Men are explorers and scientists as well as women but more of them had the opportunity because of restrictions on women rights, yet in a relationship they are the first to get cold feet. When I say cold feet, I mean that they are the first to want to look elsewhere other than their mate instead of trying to fix the relationship at home.

Women were not considered anything but property in the 1850’s and could not vote until the 1920’s. Yet men are the first ones to get cold feet in a relationship. Instead of trying to fix a relationship, men will most often than not, jump ship and look  for other woman at any age or a younger woman. Many may say, well, that means that men are true to their nature and are out there exploring new territory. That is not the case because a relationship is not something to abandon when the attraction cools a bit of when they get cold feet.

In a relationship, the woman is the first one in the lighthouse to spot that trouble is coming and about to surface in the relationship. She can tell by the way he comes home later for work or is always working all of the time when there is no work to be done. She can tell that her man is getting cold feet when he would rather look at a sports program than her and she considers herself not bad to look at. She can tell that her man got cold feet when the talk is null and void except when totally necessary.

With these signs that her man is getting cold feet, she will ask is there anything wrong and that she would like to talk. Then comes the excuses that he does not want to talk and that everything is fine but she can tell that he still has cold feet in the relationship. The best thing to do is to suggest that the two of you speak to a counselor when you know that he has cold feet to see if you can warm him up a bit to at least talk with you and to spend more time together.

If you man refuses to talk with a counselor or to talk to you at all, do not start trying to read his body language of to start checking his pockets. This is the time for you to seek counseling for yourself and let a professional tell you what to do about your relationship. Do not try to fix anything yourself because you have put a lot in the relationship and more of what you are putting in the relationship to warm your man up will be recanted as more of the same.

Get a fresh approach with a trained professional who may tell you to let things ride as they are for a while until you feel that it is the right time to use some of the strategies learned in the counseling sessions to get your man out of having cold feet. As a relationship matures, sometimes other things get in the way of what is truly important in a relationship. Your counselor may ask you to remind yourself of the things that he showed a genuine interest in when the two of you were your happiest.

In the real world, no one can be happy all of the time, but it is difficult to keep warm in a relationship if your man has cold feet and is not communicating with you. You must take these precautions before you are working alone in the relationship with no hope of warming up the situation because of the getting used to being with someone that you still love who has cold feet.

Once you get in a status quo relationship with a man that has cold feet in the relationship, he may start to look elsewhere to warm himself up because you are there for him but somehow the chill has not left and he may no longer be happy with what you are now bringing to the relationship.

This is the 21st century and women have run for vice president and sits on the high court of the land. Surely getting your man out of his cold feet situation should not be difficult. Your first recourse, however, is to get away from how you are handling warming him up and get help from a professional relationship counselor