101 Ways To Tell Your Wife, "I Love You"
79KEEP YOUR LOVE ALIVE BY PRACTICING DEMONSTRATIONS OF LOVE EVERYDAY! CHOOSE AT LEAST ONE TIP EVERYDAY. (THE MORE THE BETTER)!
You knew that she was special the moment you first laid eyes on her. It was a dream come true the day she said, "Yes!" Now that she belongs to you, it's easy to let your love life play second fiddle to your responsibilities. Not that you want it that way, it's just that life is so demanding. There is great news. By just taking a few moments of each day to fulfil the needs of your marriage, you and your wife can feel like newlyweds for life!
- LEAVE CANDY FOR HER TO FIND And I'm not talking about a 3 Musketeers bar. (Unless that's what she likes). Buy a pretty box of chocolates. Leave them in her car or some other place that she's sure to find them. Tuck a little "I love you" note inside to increase the effect.
- DON'T TEASE HER FOR PRIMPING She wants to look nice for you! If you constantly go on about how much time she spends on her hair or manicures, she may take it that you don't appreciate her femininity or her effort to look pretty. Let her know she's beautiful when she fixes herself up.
- KISS HER FOR AT LEAST 6 SECONDS Forget the little peck on your way out the door in the morning. Give her a kiss that will stay with her all day! Kissing for at least six seconds doesn't take that long but it makes for a much more meaningful kiss.
- HOLD HANDS Wives feel special when their husbands reach over and take their hand. It's just a simple gesture, but it goes a long way.
- MAIL HER A LETTER E-mail has its place, but for a woman, getting a letter in the mailbox addressed to her from her hubby...well now, that's just too romantic!
- LEAVE HER A TIP You'll leave the waitress a tip, but what about the lady who is there to wait on you 24/7? Surprise her as she clears the supper table; leave her a few dollars to show your appreciation.
- REENACT YOUR FIRST DATE Tell your wife that you're taking her out. Tell her that you think it would be fun to do everything just like you did on your first date then try to reenact it! The bonus is that you won't have to take her home to her father, you can take her home with you!
- DEDICATE A SONG TO HER Call your local radio station and have them to play a song for your sweetie! Tell them why you love her and her name, and have them to repeat it over the air!
- COMMUNICATE WITH HER Your wife wants in on your life. Tell her about your day or even your hopes and dreams for the future. Talk about the kids, or whatever happens to come to mind. Just communicate!
- WHISPER IN HER EAR Get close to your wife and whisper those sweet words of love in her ear. Try whispering something about your private love life in the middle of a public place and watch her blush!
- HAVE FLOWERS DELIVERED TO HER Take some time out of your lunch break to swing by the flower shop. Have the florist deliver her flowers to your home or at her place of work, or deliver them yourself!
- PUT YOUR ARM AROUND HER Put your arm around your wife while she's sitting next to you or while walking side by side.
- CARESS HER Gently caress your wife's hair with your hand or her face with your lips. She loves to feel your touch.
- PRIASE HER IN FRONT OF OTHERS Let your wife hear you brag on her while you're talking to others. She may blush or say something back, but secretly she's feeling proud that you're her man.
- PRAISE HER TO HER FACE Tell your wife that you appreciate all that she does and the love that she shows to you.
- TAKE HER ON A SURPRISE DATE Secretly arrange for someone to watch your children, if you have them, then surprise your wife by taking her out for a night that she'll not soon forget!
- SAY YOU'RE SORRY You're not too macho to say, "I'm sorry" if you're in the wrong. In fact you'll be a much bigger man if you do.
- LEAVE THE STRESS OF WORK AT WORK I'm not saying that you can't talk to your wife about your job or the things that bother you. I'm saying that if you've had a bad day, don't take it out on your wife and family. It's easy to be grumpy after a long day of work. Don't snap at the people who love you. If you need to vent your frustrations, talk them out with your wife. She'll be glad to lend an ear if you need to talk.
- DON'T HIDE ANYTHING FROM YOUR WIFE Be open and honest with your wife about everything. Keep an open line of communication between the two of you at all times. Keeping things from her, even small things, can hurt a relationship. If she should find out from another source, she would feel hurt and disappointed that you didn't feel like you could share with her. This could ultimately damage her trust in you as well.
- TAKE CARE OF THE CARS Make sure that your vehicles are in tip top shape at all times so your wife isn't left stranded. Don't expect her to go to the dirty garages to get the oil changed and repairs done, do them yourself, or take them in for her.
- COMPLIMENT HER Everyone needs a compliment now and then, but many wives need a little extra reassurance to make sure that she's still special in your eyes. A compliment won't cost you anything, but for your wife, it could be priceless!
- BUY HER A FEMININE GIFT Buy your wife a gift that will make her feel feminine, like her favorite perfume, or a pretty night gown.
- DON'T FORGET SPECIAL OCCASIONS Put it on your phone schedule, hang a calendar in your vehicle, do what you must, but DON'T forget your anniversary, her birthday, or Valentine's Day!
- ALWAYS KISS HER GOODNIGHT Never even close your eyes at night until you've kissed your wife goodnight. (For at least 6 seconds).
- FINISH HOME IMPROVEMENT PROJECTS Too many times husbands work so hard all week that they don't feel like keeping up the repairs at home. This is understandable, but remember, it often makes your wife's work harder too. If you could work on things for just awhile, and aim to finish at least one project per month, it could make your whole household run smoother.
- DON'T BE NEGATIVE Don't go around griping or nitpicking the things your wife does or don't do. Try to be more pleasant. Look on the positive side of things. When your negative, it makes everything look worse than it really is.
- TAKE A SHOWER TOGETHER Here's a way to get clean and have fun at the same time! Jump in the shower, mesh together, and do a lot of kissing! Be sensitive if your wife feels insecure, and make sure that you reassure her often.
