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What do men really want on Valentines day?

  1. shazwellyn profile image83
    shazwellynposted 7 years ago

    I've just completed a hub on what valentines day gifts for what men really want.  Looking into a woman's perspective, I think there is a real conflict of interests!  So, thought that a discussion on this would be really helpful...

    So what do you think men really want?

    I will start...

    a takeaway, followed by watching fav sport of tv.. a tinny and a quickie (provided he isnt full with the takeaway and pished with the beer!) ... will the guys be honest in this thread or do you think guys will tell us girls what they THINK we want to hear?

    (p.s. I know this is a sweeping generalisation, but thought it might be fun!)

    Also if you want the alternative thread..

    http://hubpages.com/forum/topic/32866

    1. Cagsil profile image58
      Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      You're right it is a sweeping generalization. However, unfortunately, men only find this day, as a reminder of their partner, it's really irrelevant to them otherwise.

      The only reason the holiday exists is to add value to a relationship, for which, should have more meaning than this one particular day. smile

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      kimberlyslyricsposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      shoelaces-red with little white hearts

    3. webguyonline profile image60
      webguyonlineposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      i want a romantic date with my love-one

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    lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago

    love.

    1. shazwellyn profile image83
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      do you mean lust love or heart love?x

      PS love the avatar x

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        lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        thanks hon

        I mean love in every way/position/partnership/experiment/nudity kinda like that.  lol

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    Denno66posted 7 years ago

    A nice, romantic dinner at home, followed by a movie, soft music and dancing, then an intimate ending. That's just me, though. big_smile

    1. shazwellyn profile image83
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      so a tinny and a quickie is about right then? lol x

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        Denno66posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Pretty much. big_smile

        1. shazwellyn profile image83
          shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          BB ... love your honesty!  xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

          p.s. what did you study today?

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            Denno66posted 7 years ago in reply to this

            I went to get some books, finally. My next class is Saturday; that's my Cad Graphics class.

            1. shazwellyn profile image83
              shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              cad graphics?  I this some sort of sheep attachment?  What pray is this BB?

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                Denno66posted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Computer-Aided Design. I wish it were a sheep attachment. lol

  4. Shadesbreath profile image90
    Shadesbreathposted 7 years ago

    Bring him a beer, let him drink it while you pole dance.  Then hurt him gently.

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    Poppa Bluesposted 7 years ago

    I think most men are easy to please... we don't need much, for me a pleasant evening alone with my soul-mate will do, maybe dinner in a nice restaurant, and if I can get her to smile, that's a plus!

    1. shazwellyn profile image83
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      yes.. they would be happy with a box of chocs and last minute flowers from the garage!

      Us women really demand a great deal from you guys! hehehe

  6. mega1 profile image79
    mega1posted 7 years ago

    world peace, right?

  7. mega1 profile image79
    mega1posted 7 years ago

    probably more like, world "piece"

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      Denno66posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Giggity.

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    Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago

    My hubby is dead set on getting a recliner lol I told him he has to wait until we get a bigger place and we have the room. Plus my mom might be giving us my grandpa's recliiner (the one who passed) and we love that thought because having something that belonged to him is great. smile

    And also I think a nice home-made meal, a beer like Shade said...while ur dressed in a sexy lingerie lol

    1. shazwellyn profile image83
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      another vote for a tinny and a quickie then? lol

      with the exception of it being in a recliner!

  9. aguasilver profile image87
    aguasilverposted 7 years ago

    Guilty as charged.... roll

    1. shazwellyn profile image83
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Lets take him girls!  hehehe

  10. Alessia Amnesia profile image61
    Alessia Amnesiaposted 7 years ago

    All they really want for Valentine's Day... an every other day is sexy time smile

    1. double_frick profile image81
      double_frickposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      LOL @ sexy time <3

      and its true, right? ESPECIALLY on valentines day.

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      Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      lol thats good, yes? Sexy time!!!

      guys ulimately (I think) want what we want. To be cared for. HOW they want it demonstrated varies from women....but seriously, I can think of a few things that would make any man happy, and they are all free. whats wrong with that?  wink

  11. mega1 profile image79
    mega1posted 7 years ago

    a er um    slap & tickle?

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      Denno66posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Sounds like a plan.

