heart kind of card with a homemade poem professing my love inside. He may have spent more but I usually felt gipped. I had another boyfriend that never acknowledged any of these “special days” and it used to get me so sad. The first year we were together, all he did was say “Happy Birthday” on my birthday and after a very non- eventful day with no special attention being placed on me, I kept anticipating what he was going to do for my birthday. When we said our “goodnights” that evening I just broke down. I had anticipated something all day and once the day was all over and nothing happened, my feelings were crushed. For one thing, his birthday was only just over a month prior and I bought presents, spoiled him with special meals, took him out, made him a card and a cake, how could he not acknowledge me? I told him once he realized that I was obviously upset that I didn’t want him to make a “big” deal or spend any money on me, but if he would have wrote “Happy Birthday” on a napkin he would have made my day. I guess a lot of women just expect or want too much and a lot of men just don’t think about it. Too bad we couldn’t find a happy-medium. Anyhow, I think that Valentine’s Day should just be a day to appreciate the loved one in your life and not about who gets who what. I’ll take something from the heart any day over something on the Valentine’s display at Walmart or Gas Station carnations.

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      wildove5posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I recently wrote a hub on almost the exact sentiment you just shared.  Please tell me you dumped that guy!

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      Cantuhearmescreamposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      wildove5,
      I will absolutely check out your Hub. ...and no...still holding on to the hope that he'll someday love me the way I want him to. Isn't funny how women can give excellent relationship advice to others but yet can't follow our own?

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   wildove5posted 11 years ago

   You need to read my hub!  I totally agree, and I'm a woman! LOL Silly holiday!

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   JimTxMillerposted 11 years ago

   Exactly "who" is it that says they "should"? Is there some Valentine Spending Police Squad at work now that I am not aware of?

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   peachpurpleposted 11 years ago

   No, it is not compulsory for men to spend more money on Valentine's day. My man doesn't spend a single cent of me today. He just wanted me to cook for him and doesn't say nor give anything to me. Married men are not romantic anymore especially with kids around.

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