- SHOW PATIENCE DURING HORMONAL TIMES If your wife gets a little hard to live with during certain times of the month, be patient. This is especially important too if she's pregnant or a new mother. She can't control her emotions very well during these times, and will need your support.
- ADMIT IT WHEN YOU'RE WRONG If you are in the wrong, admit it. Don't pass it off like it's no big deal, or make excuses for yourself.
- LOOK INTO HER EYES While talking to or hugging your wife, look her straight in the eyes while cupping her face in your hand. She may feel shy and try to look away, but don't confuse this in thinking she don't like it. Gently insist she look at you, then slowly lean down and kiss her. (For at least 6 seconds).
- SACRIFICE FOR HER Put aside something that you want so that you can give to your wife. Usually, this is what wives do. They'll put aside their own needs to make sure their family gets everything they need first. Make sure your wife is taking good care of herself too.
- WRITE HER A LOVE POEM Put your romantic thoughts into a rhyme that your wife will cherish forever! Not a poet? Just write down your feelings the best you can, she'll love it!
- GIVE HER A MASSAGE Grab the oil and lotion, then grab your wife! Give her a full body massage and help her relax. (Try to at least get past her shoulders before moving on to "other things)."
- PLAY A GAME TOGETHER Bring out the board games or play a game of tennis. Playing a game together can help keep the two of you close. If she beats you, admit it. Don't say, "Oh, I just let you win."
- CALL IF YOU'RE GOING TO BE LATE Don't make your wife worry about you, or let dinner get cold. Take out 5 minutes to phone her if you see you're going to be late.
- WASH THE DISHES FOR HER You don't have to clean the whole house, but just doing one chore such as the dishes once in a while, or at least cleaning up after yourself, will help her out a lot.
- PICK HER FLOWERS OK, you've sent her flowers, but why not pick some wildflowers yourself? Stop the car and pick some by the roadside, then gently tuck one behind your wife's ear and kiss her neck.
- TAKE HER TO A ROMANTIC PLAY Skip the movie and head out to a theatrical play. If there's not a good romantic one showing, find one with some good, clean humor.
- PLAY A KISSING GAME Lock lips and see who can hold out the longest!
- GIVE HER A NIGHT OFF Watch the kids while she heads out to shop for awhile. Throw in a few extra bucks so that she can buy herself something special.
- DON'T MENTION HER WEIGHT No matter what size your wife may be, bringing up her weight is definitely a no no.
- DONT ARGUE OVER FINANCES If money gets tight, be very careful not to argue or shift blame. Together, and in a business-like fashion, explore ways that you can pay off your debts. If things spin out of control, consider financial counseling. Your marriage is worth more than money.
- LEAVE LOVE NOTES IN UNEXPECTED PLACES Try leaving love notes in odd places that she'll be sure to see, such as under windshield wipers, inside the refrigerator, inside a CD case or even on toilet paper! A good example would be to put one on the light switch that says, "You turn me on."
- BE HONEST NEVER EVER lie to your wife, even if it seems harmless. Trust is one of the most important factors in a marriage - don't break it!
- RENEW YOUR WEDDING VOWSAlthough we know that the first vows are good for life, still, taking your wife to a chapel on your anniversary, or any day, and renewing your vows will let her know that you'd marry her all over again.
- WORSHIP TOGETHER Find time to worship and pray with your wife. Our lives our made up of three parts. Body, mind, and spirit. You need to connect in all three ways to really be close.
- RESPECT HER Showing respect is another important factor in a marriage. Don't degrade her, yell at her, or misuse her.
- PROVIDE FOR HER Do your best to provide for your wife and family. You don't have to buy a castle, just make sure it's nice and comfortable and there's food on the table. If your wife chooses to help out that's OK, but it is your place to provide, so don't expect her to fill that role.
- TELL HER YOU NEED HER Let her know that your life just wouldn't be complete if you didn't have her. Tell her that you not only want her in your life, but that you need her.
- LET HER CRY Every woman needs a good cry now and then; sometimes she can tell you why, and sometimes she can't. Just make sure you don't get irritated at her or make fun of her. This will just make everything worse. Take her in your arms and hold her until everything is better. This may be the very thing she needed anyway.
- DON'T TEASE HER TOO MUCH It's OK to tease now and then, but try to keep it at a minimum. Don't excessively tease her in front of others, and never tease in a degrading fashion.
- DON'T CORRECT HER IN FRONT OF OTHERS If you feel that your wife has got a little out of line or has done something that you disapprove of, it's OK to talk it over with her in private, but never jump her in front of others; especially your children. Make sure that even if you're firm, that you're loving.
- BE FAITHFUL Always make sure that you're faithful to your wife in every angle. Keep your body, your eyes, and your thoughts only for her. If you are facing any temptation, remove yourself from the source. Be open with your wife about your needs so that she can be the one to fill them.
- GIVE HER LOTS OF CUDDLE TIME Wives like to be cuddled and kissed without sex sometimes. Try sitting in front of a campfire or lay under the stars and just take your time.
- LISTEN Sometimes wives just need to talk - about anything. Show interest and listen to her when she talks. If she's upset, show concern. If she's happy, laugh with her. Try to pick up on clues that she may be dropping in her conversation to let you know her needs.
- BE FORGIVING If your wife should do something that offends you, be quick to forgive. Holding hard feelings can ruin a marriage. Let her know in a heartfelt way how she made you feel, then let it go.
- BE THE LEADER OF YOUR HOME Many wives don't want their husbands to be the leader because they dominate. But if you're a good leader, you will also serve. Home leadership is meant to be the husbands role, and if you do it right, it will take an unnecessary load off of your wife. Set reasonable guidelines and goals for your household. Ask your wife for advice too. Sometimes a woman can see things not only in the practical sense, like most men do, but she also uses her heart to even things out.
- BE CLEAN AND NEAT Keep yourself groomed, clean, and smelling nice.
- PROVIDE SECURITY Let your wife feel secure in your love without worrying if you will still love her from day to day.
