According to Wikipedia, flirting is an expression of sexuality and a common form of social interaction whereby one person obliquely indicates a romantic or sexual interest towards another. It can consist of conversation, body language, or brief physical contact. It may be one-sided or reciprocated (encouraged).

Flirting may involve speaking and acting in a way that suggests greater intimacy than is generally considered appropriate to the relationship (or to the amount of time the two people have known each other), without actually saying or doing anything that breaches any serious social norms. This may be accomplished by communicating a sense of playfulness or irony. Double entendres, with one meaning more formally appropriate and another more suggestive, may be used.

While I believe this is true, it doesn't help you understand the differences between men and women and how to get a woman to be attracted to you. Woman are constantly hit on or approached by men and usually in the same way, using old and outdated flirting techniques.

Hello, Could I speak to Mr Hanson, Please!

Imagine you are sitting at home and the phone rings you pick it up and there is a short pause before you finally hear a foreign voice asking to confirm your name. You immediately realise it's a tele-marketing phone call before he even tells you what he is promoting. What do you normally feel and what do you do? You feel mad and you usually hang up or you tell them some lie like you are busy and then hang up. This is exactly how many woman feel when you walk up to them using some obvious open line or some sort of flirting sign. They hang up on you before you get to show them who you really are.

Are Women The Same?

On the other hand women usually have the choice on who to be with, so they don't usually have to flirt, they just choose the best candidate. There are the occasions though that women find a man she is attracted to but the guy doesn't seem so interested in her. That's when she has to starts to flirt and her flirting signs are so obvious, because she is not used to flirting.

So here are 5 of the most common flirting signs women will show when they are interested:

1. If she starts asking questions about who you are and where you are from or what you do? 2. Compliments, because if she starts saying nice things to you, fair chance she likes you. 3. Touching, if she starts touching your arm or shoulders or if she smacks you softly when you are cheeky to her. 4. Giggling or laughing, she is trying to tell you she finds you funny, this is even more obvious if what you said wasn't that funny. 5. Moving closer to you, the closer she gets to you the more comfortable she feels around you.

Now lets make one thing clear, just because she shows one of these flirting signs doesn't mean she wants to go home with you, it just means she is interested and wants to spend more time with you. She wants you to find out more about you.

The Best Way To Flirt With A Woman, Is To NOT FLIRT!!

I once read that 95% of people are going broke and yet we always seem to follow what the same 95% of people are doing when it comes to investing. To become wealthy just do the opposite of what the 95% of people are doing. So what I see in the dating world is that 95 % of guys are flirting the same way and yet most of the women are still hanging up on them. So it's the same to, with flirting, the best way to flirt with a women is NOT to flirt. The minute she knows you are interested she just hung up on you.

That's Just Plain Nasty - Well Yes And No

The best way to get a girl to be interested in you is to act the opposite of most guys and that is to act disinterested, yes you heard me right disinterested. Have you ever been told you can't have something and you want it even more than before, well tell a girl that she can't have something and she'll want it even more as well. So if you are a guy she might want to get to know and all of a sudden she feel's like you are not interested in her, she'll pull every flirting tip she knows out of her bag and they wont be subtle I guarantee it.

It sounds so counter intuitive but believe me it works, say something to a girl that knocks them down a peg is the best thing you can do to peak a girls interest in you, it's know as an attractive arrogance.

So here are my 5 Flirting Tips for guys that make it look like you aren't flirting.

1. Approach a girl with a reason other than to say Hi. You need an opinion on something. 2. Don't stand next to the girl you like the most. 3. Look happy, confident and care less about what they think of you. 4. Make a smart comment about the girl you like, but smile when you do it, you are not meant to be nasty. Be cheeky/cocky. 5. Add value to their night, be funny and/or interesting.

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