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What do women really want on Valentines day?

  1. shazwellyn profile image84
    shazwellynposted 7 years ago

    I've just completed a hub on what valentines day gifts for what women really want.  Looking into a man's perspective, I don't think they really have a clue!  So, thought that a discussion on this would be really helpful...

    So what do you think women really want?

    1. rmshdc profile image59
      rmshdcposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      An expensive wrist watch.
      second option: romantic holiday

      1. shazwellyn profile image84
        shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Or, as said in my hub, a picnic under a bus shelter filled with balloons within a selected setting!   

        I think women want thoughtfulness and something to cherish to remind them of that time. x

        1. The Rope profile image60
          The Ropeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Oh "Shaz", please post the balloon fantasy in my valentine's hub in comments - it's really too good not to share as many places as possible!!

          1. shazwellyn profile image84
            shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            I hope you liked my comment.. good hub btw! x

    2. Unkotare profile image60
      Unkotareposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Complete control of the planet!

      1. shazwellyn profile image84
        shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Err... actually we have that already only YOU dont know it! lol x

        1. Unkotare profile image60
          Unkotareposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I said 'planet.' The word you are thinking of only has five letters.

          1. shazwellyn profile image84
            shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            No ... I meant planet... hehehe... world domination! lol

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      Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      a kitten or a puppy or a diamond ring....maybe some nice earrings with matching bracellete and necklace

      Of course all I want for Vday is a relaxing fun day with my husband, no presents needed. but if he was to get me a present...I am still waiting for a pair of good combat boots. Yes I know weird gift but hey that is what I want smile

      1. Valerie F profile image59
        Valerie Fposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I wanted hiking boots for Christmas! smile

        Seriously, St. Valentine's Day doesn't have to be elaborate or expensive. Just pay attention to what you know your significant other likes, go with that. But if she likes, say, pizza, don't just stick some frozen bit of cardboard in the oven.

        1. shazwellyn profile image84
          shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Yes, it is about being truly thoughtful!

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          Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Sweet I'm not the only one who just wants boots for a holiday big_smile

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      cosetteposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      i luv getting flowers. i've gotten long-stemmed red roses in a big white box with a red satin ribbon around it. what's not to love about that? i also got a giant pink carebear with a heart on his tummy...that's on my bed and i cuddle with it and think of who gave it to me. i also like getting chocolates...good ones not cheap ones from Walgreens. and dinner out at a fabulous posh restaurant, not TGI Friday's.

      1. shazwellyn profile image84
        shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        actually, I have stated in my hub that is exactly What women do not want!  Hey, maybe I am wrong?!  Or maybe I am a different generation??? x

    5. Cagsil profile image60
      Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Someone or anyone to be respectful, as to, understanding of their need to feel desired or wanted.

      Most materialists want something or object.

      On Valentine's Day, a women wants to feel special, over and above, other individuals, so that they can have the loving feeling/connection with others. smile

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        Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        see, its not that hard. one stupid day....please just say thank you...

      2. shazwellyn profile image84
        shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        absolutely caggie!  You are the first man who seems to be in tune.  I know by your postings you are specialx

        p.s. a token item is nice though... to help us remember (symbolic representation), especially when times are tough!

    6. secondreview profile image60
      secondreviewposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Every woman is different.  Some are sentimental and appreciate romantic occasions or gifts that display your knowledge of them.  Others are more practical and believe that if you value them, you'll give them something of value.  It also depends on how you love them and what you love about them.

    7. mega1 profile image81
      mega1posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      um, world peace?

      1. shazwellyn profile image84
        shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Absolutely!

    8. falcon64 profile image60
      falcon64posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      A necklace with a diamond embed.

    9. Perpeptua profile image61
      Perpeptuaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I'd reckon they favour sex over romance

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      kimberlyslyricsposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I honestly never knew Valentines Day people exchange gifts?  We don't, but I best be getting a list together for Tiffany's I swear-truly I did not know this transpired, however we both don't celebrate it, which could be why ha, I'll stick to surprise days, many more of them, so in a long winded way, I suppose my answer is, 'no clue'

  2. Anath profile image73
    Anathposted 7 years ago

    I am a romantic... I don't care about jewlery or fancy gifts.  My most memorable gifts are those that were unique. 
    For example instead of going to a fancy restaurant I prefer my boy cooking dinner for me and setting the scene like you see it in romantic films: lots of candles, flowers, champagne, a cozy shaggy rug by the fireplace.  That for me shows me that he cares and not just went into a shop, asked the shop assistant for advice and came out with a nice packet choosen by her!

