5 Signs She's a Gold Digger
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There are two basic types of Gold Diggers out there; the women who don’t give a crap about you, and the women who give a teensy little bit about you. The first is only interested in herself and what she can acquire. The latter has more or less resigned herself to dating you because she thinks you’re the best she can do at this moment in time; she probably “likes you ok” but she will never love you.
Ideally, you want to avoid these chicks whenever possible. Unfortunately, these women are usually a peg or two above their respective men in terms of looks, so the guys are usually too busy thanking God for their good fortune to notice how frequently Jane needs a new pair of shoes. These 5 signs will tell whether or not she’s into you, or just your money. While there are certainly exceptions to every rule, and most actions are open to interpretation, they do serve as a general rule of thumb.
1. She only knocks boots after you’ve bought something for her.
This is the Gold Diggers way of repaying you. It’s also her way of classically conditioning you: You have to pay before you can play. Depending on your financial status, this may be something as small as dinner in a moderately priced restaurant, or it may mean jewelry is required before she’ll drop her knickers. Either way, she’s your own personal call-girl, whether you realize it or not.
2. She has a temper tantrum if you refuse to buy something for her.
This sounds obvious, but it’s a very common with gold diggers. The tantrum may be subtle – giving you the silent treatment, for example – but it tends to start at the moment of refusal and lasts until your next purchase.
3. She only suggests expensive restaurants, hotels, etc.
If she’s too good for the occasional burger, this girl is a gold digger. Mind you, that’s metaphorical; there are plenty of vegan gold diggers out there, believe it or not. The point is, she never selects a destination that will be kind to your wallet.
4. She earns a very modest income, yet everything she owns is very expensive.
This is less obvious than it sounds. A good gold digger knows how to network, and she knows she needs some kind of job, lest she look like what she is. She’ll probably work part-time somewhere, and supplement her income with your donations. All those shoes, clothes, etc – you better believe she didn’t pay for them herself.
5. She never offers to pay the bill, not even her share.
Now… I have done articles on dates and who should pay; I fully believe a man should pay for the first date. Period. However, I also believe that a woman should always offer to pay for herself from the second date forward. Regardless of whether or not you agree with me, let me assure you that if she’s never offered to pay in any capacity, she’s a gold digger.
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#'s 1, 4 & 5 sound like Hong Kong women, but can you propose any solutions to the "gold diggging woman" problem?
Bowen
One easy solution, Bowen, is too not date women better looking than you are. It seems to me that if guys are selecting their partners purely on looks, they are far more likely to get ensnared by a gold digger. Personally, I don't feel all that sorry for them. The shallow frequently get what they deserve.
Woody - Thanks! And yes, they do know how to do that, but men need to learn how to ignore it, too!
Bowen (have you considered changing your sign-in name??) - Id say avoid them. You certainly can't change them.
Embitca - Yes, exactly. Men fall for this because they're going on looks. Not that we don't all go on looks to a degree, but, you know. If you're a 60 year old man and a 22 year old wants to be your girlfriend, something is up.
Great hub once again, Isabella. It always amazes me when yet another of my male friends falls into this one. And these are very intelligent guys!! I bite my tongue when it all unravels and I want to say, "I told you so."
Gold-diggers are the bane of every woman's existence, who isn't a gold-digger. Thank you for writing this. I hope more men will learn not to be reeled in by gold-digging women.
It seems that us men pretty much fall into one of three camps. The Fool who can't tell if the woman he is dating is a gold digger or a gold mine (he needs this article), The Ass who thinks women are trinkets or trophies and doesn't care if she is a gold mine. The Lucky who realizes that a great synergistic relationship with a great woman is worth her weight in gold - and that is quite a bit as gold is approaching $1000 an ounce!
Mystic - Thank you! I hope it helps the ones who always fall for this.
Devin - They are, I agree, and thanks for your comment!
Jason - I can think of a few more categories men fall into, but I'll go with your 3 for now, lol. Thanks for your comment!
Men who think women are only skin deep will meet women who think men are only wallet deep.
I have seen very few, lucky me. Or I have been blindly in love, hehe!
Thank you for the inside info, Isabella. :)
Erica - Probably true!
Kenny - Well you're happily married and needn't worry with this kind of thing. ;)
I don't need to, yes, but I like to know what's happening around me, what people's motivations are, etc. This hub is quite useful for that, thanks!
Yep, sounds like a gold digger to me...Nice job.
Woody it;s NOT his ego she's stroking pal..
My wife died 3 years ago and I finally got around to dating last year. I met this very attractive girl who has been divorced for quite a few years. At first, we really hit it off tremendously. She was always very agreeable and it was a big uplift for me after grieving my death of my one and only lifelong wife.
Going to interesting places together, dancing, dining and yes, even having sex. I even fell in love with her and asked her to move in to my condo with me. Even considering marriage sometime down the road. She suggested selling her home and me selling my condo and buying a home together. I said I would think about it, but needed some time. Then she really began to push the issue.
Through conversation with her from time to time, I found out she had no equity in her home, having taken out several loans out on it. So the money I would get out of my condo would be the only money that would go towards buying a new home together.
Now her demands have grown in every other respect. Only the finest restaurants, trips to Vegas and other places of entertainment and her continually asking me to buy clothes and jewelry for her. Even the sex has stopped. She drives a fancy sports car, wears the finest clothes and jewelry and always a fancy high fashion hair do. Her friends and family are always a choice in her seeing and spending time with, which is OK, but I am a distant 3rd behind them.