  12. wychic profile image79
    wychicposted 7 years ago

    I suppose I'm lucky, mine wants pretty much what I want...a Papa Murphy's pizza, one of my homemade pumpkin pecan cheesecakes, and a good movie to be enjoyed on the couch at home...with the curtains closed.

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      Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      awww....yay for you!!!  smile

  13. myownworld profile image80
    myownworldposted 7 years ago

    wasn't there another thread just like this? hmm
    my head is spinning now.....

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      Denno66posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      What Women want I think.

      1. myownworld profile image80
        myownworldposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        roll ...as if anyone's giving....!

  14. mega1 profile image79
    mega1posted 7 years ago

    maybe it all depends on how old they are, and how old their women are, what they will want?

    like by now, I suppose, if I had a man, he would just settle for some money!

    lol

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      Denno66posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      You got 15 bucks I can borrow? lol

      1. mega1 profile image79
        mega1posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        here, take twenty, and stick around a little while longer, sweetie!  cool

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          Denno66posted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Here, take the twenty back; I brought my toothbrush. big_smile

  15. earnestshub profile image87
    earnestshubposted 7 years ago

    A massage. A good deep tissue massage. Then .... a can of beer and a quickie! smile

  16. myownworld profile image80
    myownworldposted 7 years ago

    what do they really really want? hmm   Sex, I think......

    (atleast, if not at the start, certainly by the end of the evening!)

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      Denno66posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Well, um, yes, that would be nice. big_smile

      1. myownworld profile image80
        myownworldposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        ((um..my starved sheep...with you I'm not so sure about the 'end' part...)))

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          Denno66posted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I am That transparent, hmm? lol

          1. myownworld profile image80
            myownworldposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            yep. like an open book...... read all the chapters already....!

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              Denno66posted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Nah, I don't think you have, but my wife is close to finishing the book. lol

              1. myownworld profile image80
                myownworldposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                lol when she's thru, let us know if it's up for lending....

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                  Denno66posted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  You need a comic relief every now and then? lol

  17. Gabriel Wilson profile image89
    Gabriel Wilsonposted 7 years ago

    I may be wrong or have a limited imagination , but only one word comes to mind that starts the other wheels in motion , naked ( obviously in the right place at the right time )

    1. myownworld profile image80
      myownworldposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      that IS limited imagination...but you're definitely not wrong! wink

      1. Gabriel Wilson profile image89
        Gabriel Wilsonposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        It´s only limited at the naked bit , I hope there might be a little more imagination after that , ha !

        1. shazwellyn profile image83
          shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          only when on their own! lol

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    lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago

    oral sex.

    1. dave272727 profile image60
      dave272727posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      And a backrub

      1. shazwellyn profile image83
        shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Does it do THAT to your back? lol

  19. Jonathan Janco profile image81
    Jonathan Jancoposted 7 years ago

    Valentine's day . . . jeez, is it that close already?! What do men really want? Can't speak for all men, but if I'm in a relationship and I'm happy with it, I already have what I want. If not, Valentine's Day doesn't really register on the radar. Strange, though, women who never give me the time of day are suddenly very interested in me in the days leading up to Feb14.

    1. greeneyesH1982 profile image60
      greeneyesH1982posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      HAH isnt that true.. but valentines day really shouldnt be made out to be a special day I think if your with someone you should treat them special everyday!! not just on a day someone said so!!

      1. shazwellyn profile image83
        shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        yes... but WHAT DO MEN WANT? hehehe

    2. shazwellyn profile image83
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      huh!  Typical!!! big_smile

  20. cindyvine profile image86
    cindyvineposted 7 years ago

    All men want is hot sex, but twice on Valentine's day

    1. shazwellyn profile image83
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      From the same woman? big_smile

  21. theirishobserver. profile image61
    theirishobserver.posted 7 years ago

    LOVE

    1. shazwellyn profile image83
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      is that lust love or heart love? x

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    mtsi1098posted 7 years ago

    i want to do whatever my wife would like to do...this is a day for the ladies...

    1. shazwellyn profile image83
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Does she tell you to go to work? lol x

    2. shazwellyn profile image83
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      we have to give men a good time too!

  23. Black Lilly profile image60
    Black Lillyposted 7 years ago

    A lady, that would know how to give a boost to his ego - at least this is what one guy has recently told me.

