1. First and foremost, I believe and trust in God.

Having God in my life gives me the power and the desire to do what is acceptable to Him. Which is, for me to be the very best person that I can be, for myself and towards others. Without God I am nothing. This is my belief and it works for me.

2. I am Willing to Compromise.

Being able to compromise in any relationship is very important. One of the partners in the relationship must be compromising in order to have peace in the relationship. If not there will always be strife.

3. I Put in the effort to love unconditionally.

Loving unconditionally is a process that seems to be unatainable, although this is a very difficult task, I believe that with patience, understanding, openmindedness and a measure of desire with Gods guidance, makes this process obtainable on a daily basis. I believe that Unconditional Love is not an event that is aquired once and for all. It is a process that needs to be practiced always. It is an ongoing lifestyle change that one needs to be dedicated to.

4. I try not to Judge.

I try not to be judging. Being judgmental can cause pain, resentment, not being able to trust and rebellion. These issues can place a wedge in the growth of a Marriage by causing the judged person to withhold important issues from the spouse. Communication walls are built causing misunderstood actions and responses.

5. Trying to Understand rather than be understood.

I have learned that trying to make my wife understand my person, has led to many selfish attitudes on my part. Giving off a sense of selfcentered characteristics, which causes an unwillingness to compromise. On the contrary, making an effort to understand my wife and what she is going through at the moment, allows me the ability to stop and "LISTEN" to her concerns and emotional differences. Without judging or minimizing her concerns. Which leads to number 6.

6. Being Attentive.

6. Attentiveness plays a MAJOR role in relationships. I try to listen and learn what my wife desires. Whether it is love, understanding, a listening ear, guidance, or maybe she just wants to laugh with me for a moment, are all very important conscious awarenesses that has to be taken into consideration, without trying to fix everything all the time. i have learned that, my wife does not always want advice. Sometimes she just wants me to listen and hear her thats ALL.

7. Thoughtfulness.

Realizing, the importance of "The little Things that Matter" has given me insight on some things that i can do regularly, without the need of a holiday or an apologizing situation. Doing something that says " I Love You" has proven to be of great success throughout my marriage thus far. Giving flowers, running bath water, massages, kisses on the neck or a whisper in the ear, setting up a candle light dinner and preparing the meal for her. After dinner, wash the dishes and put them away while she relaxes. These are some small ideas that has had a great positive impact on my marriage.

8. Having the ability to agree to disagree.

Often at times when having unsettled differences, rather than continuing in the moment, I have found that offering to alleviate the situation without anyone having to be right or wrong, I have found that agreeing to disagree is very helpful. It allows each of us to sort of have our belief honored without having to agree with the other. It hepls to use this technique to resolve differences and be at peace.

9. Never go to bed angry with one another.

I have often times made the decision to offer an apology for any differences,whether ight or wrong, that may have caused segregation between my Wife and I at bed time. reason being, we are not promised another living day once we have gone to bed. Never knowing if my wife or myself will be Blessed with another opportunity at life's journey. Therefore, I practice this method continually as they occur.

10. Last but not least, Support.

I wish to support my Wife in any endevour that she seeks, even if I do not agree with it. Allowing one another the opportunity to learn life's lessons as life dishes out its portions amongst us individually is also very important. i have learned that if I attempt to discourage my wife and her endevours, it just causes more resentments, communication walls, leaving her feeling less than and contributing to a low self esteem result. So it is very important that I try to be supportive of my Wife.

These are the characteristics that I live by in order to be a great Husband to my wife. Forever, trying to teach her these ways also, by leading by example in my walk of life. I pray that these methods will assist others who wish to have a measure of decency in their Marriage.

God Bless all who read this Hub and may God offer all His same power and abilities.