Marcy Mother's Day is the WORST DAY EVER for me. There is NO escape. Billboards, radio, signs in all the stores at the mall, the commercials on television drive me up a wall. The week before Mother's Day my stomach goes into knots and I have crying spells.
I hardly knew my biological mom...and she died around age 52 of cancer of the larynx.
I was raised by my grandmother because my mom had abandoned my sister at I at age 2. Our dad's parents adopted us and they became 'mom and dad.' Our grandmother died on our 16th birthday of a massive stroke...we never were able to enjoy turning 16. Lost our biological dad at age 11. Devastating.
Worst of all, my grown son has not entered our home for 14 years. There was a bad fallout the Christmas of 9/11. Long story, but before that happened, he came here all smiles every mom's day and brought me a gift and spent some time with me. All that is gone...his last two born children we heard about or read in the paper. His kids barely know us. He has a son 18 who will graduate next month. Horrible wasted years of not ever getting to know his 3 sons and a Chinese girl they adopted. This is a horrible tragedy. Unfixable.
Today I got a text 'happy mothers day hope you have a wonderful day, love you.' That is it most years. Sometimes nothing.
Our daughter loves me so much.
Let me tell you the guilt, despair, and SILENCE has been so loud in my heart and soul. What digs in my gut the most is that he DID love me...Now Dates set to meet for lunch are always cancelled or the invite never acknowledged. NEVER a thank you for the cards, gifts and notes I have sent to him, his wife or kids.
To all grown kids who are estranged from their parents here is my message:
You may be the most wonderful parents in the world and raised terrific adult children. But you are TERRIBLE children to your parents to break their hearts like this, especially on Mother's Day and Father's day. To be loved by so many but ignored by a grown child is the worst hell in the world. That one soul I gave birth to and loved...I have no words. Thank you for this question so that I could vent Sparklea