    1. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Absolutely my point in the hub!  It is about being thoughtful and putting love into the experience... not a box of chocolates picked up from the petrol garage! x

      1. Anath profile image73
        Anathposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Yes, that is soooo off putting! especially if you discover the price tag still attached to it sad

        1. shazwellyn profile image84
          shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          They really dont have a clue do they?!

  3. Hmrjmr1 profile image81
    Hmrjmr1posted 7 years ago

    Did a hub about it Shaz; advising men It's the card stupid! But essentially I concur it's the thought of love and passion on that special day. Always worked for me no matter if I had money or not. (as a soldier more often not). cool

    1. Anath profile image73
      Anathposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      The only Valentine's card that I DO remember is one that a man made himself for me.  He had drawn a picture of my on the front and invented a poem about us.  That is the only card I have ever kept!

      1. shazwellyn profile image84
        shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Again... you prove my point in my hub!  hehehe.. We love things from the heart, especially when it is made!  This is thoughtful! x

    2. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Thats what SHE tells you!

      "oh, What a lovely pair of panties - just what I always wanted!" LOL

    3. Sa Toya profile image85
      Sa Toyaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      aww good on ya. For me it's the same I like thoughtfulness, something specil not something expensive.

      I'm not a Valentine's girl anyway. I tink it's just about the money.

      On Valentine's Day if I was with someone I'd just want to spend the day with them. Or at home cooked meal and cuddles n snuggles, with lit candles and all the lights off a DVD, not romance but action, epic or comedy.

      1. shazwellyn profile image84
        shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Exactly Sa Toya.  I don't think they get it, do they?  Take a look at this... hehehe...5 worst valentines day gifts...

        http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SS5I_XgU … r_embedded

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    poetlorraineposted 7 years ago

    it is nice to have a man just arrive home with a gift, for no other reason than that he loves you...... they must know that is what every woman wants.... well every woman i know.   They seem to fall short on that score though.....  I prefer my man to go out for the day on Valentines day and give me some peace........ only joking darling of course

    1. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Are you sure it isn't for this?---->

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    poetlorraineposted 7 years ago

    they do not have a clue is right.  Worse still a boquet of dead flowers, killed by the petrol fumes from the garage.....


                         MEN

    1. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Notice how the men have gone quiet and are not defending themselves?  They might be looking at my hub to get some ideas!  Lets hope so... they actually might get it right this year! lol

      1. DogSiDaed profile image61
        DogSiDaedposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I'll try and defend myself. tongue Provided I'm not single by next Valentines I was thinking of just getting a few assorted things, some practical, some fun, and putting them in a nice little wicker basket I found smile Oh and some good quality flowers too smile I already know the place, just not sure what variety to get tongue

        1. efeyas profile image93
          efeyasposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I think that is a great idea! Its unique and thoughtful.

          1. shazwellyn profile image84
            shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Yes, it is really sweet.  I think she will like this!x

      2. frogdropping profile image86
        frogdroppingposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Shaz - you could light it up like Vegas, have big fat 100ft neon arrows pointing at it - and some guys would still take a wrong turn wink

        As for me, I'm happy to enjoy a good meal and a bottle of wine. I like to think I'm appreciated every day of the year. He certainly is smile

        1. shazwellyn profile image84
          shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          NEON LIGHTS ABURN!  I would much rather stick it up and light it ...hehehe... KABOOM! lol

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    Miss Takeposted 7 years ago

    noi i doubt if they will get it right.  The best thing to do is go into a florist choose your flowers, chose what you want on the card, even pay for them yourself, then see if you can get the money from him later........

    1. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Absolutely!  I give up with em!