- FIND OUT WHAT HER NEEDS ARE SEXUALLY Your wife's sexual needs sometimes vary a great deal from yours. Find out how and where she likes to be touched, and what she expects from sex, and try to fill her needs.
- HELP OUT WHEN SHE DON'T FEEL WELL If your wife is sick or has just had a bad day, try helping with her household duties and with the kids. Make sure she can get plenty of rest.
- DON'T COMPARE HER IN A NEGATIVE WAY Don't say things like, "You gripe just like your Aunt Thelma." Comparison often hurts self esteem.
- TAKE HER ON WEEKEND TRIPSTake your wife to a romantic resort for the weekend. If your budget's a little tight, consider checking into a hotel, even if it's local, so the two of you can get away from the familiar and just enjoy each other.
- BE VERBAL WHEN MAKING LOVE When making love, describe aloud and in detail each thing that you do and how it makes you feel. This will greatly arouse your wife, as well as let her know that she's meeting your needs.
- SHOP FOR A GIFT TO SHARE Go shopping for something that you'll both enjoy together. Get a great CD, massage oils, or anything that you'll both like.
- ENCOURAGE HER TO FOLLOW HER DREAMS If your wife has dreams and goals that she would like to accomplish, be her best cheer leader. Support her as she endeavors to reach them.
- BE KIND AND COURTEOUS Treat your wife as you would expect her to treat you. Treat her with dignity and be courteous at all times.
- PASS GAS IN THE BATHROOM If you must pass gas, go to the bathroom. Don't do it to annoy her, or burp at the table. It's not as funny as you think it is - as a matter of fact, it's not funny at all.
- FLIRT WITH YOUR WIFE Don't stop flirting with her just because you're married. Do it now more than ever to keep that spark! Wink at her from across the room, whistle at her, or give her "that look." Watch her cheeks turn rosy.
- TAKE A JACUZZI BATH TOGETHER Jacuzzis are one of the world's most romantic inventions! Some use it for stress, some use it for... If you don't have a jacuzzi tub, check into a hotel that has a tub for two, and spend the night.
- TAKE A WALK Go for a long walk through a park or take a moonlight stroll. Hold hands while you walk.
- LOOK OUT FOR THE FUTURE You plan on being together for life, right? Make sure that your future will be secure. Set up a retirement fund. Also, although no one wants to think about it, we all will die one day. Take out a life insurance policy to make sure that if the worst should happen, your family will be cared for.
- SET UP A SLIDE SHOW Pick out special photo memories from the time that you were dating to the present. Create a slide show with music. This is something that you can do together and can help keep you close.
- DON'T RUSH SEX While the two of you are in the middle of the wonderful marital gift of sex, be careful not to rush it. Let your wife know that you're loving her, not just the moment.
- DON'T BELITTLE HER OPINIONS If your wife has an opinion or an idea, thank her, and let her know that her thoughts are valuable. Don't act like her ideas are unintelligent or crazy.
- CHERISH HER DIFFERENCES Your wife has a lot different make up than you and it shows in more ways than one. Not only in her body, but the way she thinks, or even the way she receives love are naturally just "different." Cherish these differences and don't try to change her.
- BE DEVOTED TO HER HAPPINESSDo what you can to make your wife happy. You don't have to buy her the most expensive things or "spoil" her rotten, (though that's OK too). Usually a little goes a long way for most wives, and just giving a little attention now and then will make her feel loved and appreciated. You will find that if she's happy, she'll respond better to your needs as well.
- REMINISCE YOUR WEDDING NIGHT Women like to remember special times. Bring up your wedding night and how it felt to have sex for the first time. Talk about your high school graduations or the day your kids were born.
- MAKE HER LATE FOR BREAKFAST Wake her up by kissing her! Not only will this be a pleasant way to wake up, but she just might keep you there through breakfast!
- MAKE A JOURNAL Start on her birthday or Christmas and write a love note or something special to your wife everyday for a year. At the end of the year, present it to her as a gift.
- GIVE HER A NICKNAME Give her your own special name, like "Beautiful" or "Angel."
- HAVE YOUR PHOTO MADE WITH HER Go have a professional, up-to-date photo done of the two of you. Try romantic scenes such as a park or waterfall.
- GO ON A SECOND HONEYMOON Remember how special your honeymoon was? Take another one, and try to make it better than the first.
- START A HOBBY TOGETHER Find a hobby that you both enjoy, such as horse back riding or tennis. Do it together as often as you can to help stay close.
- HELP HER UNDRESS Help your wife with the buttons or snaps. Caress her gently as you help remove her clothing. Do it slowly, piece by piece.
- SHOW HUMILITY Don't get a big head and think that you can't be touched with a ten foot pole. You wife wants you to be confident, but don't think that you're the master of all.
- PROTECT HER Look after your wife making sure that she's not in any situations where she could be harmed physically or emotionally. This even includes verbal abuse from cantankerous family members. Always be quick to stand up for her in any given situation.
- DON'T PUSH SEX Be considerate in the fact that sometimes your wife just won't feel like having sex. Remember, she's not rejecting you as a person if she turns you down. However, if she says no too often, try talking to her and making sure that she's not feeling insecure.
- BE HER BEST FRIEND Be there for your wife at all times and in every situation. Let her feel confident enough to share anything with you.
- BE THE CHEF Cook up a romantic meal for your wife. Even if you're not a cook, you can find something that you can make. Just follow the box or cookbook directions. Macaroni and cheese can be romantic if it comes from your heart. Just set the table with some candles and turn out the lights. What could be more romantic than eating macaroni and cheese in candlelight with an adoring husband who's tried so hard to please you?
- GET RID OF IRRITATING HABITS Do you have a habit that bugs your wife?Try to take the necessary measures to stop it.