    In other words, get a nice evening dress out (the one that makes you look stunning), stilettos, nice perfume, behave like a lady, make everyone around look at you and be fascinated by the way you look, BUT pay attention only to your man. At the same time let him (and ONLY him) see what indecent things are on your mind...

    1. shazwellyn profile image83
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      What about if you have been married 40 years... your boobs are sagging and gravity has taken over?  Do you think this idea changes from generation to generation?

      1. Black Lilly profile image60
        Black Lillyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I think the idea stays the same, though the means may change a bit (like stilettos can be replaced by flats or indecent things with good memories, etc).
        In addition, if you've been married for so long, appearance is not that important - I'm sure your partner would just appreciate an effort to look good. You'd look very nice to him anyway.

        1. shazwellyn profile image83
          shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I think the relationship turns into a merging of the two.  The bond becomes so strong that if the other dies, then half of that person is dead x

          1. Hmrjmr1 profile image79
            Hmrjmr1posted 7 years ago in reply to this

            From my experience that is true only for a short while, as the the wound to your beating heart at her death is soon a small delicate scar that gives warmth and comfort in the cold nights alone. When you are truly as one in life it can never be undone not even unto death. You then can but await, with sweet anticipation, the day you will be once again together.
            and while knowing the day will most certainly come, as it must. Using all that she has given you in life to see and feel all things more certainly and tenderly and with the beauty that life gives in color texture, sight, sound and soul..Things like  each of you and all of you...

            1. shazwellyn profile image83
              shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              What a lovely thought!  A beautiful set of words x

      2. Hmrjmr1 profile image79
        Hmrjmr1posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        /sagging and wrinkles are only in your (emphasis your) mind. They may even be reality, but to your knight his maiden fair is there before him everyday, fair and lovely as the day you met and he knew he must hand you his heart and soul. So Fear not about time and its changes instead treasure every day that you have...

        To answer the topic, -- A wink a smile and the passion returned that he sees in you..XXOO

        1. Papa Sez profile image80
          Papa Sezposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Man, you're giving all the right answers...it's disarming the ladies. LOL

          1. shazwellyn profile image83
            shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            He'll have his own tribe before you know it! x

    2. wychic profile image79
      wychicposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Hehehe...I've recently gotten a taste of this, I can always tell when my name comes up at my husband's work...he works in the hospital, and many of the women are jealous of my hair and all of the wonderful things he says about me, while the men point out -- respectfully -- that they've definitely noticed the "pretty young thing" he has at home. I've never considered myself much to look at so it's a nice ego stroke for me, but from the huge grin on his face I can tell it's at least as much a one for him.

      That said, he's on call Valentine's Day weekend so I'm guessing he'll be wanting the dishes washed (something he often does) and some food that he doesn't have to cook (something he usually does...he's better at it than I am tongue). All the fun gets to come in the weekend before big_smile

      1. Papa Sez profile image80
        Papa Sezposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Yup you're right on wychic...that grin definitely says huge ego stroke for him. I know I have it on when men admire my wife.wink

  24. PrettyPanther profile image85
    PrettyPantherposted 7 years ago

    I wrote a hub on this a couple of weeks ago and was advised to "hack into Google mail and have this hub sent daily into the email boxes of every woman on Earth."

    Actual quote from the comments.  wink

  25. shazwellyn profile image83
    shazwellynposted 7 years ago

    wow... sounds good!

  26. blondepoet profile image79
    blondepoetposted 7 years ago

    They want to answer the door and see you dressed in nothing but a big red ribbon. A bit hard if you live in a apartment block.

    1. Hmrjmr1 profile image79
      Hmrjmr1posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Wrapped in clear Saran wrap is fun...Gives you a nice package to unwrap!!

    2. shazwellyn profile image83
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Umm.. this could be a bit problematic!

  27. Wayne Orvisburg profile image79
    Wayne Orvisburgposted 7 years ago

    If I were to describe it on here, they would probably kick me off of hubpages. LOL

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    Justine76posted 7 years ago

    men and women STILL want the same thing. security, comfort, love, honesty, loyality, trust, acceptance and understanding. The problem is communication.

    1. Papa Sez profile image80
      Papa Sezposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I agree that men and women still want the same thing if you look deep enough, and I tried to put this in my most recent hub.  But your emphasis on communication is what's missing in what I wrote.