      ~~~~~~Come on guys .... defend yourselves! ~~~~~~

      1. Hmrjmr1 profile image81
        Hmrjmr1posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Hey I have driven through SCUD missle attacks in The Gulf War to use an AT%T Telephone tent in the dessert to call my huny on Valentines Day 1991! The Line was over a 1/4 mile long of guys doiing the same thing as me. There are plenty of us that 'get it'
        Gotta go I got Volunteer work at the Hospital this morning but I'll be back later to continue this!! Game On Ladies! cool

        1. shazwellyn profile image84
          shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          ... and all because a girl loves.... MILK TRAY! lol (thats chocs for anyone not familiar witht he advert) Look here....

          http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i0ya5kh4_ZM

  7. prettydarkhorse profile image64
    prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago

    have written a hub about this, morning

    1. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Me too babes! They are useless in valentines!!

  8. thekidandblue profile image61
    thekidandblueposted 7 years ago

    the remote control

    1. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Now that is funnY!

  9. DogSiDaed profile image61
    DogSiDaedposted 7 years ago

    I still remember what I did for my first ever girlfriend... I wrote her a poem, inside a card that took forever to make, I cut a circle out of the card, cut two heart shapes, shaded them red, stuck them together and hung them from silver thread in the middle. I also got her a teddy bear and a wooden rose... Ahh distant memories xD

    1. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      This is what I have inserted into my hub about teddy bears! LOL

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pm34RVQO … r_embedded

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    shinujohn2008posted 7 years ago

    We need hot kisses and bites that are memorable for years

    1. DogSiDaed profile image61
      DogSiDaedposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      What you mean like biting so hard you get scarred for life? xD

  11. wychic profile image79
    wychicposted 7 years ago

    Clean dishes and an empty garbage can that I didn't have to do myself wink.

    K, on to seriousness...for myself, I'd much rather have some token that shows he's thinking about me and wants to spend time with me, rather than buying me something generic like flowers or chocolates. An evening out together even if it's just for a walk, a houseplant that goes perfectly in that spot I've been wanting to fill, my favorite brand of dark chocolate, or a home-cooked meal with that one dish I really liked but haven't had in months...all of these show that he's actually paying attention and/or wants to spend time with me, THAT'S the best thing for Valentine's Day smile

  12. Greg Cremia profile image60
    Greg Cremiaposted 7 years ago

    I am taking my better half to Mardi Gras for Valentines Day.

  13. WizardOfOz profile image60
    WizardOfOzposted 7 years ago

    I think I missed the news flash wink  Whatever we guys do it will be wrong, right?  From the cynical me.

    I have other answers available lol

    1. wychic profile image79
      wychicposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Only if you did something else wrong, it's just a really good excuse to mentally beat you over the head for something we've been seething about. Later we'll get mad at you because you didn't realize that it really had nothing to do with the Valentine's Day thing, and then get mad because you don't know what it is you're in trouble for. tongue

      I guess it all depends on the person, I'm perfectly happy if all he does is bring me a can of pop from the break room at work or gives me a hug I wasn't expecting, mileage varies according to the female though smile

  14. Eaglekiwi profile image74
    Eaglekiwiposted 7 years ago

    To be loved from the heart wink

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    Justine76posted 7 years ago

    I HATE V-day with a passion. All I want, is the same thing I want every day.. to be appreciated, as a human. Not ignored, or forgotten.And it would be nice if this year, the flower delivery van would either 1. be delivering flowers to ME, or 2. purchase a GPS and not stop at my house for directions.

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    lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago

