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PREGNANT AT 15 WHOS AT FAULT

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By chicago girl


INFORM OUR TEENS PLEASE

Babies having babies! was the boom of teen mother's in the late 80's early 90's due to poor communication between children and parents? Did patents believe that if they did speak to their children in regard to the whole sex thing that it would just disappear ! NOT!

The fear or extremely uncomfortable feelings , that comes over a mother and father when "THE TALK"Is near.

Why ? We as parents have a responsibility to our children to help them succeed in life. The thought of so many teens being kept ignorant to the possible out come of having sex to soon, unprotected, and most importantly uneducated is horrifying!

Hello!!!! Uncomfortable now or Grandma and Pa in a few short months! The sad part about this type of situation is a parents fear, becomes the child's consequence. Needless to say, the teen will also receive the blame. By no means, could it be the lack of education on the parents end! That would be impossible, these young girls who become mommies out of pure ignorance are now" LABELED THE BAD ONE" of the family!

I know there are many people who believe ,that giving the PILL is giving permission! WRONG it mean giving protection to them on more than one level. You as a parent will recieves more respect from them. Also you will be safe guarding their future!!!!after all we are not with them 24/7 but we can fill their brains will information!

Here is something to pick your brain with! The parent that say" not my daughter" she would never put herself into that situation. SORRY MOMS AND DADS that would be a wrong answer!

My point of view with my girls is, I know sex is human nature and the act will happen sooner or later.

When I sat my daughters down. It kind of went like this, I think we need to take a trip to the doctors!!but mom I am not having sex yet I 'm not ready! I preceded to say, well that a good thing and I am proud of you but, it only takes one time and you never know when one thing can lead to another. Better safe than mommy and a long hard road. Just my opinion, I was a mommy at 15!!!!

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Eldritch Elegy  says:
8 months ago

First of all, very important topic and I'm glad you feel so strongly about educating young people about the consequences of their mistakes. I'm glad your girls have a mom who cares.

However, I'm not so sure it's ignorance causing these problems. I think it's a lack of parenting in other areas. Teens are not brought up with VALUES anymore PERIOD. We don't hold our children up to standards anymore. We're an exhausted, beaten-down society with a "What good will it do" philosophy, and that, among the points you mentioned, is what needs to change.

Boys are not expected to respect women. They are not taught. Girls are not taught to respect themselves.

They really don't realize the seriousness of the situation, and thanks to both parents being so damn busy earning money for basics, they will not understand until something terrible happens that they have to live with.

No offense intended, and I apologize in advance if it's inappropriate to say so, but I think that may be why you're such a good parent when it comes to this area: you lived it. You understand.

We need to get back to teaching our children what is and is not important. What is and is not appropriate. Train up a child in the way he should go, and he will not depart from it.

That's all we can do, and then we have to trust that God will keep them on track.

That's why I'm homeschooling my daughter if at all possible. I will be the one to influence her decisions, not other children.

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chicago girl  says:
8 months ago

a agree that teen are not being raised with good values they are also lacking in the respect area too

I am unsure of the homeschooling part with your daughter just because school also teaches them on a social level and children did that too. I agree that the parent influence is very important in a child's life but how will they learn to value it if that is the only influence they know!!!! I believe the best thing when can do with our children it to teach them to have respect not just for us but to respect themselves. and to always always keep the lines of communication open!!!!

if i offend you anyway i am sorry!!!!! from reanding you comment i think your daughter is very luck to have you as a mother!!!!!

FREEWORKING  says:
7 months ago

good

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