10 Ideas For Creating Romance in Your Relationship A Guide for Guys

No matter who you are or how much in love you are with your spouse it is inevitable that you will fall into a rut romantically if you are not careful. It happens to almost everyone. So it’s nothing to be ashamed of. Living with the same person for a long period of time makes you comfortable and complacent.

Two phrases that I really hate to here my wife utter are “We need to talk”, and “I want to be romanced”. The reason I hate these phrases is because it usually means that I’m in trouble. If she has to tell me she wants to be romanced then I know that I’ve not been attentive and creative in that area of our relationship.

So I want to help other guys avoid being called out. Here are some fun and creative ideas and suggestions to reignite the passion back into your love life.

1. Create and send them a unique gift

Create a short note with crayons and construction paper and mail it in a large formal envelope. Or buy some Play-Doh and make her a sculpture. You could leave a sexy message or simply an “I Love You” made with legos.

2. Recreate a childhood memory

Your spouse has probably told you about a lot of her childhood memories. Take her to her favorite childhood playground or favorite hangout.

3. Fun with Water Guns

It’s amazing how much fun adults can have with water guns. A super soaker battle between you and your lady will really be a blast.

4. Favorite Childhood Candy

Instead of buying the usual chocolates why not buy her some of her favorite childhood candy. You can get it wrapped or buy a nice gift bag to place the candy in.

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5. Take A Walk

Go to your favorite park and take a moonlight walk during a full moon. Or a walk on the beach at night is really romantic. Be sure to take a blanket to keep her warm.

6. Say I Love You

Learn how to say I Love You in sign language.

I Love You in other languages:

Te amo - Spanish

Je t’aime - French

Ich liebe dich - German

Ai shite imasu - Japanese

Ti amo - Italian

Wo ai nei - Chinese

Jag alskar dig - Swedish

Nagligivaget - Eskimo

S’ agapo - Greek

Aloha wau ia oe - Hawaiian

Thaim in grabh leat - Irish

Ani ohev otakh - Hebrew

Te amoro - Mexican

Ya lyublyu tyebya - Russian

Ek het jou lief - Afrikaans

Ninapenda wewe - Swahili

7. Give a Gift, Not a Present

A gift is something that she wants. A present is something that you want to give to her. Find out about something she likes and surprise her with it. For instance my wife loves Mac lipsticks. I found out what her favorite colors were and I bought her 5 of them one in each color.

8. Go On a Picnic

Surprise her with a picnic. A great idea is to find a Japanese garden or other type of garden park in your area and plan a picnic during the middle of the week. If you go during the middle of the week and just after the regular lunch hours you may find that you can pick a nice secluded spot for a very romantic late afternoon lunch.

Top 25 Japanese Gardens in North America

9. Tell her she’s special

Leave her a single rose with a note letting her know how special she is and how grateful you are that she is apart of your life.

10. Re-live A special date

Relive your first date or any special date that holds fond memories for the both of you. I recreated a date that my wife and I had when we were in college. I took my wife to lunch at her favorite restaurant, then to a tour of Japanese garden that she had never been to before. I finished up the day by taking her to dinner at a fondue restaurant and then to a play.

One of the best ways to spice up the romance in you relationship is to spice up the lovemaking. Try something new such as a surprise gift after making love, or try a new position, or learn to give a sensual massage. Instead of giving her a massage before making love how about giving her one afterwards too. Take the time to just hold and caress her skin in the most loving way.

The biggest benefit of you being romantic is that it will inspire her to be romantic too. The constant give and take between the two of you will create sparks consistently.

If you’d like some other ideas about how to spice things up check out this ebook of 500 Lovemaking Tips by Oprah Love expert Michael Webb. This book will help you to add more passion, pleasure and intimacy to your relationship.