    A NEW CAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  big_smile

  17. Hmrjmr1 profile image81
    Hmrjmr1posted 7 years ago

    To those who have posted in despair or disgust - I ask you gals what efforts have you put forward to train you man? Does it take an old widower like me to point out what you already should know? If you are in love with a male, then you have chosen him, and it is up to you to teach him as well. You have a guy that has a thick skull of mush that you must mold into what pleases you. You can not afford to be subtle about the things that you think are important. He does not see things like you do, the empty spot in the corner for a new plant is to him a place to set a beer while he's watching the game.
    If you have a Huny you're are loved from the heart, guys pretty much think their paycheck and continued presence is a clear and convincing statement to that effect, How bout pointing out some of what you do for them in a pleasant and loving way? Like "Baby what so you think of this dish I made for you? I spent 6hrs on the internet finding this recipe....Is it too spicy??"
    or with a deep sigh, oh sweetie I so miss having flowers on the table in the winter time (forlorn sigh)
    See Dogised hasn't been trained at all as he's buying a basket with 'practical' stuff included for valentines day, did his huny ever give him 'The Briefing'? No cords, No appliances, No tools, on Valentines Day, Anniversary, Mothers Day, Birthdays, or Christmas? 
    Miss Take - If you'd do your training you would have flowers everyday, including Valentines day. Put the empty vase where he can see it, when he is close by sidle up close to him and look him straight in the eye and say "Sweetie, do you see that vase over there?" When he says yes why? U say "Do you see the problem with it?" He will then give it closer inspection and reply no what's the matter, is it cracked ? Broken? U say"No sweetie it's Empty." Then bat your eyes at him and pout. He will then understand, It might take a few iterations of this one but eventually he will began to do Vase Maintenance and refill it when you empty it.
    Just remember Task Condition and Standard and train to proficiency. Hoooah!

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      Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      i toatlly had a rant planned...but I give up.......must be my fault my mans brains are so mushy that he cant look at me one day out of the year.
      btw, i cook 3 meals a day, because i do love him. but i quit asking if he liked it about 4 years ago when he yelled that i was a f%ק#g nag...and stormed out of the house....clearly my fault for improper training..oh yeah, id kill for an appliance...any recognition or thought whatsoever

    2. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      so are you saying that not only must we look after them, we have to THINK for them as well!  Well blow that!  We do enough of that the rest of the year! 

      It crosses my mind that many women find themselves picking a present, buying the present and even using their own money to fund it!  Is it any wonder that if a man expects a DIY on gifts, then it would be reasonable to expect a DIY on sex! lol
      *buzz buzz*

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        Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        lol he prefers that, less work

        1. shazwellyn profile image84
          shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          well he cant expect too much of that then....

          1. Cagsil profile image60
            Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            lol lol lol We can tell where your mind is at. lol big_smile

            1. shazwellyn profile image84
              shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              buzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz buzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz ...hehehe

          2. Hmrjmr1 profile image81
            Hmrjmr1posted 7 years ago in reply to this

            See /shaz you have missed my point completely, You do not have to think for them, you have to train them to think how you want them too. We were not given the intricate and subtle powers of perception that you were. It's not a something we do or don't do out of spite or lack of love, it's that some simple training gets us tuned to you. I've said it elsewhere but it bears repeating here.
            Give a Gal a Fish, and she has to cook, Teach her to train her hubby and she'll eat out twice a week!

            1. Cagsil profile image60
              Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Hey, speak for yourself. lol lol roll

            2. shazwellyn profile image84
              shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Yep and get fat... he goes off with a younger slimmer model who gains all the benefits and none of the hard work! LOL

              btw..I love the oxfam commercial comparison here...!

    3. wychic profile image79
      wychicposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Exactly!! I like that method. Of course, my SO and I ended up with the perfect combination...he's older and has two ex-wives who taught him what to and not to do, and I'm still young enough to be very blunt about what I want. I have no problem saying, "I want to get a pothos to put in that corner, if I ever get the money to spare..." This tactic has gotten me a big cushy faux leather office chair, an ergonomic keyboard, a massage/heating pad, and help rubbing in lotion whenever I want it provided I specifically ask for it. That, and he's already a gourmet chef, which really helps things...I grew up in a house where the spices were salt, pepper, and garlic powder.

      That said...I think Colebabie has the right idea, can't argue with that one wink.

      1. shazwellyn profile image84
        shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Get em trained! It has taken me 16 years training him but he still doesnt get it!  But, dont get me wrong - this isnt a moan, Im at a point that it doesnt hurt anymore!  Acceptance is a great thing!! lol

        1. wychic profile image79
          wychicposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Some do tend to be a little slow...of course, I'm finding out that un-training can be at least as difficult. Mine still needs constant reminders that when I ask his opinion I really DO want HIS opinion, not what he thinks I want him to say.