- PLANT A GARDEN TOGETHER Whether it's a flower garden or a vegetable garden, growing things takes lots of work. Why not do it together? This will cut the work in half, and will be a great way to enjoy each other's company. Then when it's all said and done, enjoy the fruits of your labor by picking and eating the veggies, or decorating the table with the lovely flowers.
- BUY A SEASON PASS Buy season passes to the zoo or a museum. The cost will only come once a year, so if you're a little tight on money at some point, you will always have a place to go that is fun and paid for.
- DON'T BE A WORKAHOLIC!(Or any other kind of "holic" for that matter). Make sure there is always time to spend with your wife and family. In a few years, the money won't matter anyway, and you just have one chance at life. Make the most of it with the ones you love; don't live with regrets.
- SLOW DANCE IN YOUR BEDROOM Turn on some romantic music, hold your wife close, and slow dance right in your own bedroom. Suggest lighting candles and dancing in the nude.
- MAKE A LIST OF LOVE Make a list of every reason that you can think of that you love your wife and post it on the refrigerator.
- SPEAK IN YOUR OWN CODE Create a secret code word for something that only the two of you know, and say it openly in public! It's like having your own secret language!
- NIBBLE Pull your wife close and nibble her ear or lips. This will give her cold chills!
- GRAB A KISS WHILE WAITING If you're at a stop light or in a long line at the drive-through, pull your wife close and grab a kiss. (Remember, at least six seconds, although you may want to go longer)!
- TELL THE WORLD HOW MUCH YOU LOVE HER Put a bumper sticker on your vehicle that says, "I Love My Wife," or put up a sign in your yard that says, "The Prettiest Lady In the World Lives Here."
- JUST SAY THE WORDS Tell your wife everyday, several times a day, that you love her.
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Well, MrMarmalade, after 50 years I'm sure that you can give us all some advice. Congratulations and hope you have many more years.
Good job.I'll try to remember as many as possible of the 101 stuff. After just ten years I'll try to catch up before we hit the twentieth anniversary.
nice message
Thank you. I may have to bookmark this hub just for future reference. I think there are probably 50-60 I would have never thought about.
Bless you mommy! These will help me revive the honeymoon spirit!
Thanks for stopping by! I'm sure that your wives will be more than glad that you did too.
I have printed this off, scrolled it up, tied a bow around it and will put this in my husband's Christmas stocking. I did the same from your other hub "101 ways to tell your husband" for my stocking. Thanks for the great ideas.
Dottie1, I'm so glad to here it! Love is definitelty the greatest gift that we can give. I wish you and your husband both a very "Merry Christmas" and a sizzling New Year!
Some nice ideas here but I'm not sure about no.6.
Leaving a few dollars as a 'tip' may not be such a good idea!
Isn't this a bit degrading in these days of equality?
Nice ideas, I like it and will try to exercise all tips.
Thanks Rik Ravado and IHT for the comments.
Rik, I'm not sure how appreciation could ever be considered "degrading."
Well, as far as I can tell there are 93 ways in which I can improve :D
Great Hub!
Thooghun: LOL There's no time like the present to begin improving! A new year - a new man! Thanks for stopping by!
Very good,I learned a few things,thanks blessedmommy!
Froggy, Glad to hear it, and you're welcome!
Oh.. thanks for the nice tips!
My pleasure, Fashion Style!
amazing
one way is simplt to say " yah I LOVE YOU".hows that
Great tips!..I like both the tips for the husband and for the wife. Thanks blessed mom..^^
Thanks, Tiger I appreciate it.
Thank you, co_word for commenting.
Thank yojspew, for the kind words and comment.
amazing really wonderfull
i like it very much
It's so lovely!
Great list! And oh, so true!
What about making a webpage dedicated especially to her?
Great tips, i dont have a wife, but i will be using this information to please my gf :D
Great hub. I guess it can work just as well for women looking after their husband/ partner too... and at any time of year!
Take notice men. Take notice:)
Hi, great list! I didn't like the "tip" one, well, because I'm not a waitres in my own home, you know? We ALL clear the table. But I just love the others! What a nice Hub to read...thanks for sharing and taking the time to write it! =)
Thanks for commenting! The tip isn't to insinuate that anyone is a "waitress" but is only meant to be an expression of gratitude. Notes or audible "thank you's" can serve the same purpose, but money is just a simple gesture that many women would appreciate. I don't consider myself a waitress either, but I do love serving my family. I don't do it to be praised, but when someone notices my labor of love it does mean a lot.
I'm glad you like the others. Thanks for stopping by!
Thanks for these tips. It may help me since i plan to get married with her. No my wife yet but will be. May use what you teach here. Really a great info. THanks
This hub deserves to be in the #1 spot under "best hubs." Great job mommy, I loved it! Keep writing high quality hubs like these...we all could use them!
it really helps a lot!!!
it's very useful not only to me but also to my brad sitting beside me...wahahaha!!!
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where is 101 Ways To Tell Your Husband, "I Love You
Look just above the comments and you'll see the link. Thanks for stopping by!
nice
Thanks for the 101. I will do more than try to make it happen. She won't even talk to me because she thinks I put my daughter first over her. It is a no win but I will not give up despite the pain. One Love, One person rowing the boat. :(
Thanks for these tips on how to have a better family, because if a husband does all these, only a few really hard and fastidious women would not be impressed.
Number 11 is always my favourite. Wonderful list.
Wow! What a list - I'll need to read this again - so many good ideas and super tips to make her happy. Now let's see if they work...
A big thanks to you Blessed Mommy!
Here's what I'm going to do: I'll copy this list to an excel file and than print a check list. My goal is to tell my wife that I love her (I really do but often I forget to tell her that) this 101 ways.
I like it!
Nice Hub! Love it...
Gentleman, Take this stuff seriously!
Don't ever take your wife and her commentment to you for granted. I made the mistake of working to much, not giving her the attention she needed, and did not telling her "I Love You" enough. A Few weeks ago, after 25 years of marriage, I discovered she was having an affair. This will RIP your heart out and show you how much her LOVE really means to you.