      1. falcon64 profile image61
        falcon64posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        But she ask only on Valentine Day?smile

        1. Papa Sez profile image80
          Papa Sezposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          The right answer is everyday is Valentine's Day! LOL

    2. shazwellyn profile image83
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Yes, we do.. they dont... ultimately we are the naggers! hehehe

  29. theirishobserver. profile image61
    theirishobserver.posted 7 years ago

    justine76, I hear what you are saying, however, I will settle for a massage......

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      Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      me too....

      1. Papa Sez profile image80
        Papa Sezposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        me three!

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        Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        ps, you can call me justine... or if it helps,use the 'quote' button. then your words end up under the thing your relpying too.

  30. Daniel Carter profile image89
    Daniel Carterposted 7 years ago

    Forget the store-bought gifts. Give yourself. A dinner at home, made with care and love, along with time alone and some heartfelt passion is all I need.

    And I would take that any day of the week, not just on Valentine's.

    I'm a hopeless romantic, I guess.

    1. shazwellyn profile image83
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      They dont make em like you babes! x

  31. Cagsil profile image58
    Cagsilposted 7 years ago

    I guess to answer this particular question one would need to have a significant other?

    So, I guess I don't qualify. Besides, I don't view Valentine's Day as a MAN's day, because it's not.

    It's a relationship holiday. It should be beneficial for both. smile

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      lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      avoiding. roll

  32. Stevennix2001 profile image82
    Stevennix2001posted 7 years ago

    i can't speak for all guys, and I don't have a girl friend at the moment either.  However, my only wish from a girl on valentine's day would be just to be with her.  Heck, her company and love alone would be the best gift of all to me.  smile  i know that sounds cliche and silly to be honest, but that's what i would want from a girl.  just her love and company.  and by love, i don't mean anything has to happen between us either.  just being with her and seeing her smile at being with me would be enough to show her love for me.

    1. shazwellyn profile image83
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      awww... how lovely! *swoon*

  33. Steppeno profile image80
    Steppenoposted 7 years ago

    From a mans point of view... I wanted true love... I actually found it and got married on valentines day... We were married for 12 not so great years and had 5 kids together before the divorce... That was 18 years ago... Do I still love her? Sure I do... She is the mother of my children... If given the chance, would I do it again ? Not on your life !!! Not unless I knew then what I know now... We were far to young and far too much in love to care about anything else... Even though I love her still, I would never do it again under the circumstances...

    1. shazwellyn profile image83
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I think kids can have a huge impact on a relationship.  Do you think the pressures of bringing up kids and life has a lot to do with the breakdown of your marriage? x

  34. Mikel G Roberts profile image88
    Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years ago

    For 'Her' to love me.

  35. thekidandblue profile image60
    thekidandblueposted 7 years ago

    I would want time completely alone so we could concentrate on each other somewhere by the sea.

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    sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago

    No phone calls while I'm fishing.

    1. Stevennix2001 profile image82
      Stevennix2001posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      lol

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        sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I love her to death and shes welcome to come along. I'm sorry I'm insensitive but when I'm in my boat throwing lures I don't care what her sister said. I like her sister too, nothing personal.

        1. Stevennix2001 profile image82
          Stevennix2001posted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I never said you didn't.  I just thought it was funny the way you said it is all.  I meant nothing by it.  lol

  37. shazwellyn profile image83
    shazwellynposted 7 years ago

    Happy valentines day!

  38. drej2522 profile image87
    drej2522posted 7 years ago

    I think secretly most men would like to see the holiday vanish...pooooof, be gone!

    That would be an awesome present!

    Oh, I mean, Happy Valentines Day, Shaz! smile

    1. shazwellyn profile image83
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      You know... I think secretly most women would like to see it gone too.  Dont you think that it causes more stress than it is worth?

      Women have an expectation for which men can't fulfull.. this always leads to disappointment.  Men have an expectation of hot sex... well they would be happy with a tinny and a quickie!

      Fancy a bud drej?