          1. shazwellyn profile image84
            shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Why do they do that?  Its like stock answers to stock questions.  It makes me feel that the relationship isnt based on genuinity but on falsehood.  I dont like to assume! arggggggggh x

  18. myownworld profile image84
    myownworldposted 7 years ago

    flowers...and some peace and quiet!
    we're less complicated than you imagine...! wink

    1. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      is that with or without the man? lol x

  19. shazwellyn profile image84
    shazwellynposted 7 years ago

    one year... he came back with a packet of crisps because I like crisps! gee! LOL

  20. Don W profile image82
    Don Wposted 7 years ago

    Easy. What women want (every day not just valentine’s day) is their man to be strong but gentle, sensible but playful, completely honest but considerate, handsome but not vain, rich but not materialistic, creative but practical, sensitive but resilient, understanding but no pushover, courageous but not foolish, able to be with everyone but only have eyes for them, romantic but not overly sentimental, assertive but harsh, financially aware but generous, giving but able to receive, able to hold on tight and able to let go, and able to know when to do which.

    In short what women want always and everywhere is the moon on a bloody stick!

    1. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      a man on a stick would be better! lol

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    lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago

    Porsche.

    1. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      yes to pull the younger man! lol (just joking!)

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    lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago
  23. breakfastpop profile image85
    breakfastpopposted 7 years ago

    Women want a card that speaks from the heart. I don't believe the present really matters, but somehing romantic couldn't hurt, or perhaps a dinner for two out.

    1. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      we all want to be adored!

      1. Hmrjmr1 profile image81
        Hmrjmr1posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        And so it is sweet muse o mine you are from a distance!!

        1. shazwellyn profile image84
          shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Maybe just as well... I will take you and spit you out for dinner!!! hehehe x

          1. Hmrjmr1 profile image81
            Hmrjmr1posted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Catch me if you can!! tongue tongue tongue

            Shaz you know not what you chew...

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    lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago

    not cards, chocolate or roses.  Something original.

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    Denno66posted 7 years ago

    Great! Now we're eating hmrjmr for dinner? big_smile

    1. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Well you know that I would much rather eat lamb! x

  26. Colebabie profile image60
    Colebabieposted 7 years ago

    Sex.
    Seriously thats all I want. We don't have to go anywhere. You don't have to buy me anything. V-day is just a day to get laid. (this isn't an ad, I'm not taking applications, I have a guy by the way smile )

  27. H.C Porter profile image84
    H.C Porterposted 7 years ago

    All he really has to do is show that he cares enough to put a little heart and thought into something that does not revolve around him. For example- A stay at home mom of 3 kids, would probably enjoy some time alone/even if they have no money to treat her to a day of pampering at a spa- the man could always get rid of the kids for awhile so she can have alone time (with or without the man there).

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    ralwusposted 7 years ago

    A bath. wink

    1. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      lol... where's the pond life?

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        ralwusposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Hah! The pond life is frozen in here. I have a Jacuzzi though.

        1. shazwellyn profile image84
          shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Umm .. would you mind it getting muddy?

  29. cindyvine profile image88
    cindyvineposted 7 years ago

    lots of money and chocolate!

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      ralwusposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I have the chocolate dear Cindy. Truffles!

    2. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Giraffes dont eat chocolate! hehehe

  30. spiderspun profile image60
    spiderspunposted 7 years ago

    lindt truffles , lots and lots

    1. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Well, in my hub, I reconed that chocs was one of the last things women wanted... because it doesnt require much thought, therefore, not very romantic.  Maybe I am wrong? x

  31. efeguy profile image61
    efeguyposted 7 years ago

    everything romantic.

    from flowers to any expensive material things,but don't forget hey need to be loved and care for

    1. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I think it is simple... thoughtful, using imagination... it doesnt have to be expensive! x

  32. CMHypno profile image90
    CMHypnoposted 7 years ago

    I would like George Clooney to turn up with a bottle of champagne and a pizza!

