Marriage is a very important commitment that shouldn't be entered into lightly, when we think of getting married; we should make a mentally sound decision to do the right thing in the eyes of God  and the person that  we're saying I do too. When we marry , we think it's for keeps, but unfortunately for many of us that wasn't the case.  Marriage is like a document business that two people  go into; it's like a two way partnership , we're suppose be committed to each other and no one else.

Marriage is also a gift from God, but unfortunately everyone we marry is not our husband or wife.  Our mistake is falling in love  with and marrying the wrong people; that's why our marital relationships doesn't last, because we come unequally yoked to the wrong person.Remember the women at the well in the bible, where Jesus said to her: you have been married five times and the man you're with now is not your husband; That's why I say everyone we marry may not be our husband or our wife.I truly believe when God put to people together, it's a holy union for a life until death do them apart. There are so many important parts to marriage and the stuff that makes it stick together for a life time.  I'm talking about the traits and characteristics of a happy marriage or shall I say a content marriage.

The first thing we should have in a marriage is the word of God and the love of God, then we should love each other with all our heart and soul.  We should have honesty within our relationship with our husband and our wives; Trust is also must, if we want our marriage to be on solid grounds. But if you think you can get along without loyalty , you will be fighting a losing battle.  The essence of intimacy is what will keep you connected to each other.  Sex is important  because it gives us the physical ties to get into our partners  physically and emotionally.  Communication is  important, because if we don't know where our partners heart and head is; at all times , we're in really big trouble.

We all have to have a certain amount of compassion to feel our partners pain and frustrations and what they're going through.  We also need a little bit of tact in our marriages in order to keep from saying or doing the wrong thing at the wrong time and hurting the one we love. Finally little humor never hurt anyone, it keeps us laughing at ourselves and each other together.If we can have a marriage of this important stuff, I think it will be glued together for a life time and nothing or no one can break the bonds of what God has joined together, let no man put asunder.

Benny Faye Douglass