This is the hardest thing Ive ever had to deal with, but I love her and I will never let her forget that she is the most special thing in my life, and all everything else is second to her.
I now tell her "I Love You", I talk to her, I treat her like a friend, I send her text messages in the middle of the day, just to say she's special, I will always show her the attention she deserved and somehow I misplaced.
Remember that your Wifes love is something Special. Don't let it fade, even for a second.
Hey, I should forward this to my hubby!
This is cool.
Life is so short...this hub is so nice and it could make it even better. Thanks!
Thanks, solarshingles!
And thanks to everyone else who's left comments. I appreciate them all!
Are you married? This is such a great hub!!! I have a ex husband, by the way we are trying to get back together, that really lived up to most of these. As a woman, if you can do these for a woman, you got her for life! Women need these things. Maybe not all of them to keep them foreve but it sure does make a HUGE difference!!
Thanks, Sandilyn for stopping by and commenting.
In answer to your question, YES! I am happily married and we will be celebrating our thirteenth wedding anniversary in about 3 1/2 weeks!
Thank You! I often forget to make my wife feel special even though she is my whole world. I appreciate your list. It's a good reminder of some of the things I should be doing!
You're welcome, inkcarts! You wife is sure to appreciate your efforts!
Thanks for commenting, laffe!
All men should read this, very nice!
I've just read both, for husbands and wives. Well done. I imagine you could easily come up with 101 ways to be nice to strangers as well. Keep going.
good idia amazing thanks so much
Hi mam. Thank you so much for creating such a nice hub. I was so unfortunate that I was not able to find this hub before. Your tips are really working well for me. I love my wife and baby girl a lot. They are my life. Thanks once again to make my wife happier than before as she also takes care of our seven month old baby at home full time, I am thankful to her also.
I was touched by your comment, Soni2006. I am so thankful that the tips are helpful for you. It is wonderful that you are such a loving husband and father. May God bless your wonderful family!
Nice list. With this huge choice it's impossible not to try at least one...
Great hub!
What a terrific list. I wish I knew where to find a counterpart for the wives. Here at http://www.beautifulweddinginvitations.com we help our clients with info in how to put on a terrific wedding starting with their wedding invitations - the etiquette and all involved with that, but i would love to refer them to your tips for the husbands in how to keep love alive in their marriages and I wish I knew where to find a similar list for the wives regarding how to continue to woo their husbands after marriage.
The breakup rate is way too high in our country in my opinion. If husbands around the country would practice what you have laid out here, there would be far fewer divorces. If you don't mind, I would love to refer our clients to your hub. If you know of anything similar i could send the wives to regarding how to esteem and respect their husbands, would you let me know? Out of all the great causes out there, one of the greatest, must be one that helps couples stay together, especially for the sake of their children.
Thanks, Mike! Glad you liked it!
Thank you, Six Pack!
Wedding Invitation: Thanks for stopping by.
Yes, I would be glad for you to pass along my links. I am guessing from your comment that you didn't see the link above to my other hub... 101 Ways To Tell Your Husband, "I Love You." The link to it is http://hubpages.com/hub/101ways2sayiloveyou-husban
OMG, this is such a sweet sweet hub! Thanks for reminding that romantics still exist in this (often) cynical world. Your hub melted my heart for sure. Keep on hubbin'! :D
I wonder the last one won't work for me. The special thing should not come out more ofter, don't you think? :-)
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just wonderful
This message 101 ways to love your wife hit the spot. I feel like I am in a loveless marriage. My husband does not touch me. He even pulls his hand away from me if I pick his hand up. He does not let me touch him. I want love and want to feel love. i started crying in this message it was like you were reading my heart. Thank you for just letting me know there are real men out there that do something for their wifes and want to love them. You have made my day! Thanks a million. lori
Lori: I know that this may not be poplular with some but I know Someone who can restore broken marriages and mend broken hearts. God. He cares about what we are feeling and he cares about our relationships. In fact, he cares about everything that concerns us. Why don't you take the time to talk to him about it? He loves you.
blessedmommy, I have talked to God and I still do. I have tried to talk to my husband about this and he simply either does not care or can't get it that i need love. I rarely get sex. Maybe once a year. He never holds my hand. My husband does not kiss me and he adverts his eyes away when i come out of the shower. If I try to come on to him he pushes me away and tells me he is too tired. I am a pretty lady I am slightly over weight, but i have never cheated on my husband and never want to. I feel overwhelmed a lot now. I started writing little notes to him and putting them into his lunch. Things like I am proud of you and love you. Thanks for working so hard for us. I feel lost, and unwanted and unloved. Nothing works. I feel trapped and alone. My husband and I have been married 29 years. I have always tried to be there for him and show him respect and love. I am not a woman that does not like sex. I have always listened to his problems, and tried to always be the leaning shoulder for him. I always gave him masages, and took care of my man every way possible. But he does not return the favors. We never use to have a problem with this. But my husband is a very depressed person. He takes medication for it when he wants to. I have asked him to talk to the doctor about this and for seven years he has not.
I use to play piano in church at a little church. But I know God is the answer in every thing we face in life. There. I know my husband is depressed and this is why I have stayed with him this long. I do not believe in divorce unless it is for adultry. I cannot prove that. So I have been working to get my husband in church. I quit playing the piano, and direction the chior and teaching classes and runing the youth program and left to go to a church he chose. We are there now. He does go some now . Before he never went. Now at least he does go at least once a month. But I go every sunday and to sunday school. I do sing in the chior but that is it. I am trying not to get too involved for his sake . I pray nad read my bible daily. I study the word of God And it is my pryer that he will finally see the light and start living again. He needs God in his life and I mention this as gently as I can. I do not hound him if he does not want ot go to church I just say maybe next sunday and leave with a prayer on my lips. I do pray and I would love to be happy again. But so far no drastic change. Say a prayer for me please. I am trying with all my might to hang in there but it is hard very hard...