  33. Anamika S profile image69
    Anamika Sposted 7 years ago

    I just came across this Post after publishing a Hub on the same subject here.
    http://hubpages.com/hub/What-women-want … -Day-ideas

  34. Rod Marsden profile image79
    Rod Marsdenposted 7 years ago

    I think women want to know someone cares but isn't pushy about it. What does that mean? Different things get the message across to different women.

    If going for flowers try to avoid hot house roses, etc. Flowers grown out in the open and in a more natural setting tend to have a better scent and to keep their scent longer. If you grow flowers then flowers out of your own garden will have that personal touch some women like.

    If going for chocolates you might like to think in terms of what might remind her of a special time you two shared and enjoyed together. For one woman I know it was chocolates shaped like pyramids because of our shared interest in a particular Egyptian love story. She was also the type with itchy feet so a long weekend in the country staying at a favorite hired cottage was also on the cards. Well, I like the country and I like to get out and about too (the same itchy feet) so there you have it. She also tells me I have great taste in jewelry so picking up something nice for her in that regard was also going to be there.

    1. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      oh... Im not sure who is kidding who here! lol x  No disrespect babes!

      1. greeneyesH1982 profile image59
        greeneyesH1982posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        honestly all I want if i was in a relationship is to just spend time with my loved one.. to be acknowledged and make it a somewhat special day really... go for a drive a walk on the beach or something or have a dinner at an exceptionally nice restaurant ... honestly I am not a real big valentines day fan I dont really celebrate it.. flowers are always nice to just to know that u are thought of is nice in general so the way I see it is these things should come from your loved one through out the year here and there just to let them know u are thinking of them and not just on valentines day

        1. shazwellyn profile image84
          shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          yeah... whip down the garage, at the last minute, grab the dregs of the remainder flowers... shove a box of cheapo chocs and ... yeah.. we are happy!  lol x

    2. wychic profile image79
      wychicposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      That is such an awesome way to explain it...just thought I'd let you know that big_smile. Special touches are a wonderful thing...like if I am going to buy my husband (a veteran) flowers it's peace roses, they're his favorite, but if he's going to buy me flowers it's either going to be something potted or lantana (I love the smell!), or maybe potted lantana tongue. He knows I would get irritated at him if he spent money on jewelry because I hardly ever wear it, but a Papa Murphy's pizza is just perfect. It really does get down to truly, honestly knowing the person you're with.



      I don't know...he thinks he can make me happy by picking the "right" answer, but then later gets upset or stressed because it wasn't really what he wanted. We're working on it...I told him that when I ask him about something, I'm almost always ambivalent about the answer or I wouldn't be asking him, I'd just do it tongue. Alternatively, I ask his opinion on important decisions, and if it differs from mine I want to know so that we can discuss the pros and cons of the available options...sometimes I think of something he doesn't, and many many times he thinks of something I never considered. I know it has to be tough after spending 18 years, between the two previous wives, being asked for his opinion and then having her tapping her foot and looking expectantly at him with a "don't you dare say the wrong thing" look on her face.

      1. shazwellyn profile image84
        shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        It is harder the older they get... people are less adaptable to change but then time mellows them, so there is a counterbalance.

        I often say..."is that what you really think or is this a kudos answer" -  pretty direct, yes, but I think dropping big hints is hard work (particularly about gifts). 

        Having said that, I like to have people being direct with me, so perhaps I speak as I would like to be spoken to?

  35. cindyvine profile image88
    cindyvineposted 7 years ago

    a man

    1. blondepoet profile image78
      blondepoetposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I thought you had a rooster Cindy

    2. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      you are not missing much... they dont make em like they used to! lol x

      1. earnestshub profile image86
        earnestshubposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        They never did make em like they used to! The older generation of men would buy you a set of screwdrivers! smile

        1. shazwellyn profile image84
          shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Doh!  Us girlies cant win!!!! x

  36. fishtiger58 profile image81
    fishtiger58posted 7 years ago

    I would love a day off of cooking the evening meal. My favorite pizza would be great, simple but it's what I want.

    1. twuxedo profile image60
      twuxedoposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Unless the Guys a better cook than me, be careful what you wish for.

