A new Era of Divorce

Many of you out there on the internet will know what I mean when I say that I have become an Internet Widow.

For those that don't, let me explain. My husband and I have been married for 14 years. In the beginning happily. About three years into our marriage something began to change though. We had gotten our first computer shortly after getting married. Mostly we both just played games online on Yahoo. Sometime during our third year of marriage though my husband discovered chatting. In the beginning chatting with those that he played games with. I saw no harm in it. Shortly after the birth of our second child, I started to see what the harm in chatting was.

Our baby was only about three months old when one morning I walked into the familyroom.Only to see my husband chatting away to a woman he had been chatting with for some time. What I saw on the screen upset me beyond belief. Here was my husband of three years and the father of two of my children telling another woman that our marriage was over and that he loved HER.

Of course I asked what the heck that was all about. He gave me a song and a dance about how it was just all make believe. That you could say anything online because it was just "pretend". I told him that I didn't like it and he promised he would not do that anymore.

Time went on and I believed that he had stopped chatting that way. Until our third child was almost a year old. Again, I got up earlier than he expected and walked in on him telling another woman that he and I were divorced. That he was only living around where I did so he could see the kids. Another argument ensued between us over this incident.

It was at that time that I decided I could not continue to take him at his word that it wouldn't happen again. So, I password protected the computer. He no longer had access to the internet unless I was right there and let him online. I know that it seems rather childish to do that. But I felt he left me with no choice.

After about a year I took the password back off. Feeling like I needed to give him the benefit of the doubt. He to my knowledge did very well for quite a while. There were more than a few after that time as well. I finally wised up and installed software to keep track of what he was doing.

The last time that finally made me realize that he would never change came about four years ago. He once again was chatting with a woman online. Telling her all kinds of things about our lives. Of course one of the first things he told her was that we were no longer married. He was also telling her how he was ready to come out and see her. That when he got there he was going to expect a "warm" welcome.

More of the story to come.

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