Lori: My heart goes out to you and I'm am making your situation a matter of earnest prayer. YOU CAN BE ASSURED THAT I WILL! I don't claim to have all the answers, but I talk to the ONE WHO DOES every single day.
Although I've never experienced the same pain that you're feeling, I've endured great pain in other areas of my life. There was a certain situation that I faced once that caused me a great deal of grief and heartache. I took it to God and I felt like that He promised me that He would turn things around. Well, it didn't happen immediately and even at times I would pray and things would seem to get worse. The thing that kept me going was that I believed that God would do what He promised no matter how long that it took. At times I'd feel like I couldn't go on and the promise wasn't going to happen, then God would give me a sign either through a song, a word from someone, a Bible verse or some other way that He had not forgotten to do what He said that He would. Sometimes I'd walk around in blind faith with all the circumstances laughing in my face screaming at me that I was crazy for hoping but I'd just cling to my promise like a child clings to his mother.
Finally, after years of seeing no results and no tangible reason why it should come to pass, God completely turned everything around in one night. Now the joy that I feel has covered over the pain of the past until it is just a memory. I know that He can do the same for you and your husband. I'm living proof of God's work in a person's life.
If you'd like to e-mail me instead of using the comment box, your welcome to use the link above. If you wish to just use the comment box, that's fine too. However, even if I never hear from you again, you can be assured that you and your husband will be in my prayers.
Thank you, I too have had those objectives in my life that present pain before and thought sometimes it seems that I am alone I know and have learned God is right beside me holding my hand. I do not always understand the why he makes us wait but the bible does say to wait on the Lord and you shall mount up with wings like Eagles. In other words if I do not give up and I keep the faith God will bring you through. I do know this but it is sometimes difficult waiting. Thank you so very much for your answers. It is awesome that there is someone out there in this great, vast world that does know that God can help and is even willing to mention God. You again made my day. Last night I prayed and cried myself to sleep but I could feel God near. I could feel his presence throught it all. I am so glad I do have a loving God to go to and I appreciate like no tomorrow your kindness in talking to me. Thank you very much. Lori.
God was near as you called to Him and He heard your prayers and saw your tears. I have already prayed for you and your husband several times and I know that God heard my prayers as well. God bless you, Lori.
thanks for this bit, it's really helped the missuz me some, i look for little ways like these to keep our 17 yo marriage alive and it's always worked, of course i also know that she is just as busy looking up ways to please me and keep me happy too. thanks for sharing this bit :-)
i'd like to add cuddling and commmunication (in general - some men or women dont like to talk until its too late)
thanks for the great post!
Glad you stopped by, Kay!
a_dork: Yes, couples need lots of communication and cuddle time. Communication is covered in #9 and cuddling in # 54.
Some great stuff here! I need to get my husband to read this.
Glad you liked it, Flutterbug! Go show your hubby!
Wonderful list! I am about to print this out and leave it on Hubby's nightstand. He's a hard worker, affectionate and claims to love and value our marrige and family but there are many things that I ask of him that he's aware are important to me, but he acts like he simply can't be bothered. I don't want him to slay dragons or part the Red Sea or anything, but he acts as though the little things I need are just too much (going out as a couple, joining the marriage ministry at churc, etc), yet I compromise often and willingly for him. Maybe this will help, appreciate it BlessedMommy!
MsMelody: I'm sending my prayers along with your efforts. May God bless your marriage. I just wanted to point out that you said that your husband is a hard worker, affectionate and claims to value and love your marriage. Concentrate on these things and realize the prize that you have in your husband. Ask God to help you to appreciate your husband for who he is. It's ok and you should tell him how you feel, however. Just don't get bitter if his interests don't turn out to be exactly like yours. Maybe the marriage ministry would thrill you but make your husband feel uncomfortable and maybe he don't go out as often because he's tired or feels the need the conserve funds. Just talk it over with your husband and listen closely to his response. While women often openly tell what's inside, men tend to just send "clues." Find out how your husband communicates and try to stay in tune with that. Meanwhile try to find things that you do have in common and things that you know that you both enjoy and do these things. Then gently coax him to try new things.
thanx a milion .
i'll keep a copy of this in a safe place , and have a very happy wife
well I don't know what i've to say.....
very nice
Thanks
it is important to nurtre the marriage during the day to day life
Wow! I counted all 101 of them and they are there. :) from a marriage councelor to you - great work!
YES, THIS IS TRUE MEN SHOULD KNOW HOW TO SHOW HOW MUCH THAY LOVE THERE WOMAN THERE ARE SOME MEN THAT KNOWS AND SOME MEN THAT DON'T. IT SHOULD GO 2 WAYS I KNOW. SOME WOMAN DON'T KNOW HOW TO LOVE THERE MAN . I WILL WRITE ONE FOR THE SIDE MEN THANK YOU
Nice and useful tips. thanks.
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i am gettin married soon vl try to be as the husband that has been potrayed in ur whole advise/msg.
Thanks for all the comments since I last posted! I appreciate your feedback!
great hub.
I thought I had been great to my wife before I read this. Now I only wish I could delete your hub so that she won't find this.
thanks for threatening my life and well-being,
but thanks all the same,
wow! really sweet!
Great Hub! It is so true that just the little things like taking care of the cars really shows your wife how much you care- my fiance always keeps both of our cars up for us and it is one of the little things that I really do appreciate.
Kat2681
I like it
Thank you! :)
This is very sweet. You really put a smile on me remembering all the sweetest things I receive from my husband. Until now. I love your hub!
Hope you can come by to my hub and say hi. Cheers to you!
I did most of the stuff on the list, and maybe more, unfortunatly my marriage ended in a divorce. I got the same old stuff, you did not put me first???
It is very important to treat the wife very well, and always make her feel special. I will not change even if my marriage outcome was painful.