  37. blondepoet profile image78
    blondepoetposted 7 years ago

    What they want aside from prawns and perhaps a crab or two finger fed to them on a hammock is a nice luxurious body massage and a whole lot of pampering.

    1. twuxedo profile image60
      twuxedoposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Maybe, but most of the ones I have known have always hung out for 12 red roses or more, I always find this one sux as the Florists never seem to have enough.  I always forget till the last minute. What Guy doesn't.

      1. Isabelle22 profile image62
        Isabelle22posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        12 Black roses that would do the job for me.

        1. twuxedo profile image60
          twuxedoposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          yes they have those for the Goth market.

        2. shazwellyn profile image84
          shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Arh... now I think flowers suck, but this idea is unusual ... it is sooooo me! hehehe

      2. shazwellyn profile image84
        shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Then I suggest you read my hub... you BAD boy! lol x

    2. twuxedo profile image60
      twuxedoposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Is you Avator airbrushed? I'd give a few dollars for my skin to be like that.

    3. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      men and women alike! hehehe..

  38. profile image0
    lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago

    pearl thongs.

    1. profile image0
      Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      ow?....I want, e-z cheese, Ritz crackers, beer and a back rub.  smile or, a genuinely heartfelt love letter. Ill settle for not having to do the dishes.

    2. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      pearl necklace... hehehe xxxx

      1. Cagsil profile image60
        Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        How about a thong made of Hershey Chocolate Kisses? lol lol lol

        Would go over really well for chocolate lovers. Unfortunately, it would only last for one sitting? lol

        It would really define edible underwear. lol lol lol

        1. shazwellyn profile image84
          shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          is the edible underwear for you Caggie?  Not sure about the chocies... as you can see I have bathed in the stuff! x

  39. Cagsil profile image60
    Cagsilposted 7 years ago

    Hey ladies,

    Just in case you don't know or haven't heard or been living a kingdom below sea level or been on cloud nine for the past 3 weeks or so....

    http://hubpages.com/forum/topic/31352#top

    This is my contribution to Valentine's Day on HubPages and for the Ladies of Hubberville Community.

    Come on and join in the fun? smile

    1. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      This really is a great thing you are doing caggie!!!

  40. Dame Scribe profile image59
    Dame Scribeposted 7 years ago

    One son buys a stuffed toy or jewellery, card and takes her out for dinner. My other son buys near same thing but adds a single rose, makes a card and takes her to a movie. Me? I like earrings, a single rose, wine, dance and cuddle watching a movie but don't tell anybody, k big_smile lol

    1. Cagsil profile image60
      Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      lol lol lol lol roll big_smile

    2. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I guess as long as it is a thoughtful gift!

  41. myownworld profile image84
    myownworldposted 7 years ago

    odd as this may sound, what I really want is... some breathing space!! wink

    1. profile image0
      Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      oh, its on its way! i have sooooo much space lately.....

    2. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      well... you arent 'myownworld' for nothing hon! big_smile

  42. profile image0
    lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago

    still want another pearl thong.  white pearls with lace on the front silk part.

    1. prettydarkhorse profile image64
      prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      wow, I want a bf hehe

  43. shazwellyn profile image84
    shazwellynposted 7 years ago

    Just posted a thread for men!  This will be interesting! hehehe

    http://hubpages.com/forum/topic/33149#post725725

  44. shazwellyn profile image84
    shazwellynposted 7 years ago

    bump

    1. Cagsil profile image60
      Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      BUMP! You back. lol lol

      Hey Shazwellyn,  how are you? smile

      1. shazwellyn profile image84
        shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Im fine Caggie... just! hehehe.. I think I need a holiday... some sun!

        Hows life treating you Caggie? Tell me about yourself. x

        1. Cagsil profile image60
          Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Well, life is treating me, like I treat it. lol

          What in particular would you like to know? There is so much about me and I try not to think about it, because when I do and then speak, most think it's my ego talking and not my experience.

          So, feel free to ask anything you like to know? I've nothing to hide. smile

          1. shazwellyn profile image84
            shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Family?  Kids?  Wife? etc

            1. Cagsil profile image60
              Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              My family consists of a bunch of people who really don't understand what it means to be a family. I still have my mother, she is 62 and hates life, who I live with. I have one sister and she has two daughters. My sister is divorced and in a relationship(11 years and counting). Her daughters are ages 18 and 14.