      Happy valentines day x

      this is for you....
      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eSrJe2h2HZY

    2. Stimp profile image80
      Stimpposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Dude, seriously.....You know you like gettin' that bouquet of pink roses just like the next guy.  so don't be gettin' all like "oh i hate the holiday..."  I know you too well..... lol

  39. Red_Dragon profile image61
    Red_Dragonposted 7 years ago

    I want someone to be there when i give that girl her gifts, and make her smile and giggle, it it such a great feeling when I give the ladies things on Valentines day. There reaction is really something that you dont forget.

    This is my first Valentines day without having a Valentine sad...Maybe next year.

    1. shazwellyn profile image83
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Well we can all strive to love better...  Happy Valentines day!

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8fs1wkwAMQc

  40. earnestshub profile image87
    earnestshubposted 7 years ago

    We wanna be loved! lol

    1. shazwellyn profile image83
      shazwellynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Earnest ... of course you are loved.  How can anyone not love you?

      For you....

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ILxlVqf2fYU

      p.s. Im the lady on the front row!

  41. Cagsil profile image58
    Cagsilposted 7 years ago

    Isn't this holiday over with? lol

    1. Stimp profile image80
      Stimpposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Hey, I've been gone from the forums for awhile....I'm still catching up.....It's actually "give Stimp a break" Day today, Cags.

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    StormRyderposted 7 years ago

    Yes it's over...but they still want the same thing...a BJ  lol

    1. Mikel G Roberts profile image88
      Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Uuummm...I didn't get mine??

      1. Stimp profile image80
        Stimpposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        But did you get a slice of the "I'm-sorry-to-hear-that" Pie?  It was delicious.

    2. Stimp profile image80
      Stimpposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Well, they may as well be askin for a million bucks cuz they ain't gettin' that either lol

  43. mikelong profile image83
    mikelongposted 7 years ago

    Just a little love...

    http://differnet.com/experience/12bonobos.jpg

    1. Stimp profile image80
      Stimpposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Nice.

  44. shazwellyn profile image83
    shazwellynposted 6 years ago

    Now it is that time of year.  New views and new discussions.  What is it that men really want for valentines day?

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      zampanoposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I'm here.
      I'm yours.
      That's about all.
      With flowers and champagne, of course.

      1. shazwellyn profile image83
        shazwellynposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Well, just to whisper that in the ears of a loved one is enough to melt the soul!

  45. profile image0
    zampanoposted 6 years ago

    And it is so delightful.
    Even when it's honest.
    hehehe

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    klarawieckposted 6 years ago

    What men really want is a threesome... hopefully two girls and him! hmm

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      logic,commonsenseposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Bullseye!

      1. Eaglekiwi profile image74
        Eaglekiwiposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Awww...and then he woke up lol

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    Sophia Angeliqueposted 6 years ago

    A quiet life?

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    Queen of Clubsposted 6 years ago

    This is a beautiful topic and I am truly glad that there are some men still out there that get the idea that love should be given as well as received.

    In my personal experience, though, men just want one thing and that is to be serviced on Valentine's Day.  The majority of them, in my opinion, expect to be catered to on that day without doing anything in return for us ladies. They feel that if we ladies do all of the cute things for them, cook for them, clean for them, dress provocatively for them (whether in evening gown & heels, sexy lingerie, or nothing at all), then we like doing that no matter how they treat us on the days prior to Valentine's Day.  They all too often think that everything is all hunky-dorey with our feelings and any uncaring behavior on their part is forgiven.  They act as if we're being paid to love them... there's another word for that!

    Often, too, if we do those nice things for them, they don't feel that they should reciprocate the kindness and the effort that we put into it.  Don't give them the excuse of "well, their men and they're not as creative as we women are".  Just put something in front of them that they WANT to do, like feed their faces or play video games in their stinking underwear, they get creative real fast. 

    If a woman WANTS to give their man something that HE wants, that's all fine and good.  But, that man had better realize what a great gift he's been given and he had better WANT to do the same for her.  Men do NOT deserve our attention if they're not going to give US attention, too.  Don't forget that, ladies.  You're not a piece of meat that he's paid for.

  49. bride-pride profile image61
    bride-prideposted 6 years ago

    Think real, Gifting things  are just a formality. I would say most of the men would want is that his women will be with him for the every second of life's Ups and downs No matters what. Whoever say whatever , the real commitment Men want is this one.

  50. ImChemist profile image60
    ImChemistposted 6 years ago

    They want to sleep all the day lol lol lol

 
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