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6 Signs He's A Pathological Liar

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By Isabella Snow



While women are certainly capable of lying and manipulation, they tend to do it a bit differently than men. For example, your typical run-of-the-mill, no-good female may lie about how much she loves you -- when it's really your money she wants. Yes, the Golddigger may lie about being faithful, and sneak out with a man on the side. These things are wrong, of course, but they're not necessarily pathological, and they are rarely based on insecurity or delusion.

Nope, it's usually men who concoct bizarre stories that are so grandiose one thinks they just have to be real. Sadly, I've met a few of these men, and have heard more than my share of BS. While the men in question are best forgotten, I have, at least, learned the tell-tale signs of this behavior. Here are the 6 you need to be wary of. And before you say they should be obvious -- the truy pathological are usually quite adept at making it seem otherwise.


The Chemistry Is Too Perfect

Does the man know exactly what to say, and when to say it? Is he more charming than George Clooney? Does he make you feel super special from the get-go, as though he's known you forever? Yeah? Guess what. Sign number one. MAYBE it's chemistry -- but it probably ain't. Truth is, he's probably got his routine down pat, and no surprise there, as he's probably doing this to several other women at the same time. Don't panic or tell him to piss off yet; but do be wary.

He's Too Perfect

Did he go to LSE and graduate at the top of his class? Did he go to the finest prep school in the land? Is he the perfect age? Has he never been married, because he's holding out for love? Is he really 40 and childless? Does he really bank loads and loads at his fantabulous job? Does he really want to take you round the world in his private jet? Yeah. Sure he does. It is amazing how many women fall for this kind of thing. Wake up!

He Constantly Breaks Dates Without Giving You Notice

Not just once, but repeatedly. Yes, he has an excuse, and yes, you can buy it if you're of a mind to do so. In reality, the reason is probably simple -- he forgot. And you can't really blame him, can you? It's hard work, keeping track of 5 or 6 women at the same time. (Note: The man who breaks dates all the time, but does give notice, is not a pathological liar. He's an insecure prat who is trying to manipulate you via your emotions. Just so we're clear on that.)

He Sucks At Keeping In Touch

Good at promising to call you later in the evening, but sucky at actually following through on it. Hey, you can't hold it against him. He probably thought he'd be able to get a free minute, but the wife and kids have insisted he take them out to Bob's Big Boy for supper. Eh, what can you do?

His Excuses Are Incredible

Instead of simply forgetting, or working late, or even dropping his mobile phone in the loo, this guy's phone was confiscated by a policeman whilst in pursuit of a highly dangerous criminal. Your man, of course, was glad to be of service to his country. Whadda man, eh?

Something New And Major Happens Every Day

Your first date was cancelled because mummy had a stroke. Second date was cancelled because she had another. 10th date was cancelled because he was dutifully looking after her in the hospital. 40th date was postponed because mummy passed away. Naturally, he will now be unavailable for the next couple of weeks as he plans the funeral and ties up mummy's loose ends. Nevermind the fact that mummy was never ill, and certainly never died -- you'll just have to wait a month or so until you've had time to catch him in that lie. At which time, he will simply say he misspoke!

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guidebaba profile image

guidebaba  says:
16 months ago

How true !

Nicole Winter profile image

Nicole Winter  says:
16 months ago

Gosh, Isabella, I wish I had a printer so I could print out your articles to share with a few well-meaning friends. Excellent advice, again. I'm <so> happy I am not on the market anymore, dating seems like it just gets tougher and weirder as the years go by.

Isabella Snow profile image

Isabella Snow  says:
16 months ago

It certainly does seem to get weirder and weirder.... !

koncling profile image

koncling  says:
16 months ago

well i'm a great liar as well.......:D

Michaela  says:
10 months ago

My gosh, are there really women who believe that type of crap??? A sucker who dared to cancel me twice would be out of my life forever! Life is too short to fall for stupid games! Wake up, girls!!!

cathy  says:
5 months ago

Sometimes, if we fell in love with a guy, sometimes we got blinded by the truth...we often understood and believes his lies...but at the end of the day...the KARMA is for him.,...

Ann  says:
5 months ago

I dated a pathological liar - it took me 4 months to figure it out, tell him he was full of sh!t and get rid of him. Scary all the weird fantabulous stuff he would fill me up with - it took months after I dumped him for my brain to unravel it all and accept that it was all lies... freaky. He lied about his education, his job, his finances, his past, his family you name it... sometimes he would get mixed up in his lies and just said he had misspoken when I confronted him. I'm so glad I didn't get seriously involved with him. Ladies beware!!

Random  says:
4 months ago

There are certain qualities my guy has that keeps me walking on egg shells whenever he's around or even gone. He lies to his convenience to anyone and either stretches the truth or makes a problem to a situation seem smaller than what it really is. A part of me wants to feel that security but my gut feeling tells me different.

Miss Way  says:
3 months ago

it took me awhile to be able to decifer between the truth and his lies because they were soooooooooo believeable and not too farfetched....but in the end my intuition was sooooooooo right he was a liar....and I didn't hesitate to let him know!!!!and come to find out a sneak and a cheat! wow, I really thought I was special,and he was sincere.

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