              I have no wife. I have no kids. I've never been married. smile

              1. shazwellyn profile image84
                shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Is your mother in pain?  I find people get grumpy becasue they have nagging ailments.

                You should write a hub about what you think family is.  I think we all live in our own realities and perception differs greatly.  This is where one gets conflict.

                You seem to have observed much about women and know what they want.  This is commendable Caggie.  How did you come to your conclusions? x

                1. Cagsil profile image60
                  Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  By learning about the women around me and interacting with many, even if they don't know me.

                  I've never had a problem talking to women. It's a gift I enjoy, because it allows me to be a better listen, especially since I'm not too much into myself. I know myself and my ability, so I don't find a reason to talk about myself.

                  Now, if you read my writing. It would suggest that that wasn't true, because everything I write if from what I see, hear and dealt with. But, then again, for those who read my hubs, learn that I don't think like the average man and I carry myself differently.

                  If people see my writing as arrogrant or egotistical? Then, they obviously have the wrong impression. smile

                  1. shazwellyn profile image84
                    shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    Your writing style is... well it is as it is!  Not egotistical.  I prefer people to straight about what they think.  There is no 'underlying context' within your writing style.

                    I think you are in touch with your femine side x

  45. theirishobserver. profile image60
    theirishobserver.posted 7 years ago

    last year I bought my girlfriend a puppy, needless to say the pupppy got all the cuddles and I got the remote for the telly.....

    1. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Well that is a result! LOL

      Maybe women want the romote control for valentines day!!! lol

      1. profile image0
        mtsi1098posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        No...not the remote...anything else but not the remote smile

        1. shazwellyn profile image84
          shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Such a man! lol

        2. shazwellyn profile image84
          shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          It's ok.. put it down ... gently does it..hand it over! *psychotherapist in doorway, beads of sweat on forehead!*

          1. Hmrjmr1 profile image81
            Hmrjmr1posted 7 years ago in reply to this

            It's Gollum's Remotsis mine mine mine!!
            http://t0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:dra4wvPmedhFSM:http://www.luisprada.com/Protected/IMAGES/gollum1.jpg

            1. shazwellyn profile image84
              shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              *screams!*  Have it!  Its ok!!!! arrrrrrrrrrhhhh!

              1. Cagsil profile image60
                Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Pull the shotgun out of the closet and kill it. smile

  46. Cagsil profile image60
    Cagsilposted 7 years ago

    Did you ask a question? Only to not continue the conversation or is that it? smile

    1. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I am sorry.  I often suffer terrible computer problems.  It just freezes, takes ages to boot and reconnect.  It is like it has a nervous breakdown!
      It gets to a point that I just give up, leave it to cool down and start again.

      Also, I tend to live life from one set of crisis to another.  I have two boys with disability and their needs divert me somewhat.
      Sometimes I am called out for emergencies.. I volunteer for the Red Cross and the Ambulance service. 

      I find that I go through life prioritising my time.  The internet is my joy.  It is stimulating and is just for my own selfish need.  The rest of my life involves dedicating myself totally to others.  I give absolutely everything in my soul for them.  There is a lot of suffering out there in the world x

      So, if I suddenly disappear, it isnt because I am rude... it is because I dont have a choice and other demands take hold.

      I value your friendship Caggie x

      1. shazwellyn profile image84
        shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        bumpy night night x

      2. Cagsil profile image60
        Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        No problem. smile

  47. profile image0
    lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago

    bananas. big_smile

    1. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      sausages and sheep burgers! hehehe

  48. Alessia Amnesia profile image59
    Alessia Amnesiaposted 7 years ago

    Someone to spend it with...

  49. inspireyourspirit profile image61
    inspireyourspiritposted 7 years ago

    Attention and for their man to make an effort!  Put thought into the day...

    1. shazwellyn profile image84
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I think a lot of men miss this point!  They should read my hub.. they might learn something! hehehe

  50. shazwellyn profile image84
    shazwellynposted 7 years ago

    Oh Caggie!  My hero!

 
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