it was on a nice spring night and I just didn't want to be at home looking at the women on Bet and MTV on a Friday night.... so I open the closet to see what was there. The closet is for clothes and not for not for me.. I thought I would put that out . I had decide to go the club to see what was going sense I hadn't been for sometime.... just so you know that ,I have been out the closet for sometime and had about two or three long relationships with other women.. I find what I wanted to wear at the club... I went into bathroom to do my thing in tub and all.... after that ,I called some of my friends just to see if they wanted to come with me to the club..No ! one wanted to go so I ended up coming by myself which was cool with me.. As I was coming walking to the club, I saw these two women who were talking with each other beside a car... I looked at them and went on in the club.... and it was packed women was everywhere.... The sounds was hot and the dance floor was full with women all over the places.... I looked around to see if i saw some of my friends... I didn't.. so ,I went on the dance floor and to dance... when all out of nowhere women were moving out of the way, I looked over my shoulder there where these to women fighting each other... then I come saw these three big women looking like amaze women come on the floor to stop the fight.The two women that was abuse each had to leaven the club....As the women where leavening the club,... I noted that the women that was fighting was the two that I saw out outside, just before I came in...After that I saw went back home and turn my TV back on and went to which MTV and Bet.. This is why I didn't go out that much now be cause of the Violence that going on between women. . I fell that is a social problem not just with us gay and lesbian but with the straight world too! I was thinking to myself it already hard for us as gay and lesbian and now we have to deal with the violence that is going on in our community also, it sad to see when women and men run form one community to another community thinking that the abuse will stop...

Domestic VIOLENCE WITHIN THE COMMUNITYS

Domestic violence mean the abuse is being taking places within the home,but when it comes violence abuse can take places anywhere. When I saw these two women the abuse was outside of the home. Violence has been such a big secret in the lesbian and gay community for a long time. who would think that we have this going on.There is just as much of men on men abuse as it is with women,who are straight,men who are straight also. With the pass event that went on with Chris Brown and Rhianna we as a community are now looking at violence abuse. But how long will it take for us as a community to go back into the closet and close the door on something that need more light too!

Some people outside seem to think that the gay and lesbian community do not have violence abuse in our community... I wish that wasn't the case.... Their is so of it in the lesbian and gay community you would think we were at war... That is how bad it is.. There are more and more women going to jail and being locked up because of the violence. what can we do to stop the abuse that is going on the community as a whole.I think we must know what abuse is and why do some of us do it...when I was think about this I did some research online and find out there are five level of abuse.. when we think of abuse,we think of domestic is the first one that comes to mind for some of us... Here are five level we need to think about when it comes abuse.

Five level of Abuse

1. PHYSICAL ABUSE

Physical abuse can be defined as the threat of harm or any forceful physical behavior that intentionally or accidentally causes bodily harm or property destruction and to have power and control of their partner.

2.SEXUAL ABUSE

Sexual abuse is any forced or coerced sexual act or behavior motivated to acquire power and control over the partner.

3.EMOTIONAL ABUSE

Emotional \ psychological is any of words,voice,action or lack of action meant to control hurt or demean another person.Emotional abuse is almost present in all relationships where physical abuse occurs.

4.FINANCIAL ABUSE

Financial abuse is the use or misuse of money without the partner's free given consent of th financial or other monetary resources of the partner or the partnership.

5.IDENTIY ABUSE

Identity abuse is using personal characteristics to demean, manipulate and control.

WHAT LOVE GOT TO DO WITH IT!

Why do so many abuser stay after the abuse begun. Some do leave and return even thought the abuse continues.

Love

• Love the abuser often because the abuser is loving when not being abuse.
• Having invested in the relationship and feel that he/she owes it to the abusive partner to Stick it out and support.

Believe that it is up to her or him to make the relationship work.

I hope that this has help you to understand what abuse look like....and if you feel that you are being abuse seek help. call the hot line for abuse. Get help or to report a violent relationship,call the National Domestic Violence Hot line (800-799-SAFE.

TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT ABUSE BETWEEN THE THREE COMMUITY.