Although I still love her, I think I am playing to part of a real, used PATSY. My children tell me to unload her and look for someone more compatible and less greedy. WHAT'S YOUR ADVICE?
Based on what you've said, she sounds like she's treating you badly, whether she's a gold digger or not. My advice is to find someone who treats you the way you want to be treated. Best wishes to you.
No gold diggers in the wourld its depending in your partner if he want to do everything.
Just do a simple test.
Mention in first 2-3 dates that you are not having any real money(thats lying even if you have good money) and see what is her reaction.
Now the fun part,if she is a genuine gold digger,she breaks up with you due to this,after a while contact her and mention that she failed your test and that you had money all the time.
Hope this helps.
I live in NYC and the dating pool here is bad. If your not willing to pay these girls bills, and take care of thier kids, or get thier hair, and nails done, they not interested. What's the deal?
I myself am probably consodered a "gold digger" I was fairly poor most of my life, hard working, honest, and kind but felt like i could never catch a break. I am now in a realtionship with a man 21 years older than myself, yes he is very wealthy and he is very good to me and vcery kind to my daughter who is 16. I love him on a differwnt level though. Its more of an appreciation for him for getting me out of the gutter. I have much respect for him and i am also very kind and loving towards him (just not in love)
I dont feel that being a gold is a bad thing a slong as you are good to him and respect him. In exchange i am taken care of and have the best of everything and i have no worries,
You are exactly the problem I am addressing. Why not go to school, get an education, or a job to help you own damn self? Ugh!
Abaldbrotha- Did u see she said she was HARD WORKING MOST HER LIFE. I too went to school, even have my own business. I had a guy who would give me large sums of money! And I would do anything for him! Its more of a appreciation for lifing a burdon. A deeply felt appreciation that you cannot even describe. U mad cause u probably dont have any money. Have u heard the phrase "It aint tricking if u got it." I've spent $ on guys I really like. And if I was rich, they probably would have gotten houses and cars too. Thats what u do if u like someone. get over yourself hater!
To Tekah and Bella. I dont know why goldiggers like you also think other people are just jealous of your money ,that you didnt earn!Believe it or not there are still many people with integrity out there who treat other people the way that they want to be treated. The goldigger hates often just cant stand injustice and greedy,selfish people, it has NOTHING to do with jealousy.
Ask yourself would you still have been with these people if you had to pay half of all the bills that need to be paid? Would you have hooked up with them in the first place if they didnt spoil you rotten. Woman have the same potencial to make money. So get off you lazy bums and make your own money,instead of being so selfish to let other people do all the work for you.If you cant afford to pay half of all bills, which would be fair , I suggest the person with the bigger salary drops their standard of life, so the leeching party can pay half of all the bills. This way there will be fairness and hearache can be prevented.
I FEEL A CERTAIN SADNESS FOR THE YOUNG ONES WHO HAVE LITTLE OPTION BUT USE OLDER MEN FOR THEIR NEEDS AS THEY ARE NOT GETTING THE EXPERIENCE OF BEING IN LOVE WHICH IS INDEED SO EXCITING. i SPKE TO ONE THE OTHER DAY WHO CALLES HER LOVER GRANDA BUT SHE IS UNEMPLOYED AND HAS NO FORM OF INCOME. SHE IS JUST SO BORED BUT CONTENT WITH WHAT SHE HAS AS SHE SAID WITHOUT GRANPA SHE WOULD BE HOMELESS AND HAVE NO FOOD. SHE ADMITS HOW SHE HAS TO BE SO FALSE WHEN THEY FALL OUT SHE HAS TO PHONE HIM AND TELL HIM THAT SHE LOVES HIM SO MUCH THAT SHE CANNOT GO ON LIVING WTHOUT HIM AND HE BELIEVES IT. OR MAYBE HE KNOW THAT HE HAS FUL CONTROL OVER HER AND THAT SHE HAS NO OPTION...MAYBE IT IS BEING ABLE TO FULLY CONTROL THESE GIRLS THAT GIVES THE OLDER MAN A FEELING OF REAL POWER.
WHAT I DO INDEED FIND INTERESTING ABOUT THE OLDER MEN THAT I KNOW WHO PERPETUALLY DATES YOUNGER WOMEN IS THE FACT THAT THEY DO NOT BELIEVE IN GOD. MONEY APPEARS TO BE THEIR GOD BUT UNFORTUNATELY THEY DO NOT UNDERSTAND THAT MONEY CANNOT BUY LOVE
To Dean,
Did you hear that I said I went to school and currently have my own business. And did u hear when i said that If i was rich and really liked someone, I would drop large sums of money on that person too. Stop hating, and listen to what people are writing instead of thinking everyone is just a gold digger
6. Measuring your income
She will always accept invitations to dinner and she will never offer to pay because she wants to check for how long you can afford to pay for her dinners.
The longer this goes on until you ask her to pay her half the bigger the man's income.
If this happens before a certain amount of times she will disappear. Too low income for her target...
I definitely agree with those signs. And another very obvious sign i experienced in the past. Eastern european beautiful girls who asked me "how much you make a month" as their first question. Very interesting article.
Woody Marx says:
2 years ago
I think you hit the nail on the head here. I agree completely with your analysis.
Unfortunately a guy who is enthralled by such a gal will rarely see it until it is too late. She knows how to 'stroke his ego'.