Keep up the good work guys.
Cheers - Joe
Great Hub! Thanks for the useful tips.
Great info.
Thanks for the tips. Though I am really enjoying my marriage life after 10 years as if we are newly married. There are new information that you shared to make it better. Hope to call my wife attention to your tips. More grease to your elbow.
It takes forever to make a 101 list! gj ;)
Wow, nice hub! I wonder how long it took to compile all these info
great work! I already do some of these things just not enough. well tomorrow, no forget that tonight I will start more.
nice hub...i had to rate it up :)
Great tips. I love the "speak in your own code" one.
Excellent!
Thanks for sharing
some wifes feel big and important when you act in such a way.
Men can always use help when it comes to making our wives happy. It's not that we don't want to, it's just that sometimes we forget or we're totally lost. This was a helpful reminder for us husbands.
WOW!
Great, thank you for sharing !
well done the ladys are the reason we are here you can not live alone so your partner is the most important person in the world to you very good advice thank you i will try and do them every day for my girl Laurie i do love her so
thany you
Ray
overall is so nice but i agree with Rick, no 6 is not very good idea . if my husband do it i would lose my mind , whatever i did for any meal couldnt be appricated by money , i did for my love and if he dose it i feel how poor my work was that compared it with a waitress ,probably a love note or small gift or a kiss with loving sentence could be better ,well its just my idea !
I am going to buy this asap. I have read a lot of the responses and hope and pray this will help my marraige. I do some of these things but not most by far. It gets hard with kids and schedules and all of that stuff. I do love and cherish my wife but I have messed up big in the past (you know what i mean). This has and does still cause a lot of strife and I think she has fallen out of love with me. It kills me everyday and I am trying everything within my power and prayer to fix things. I just hope its not to late. God Bless everyone on here that is going that is willing to work on their marraige.
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Cute list but I would be very offended if my husband left me a tip (#6)
Its incredable, really I love it in that easy and baby step we can make our life more beautiful. thank you very much.
wow...i'm a filipino...
welll im not yet married..in fact i am only 19 years old..but i have a girlfriend..and i am looking forward for our future that we will be together until forever...and i am happy to read this...i am looking for several different tips of how to love my wife..as she is...
i want to surprise her in every way that i do..to make her happy everytime.. i love her so much,...her name is KIEZELLE BERNADETTE JALLORINA...I DO LOVE HER...SEND ME A MESSAGE OF ANOTHER TIPS...PLEASE...THANK YOU GUYS.
Hi, I m just 26 and gone through the list.. Great deal in 101 tips if someone wants to live happy married life keeping her wife happy. aS FAR AS TODAY'S MARRIAGES are concerened, you can apply almost all of these tips to your content.. ultimately u should be dedicated to the relation and the relation nedd that all mentioned in 101 pack.
I am only 38 and as of four years ago I cannot work due to an accident at work that left me barely able to walk and ended up in surgery that left metal rods holding me together. I was a parmedic and my wife is and was a nurse. She has been by my side through it all and I love her with everything I am. We have switch what is considered to be the roles men and women have. I take care of the house and kids and she works. it does not affect our relationship in fact i think it has made us a stronger couple. I was looking on the net for ideas to fan the flames of romance and came across your list. A list that in my opinion is well written. I have done all but a few. For those getting married or the ones that are married the ideas that are listed are really a great guide. My wife and I have been married for 11 years and we still have people that come up to us and tell us 'you guys are great together when are you getting married" it is a great compliment they give us.
The most important thing you can do is respect one another and remember the way you felt the first time you saw her or him. It is so easy to forget. But I tell her every morning and every night that I love her. I also take the time to show her everyday. It is true that sometimes you are just wiped out and tired, but it is those times that will show her / him just how much you mean it when you say i love you.
To the author of the hib I say 'well done!!" and thank you for making a list that us guys cn follow. It is not that we as men don't care about our partners. As you have stated we do tend to forget and as time in the marrage goes by, it easy to become lazy and eventually the fire goes out. I am going to post this on my blog site and on myspace once I get the ok from you so that those lost soles can have a guiding light.
UTMEDIC: I was very touched by your marriage story - to me it sounded very romantic. I am so thrilled that you and your wife have learned the true meaning of love and the secrets to a happy marriage. Really there are no secrets but so many think that there is and try to make it so complicated. You stated one of the most important ones in your comment...REMEMBER. That one word is simple but very profound.
I would be honored for you to share a link to my hub so that others can benefit and be blessed with happy marriages!
This is great, I especially agree with 52,64 and 68 (some men might thinks its funny to do it in front of her so she gets a whiff, its not its juvenile)
Leaving a cash tip, "home leadership is meant to be the husbands role", #36, and a couple of other things I found a little sexist and degrading as a woman...but most of them were sweet : ) This made me smile.
Very good ideas on here, thanks for the tips
Hi BM,
You deserve a big thanks for compiling this wonderful list!
Wonderful tips to keep up the romance in the relationship. I have bookmarked this hub!
For the most part, these are good ideas. I have been married well over 25 years and I can speak from experience. HOWEVER, I found #6 distasteful to say the least. I grew up in the women's movement and if my husband or any man left a "tip" on my table, I would tell him exactly where to put it. I have made my own money for as long as I can remember and I don't need any "tips" from any man.
DINK: That is fine. However, I am a young mom that takes care of children all day, I cook, I clean and I'm not like many "modern" women. I homescool my children as well and I love being a part of their lives 100% of the time. Because of this I don't have the time to take a job outside my home because I don't want to miss one teansy bit of their childhood. My husband respects my decision and wouldn't want it any other way. So...when my husband gives me a little cash to spend and let's me know that he appreciates what I do I think it is downright romantic!
I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO FIND WAYS TO SHOW MY WIFE I LOVE HER MORE THEN ANY THING. AND THE ONLY PROBLEM IS THAT I AM 10,000MILES AWAY DEPLOYED WITH THE US NAVY AND SHOW YOUR WIFE HOW MUCH YOU LOVE THEM IS HARDER FROM A FAR. I WANT TO BE CREATIVE AN DO STUFF FOR HER THAT NO ONE HAS EVER DONE FOR HER. SO FAR I HAVE ONLY FOUND A FEW THINGS AND ONE OF THE BEST I THINK WAS THE MESSAGE IN A BOTTLE. ITS ON THE WAY TO HER NOW SO I HOPE IT MEANS ALOT TO HER. BUT PLEASE IF ANY ONE GETS ON AND READS THIS MESSAGE AND KNOWS A CREATIVE WAY TO SHOW THE LOVE FROM A FAR PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE FEEL FREE TO EMAIL ME EVEN IF ITS A FEW MONTHS FROM NOW. I LOVE MY WIFE VERY MUCH AND WANT TO GIVE HER THE WORLD. AND LET HER KNOW EVEN THOUGH IM AWAY SHE IS STILL THE LIGHT THAT BRIGHTENS MY DAY. THANKS
very seasoned tips,great to believe and apply for a blessed marriage.
These were great.
I feel bad for the women who read this and compare this to thier husbands. That's just not fair. I don't know if blessedmommy's husband does all these things, but if she does she ought to donate him to the circus.
I do some of these things occassionally (as much as my wife does them for me), and I think I'm an awesome husband compared to most of the guys I know, though I should always do more. "Relatively awesome" can still be pretty bad considering what schleps most husbands are.
If you look at these things and think ... gee whiz the love has gone out of my marriage, maybe it's over, then you've missed the message. Point is some men feel very uncomfortable doing these kinds of things (and I'm sorry blessedmommy, but although praying helps it's not going to fix it on it's own) but it doesn't mean they don't love you. Maybe they're depressed,maybe it something he's embarrased about, who knows. Regardless if he does NONE of these things ever, especially if he used to then something is at least wrong with him and you need to do something, because it will only get worse without intervention. Seek professional advice (don't just talk to your minister and call that good). JMHO.
Again, great list. Thanks so much blessedmommy
davea0511: It is very unlikely that anyone will do all of the things listed here and no one will be able to do all of these things at once. I didn't write this article as a newlywed, but as someone who has had her ups and downs in marriage just like everyone else. As great as my husband is he can't do everyone of these things all of the time...but as you will notice at the top if you can just pick even one a day you will be surprised at how cherished this will make your wife feel. But if your honest you could do more than that.
You said above that you do some of these things occasionally (as much as your wife does for you). We should never love someone based on how they love us. We should love them in spite of how they love us. When you only love to receive you are cheating yourself. True love goes deep.
Don't underestimate the power of prayer. It has made my marriage what it is today and has helped it withstand many storms. It CAN fix a marriage. But you must keep believing and keep loving no matter how long it takes. But it does and it WILL fix it. I know what I'm talking about.
I was reviewing this 101 session..lol..and I found I do several of these already; however, I lack in some areas greatly! Thankyou for bringing these realities to the forefront. I have fiound a cornocopia of ideas to work with now :)
Best Regards
This is a great list! Of course more couples need to think about these things (not just men) so that we can lower divorce rates and improve marriages.
This would be exactly how i would like to be treated and respected in a relationship with my future husband.
Thank you.
Very nice list.
Thanks for sharing.
Wow, what a great hub. You must be very happy, thank you for taking the time on this one, and sharing this! ~ Scott
I feel that alot of men don't really understand the true menaing of I'm sorry? This is helpful now to figure out how to get them to read this?
Family is the most important thing in one's life.
I always say "I love you" to my girl friend and I love her so much.
after this iam happy with my wife so thanks
I actually cried when reading this. Do men really ever treat girls like this? I mean...my husband rarely ever tells me I'm beautiful anymore...I miss it so much...
Catherine: Do you ever tell your husband that he's a handsome hunk anymore? Just wondering...
This is utterly fascinating tips. its pretty perfect too. really you are so intelligent. that is why you have made superb tipd for couples. so that they can make p peacefull life .
I see so many of your tips and conclude I must be a girly man. I have been married a long time and I have never done most of the "typical things" men do. I don't pass gas in her presence and would die if I did! Romance is what all men do when they date. All real men know how to romance when they are single. They are doing it for a different reason then one does when they are married. Then all of a sudden they forget how to woo and give their best effort, how to impress and make them fall for them? I don't buy it. Men get lazy and women allow them to. They all turn into Homer Simpsons and sit and let the woman do all the work while they let themselves go and just know that they are always going to be adorable to their mate. Poopie! Men have no excuse! "Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the Church a gave Himself for it." Men should never stop dating their wives. They need to make her smile everyday. They should do something just for her everyday. They need to remember that they have been given a treasure valued "far above rubies." That being said, there is a great deal that I can improve on and the tips give me so many good ideas that I hadn't thought of. I gotta go and sweep her off her feet right now....oh yeah bye....HONEY! Come here!
That sure is a cool list you have there.
Thank you very much!
This is such a WONDERFUL hub! What a creative a helpful idea!
This is simply wonderful. Thanks a lot to the Author. Though Iam not married, I will keep all these 101 points in mind and practise after Marraige..........
thank you, my wife loves all of them!
Really a great list, though I think some women may or may not appreciate some particular acts on the list. I am back with my exwife after four years of divorce, so I am trying to be as Jack Nicholson put it in the movie "As Good As It Gets," --A better man. Your list is helpful. After 38 years of marriage, a divorce of 4 years, and reconciliation, it does take a little devoted effort.
Wow. You are a great person. God bless you.
I really wish that I wouldve read this list a long time ago.
thart is not cool
MrMarmalade says:
2 years ago
I heard of 101 dalmatians. Now blessedly you have given
me 101 way to love and show my appreciation of 50 years