This relationship advice is provided for office romances or dating a office co-worker.

The overall relationship advice in a nutshell is a policy not to date male co-workers and that is a good reason to not reopen any office romance that has sizzled and you should be thankful that an office romance has been settled and closed. 

Do not heed liaisons in the office who may seek to "hook you up" with an office work to start an office romance because you should have a policy on not mixing the ink with your paycheck.   Your friend may  say that an office co worker  he is interested in you.  The relationship advice here on dating office workers is to stay with your policy of not having an office romance. There are not exceptions to the policy and you should not change your mind thinking that there are exceptions to the no office romance rule because there are none.


You should not approach either your girlfriend or the male co-worker who is supposedly interested in you. Men are proactive when it comes to getting involved with someone they are interested in. The fact that he has not spoken to you in person means that you can not be sure that he is still interested after maybe a  month of no communication. That is a good sign and is in adherence to the relationship advice of not having an office romance, it is just not good for business and for your state of mind.


Using heresay or depending on another person to connect two people in the office for a romance  is not good. Do not have un-job related   one to one conversation with the male co-worker who supposedly wants to meet you. Not because you may be unattractive to him but because you have never spoken to him in person and need not speak to him about anything that is not job related. There is no proof that he told the girlfriend that he liked you except from information you received from her.  Hearsay office romances are the worse kind because there has been no direct conversation and the distraction is being taken from your work that needs your immediate attention.   I am not saying that your girlfriend may not be telling the truth because her intent is to get an office romance going, but you can never be sure unless the male-coworker approached you in a one on one conversation of interest.  Get to work and keep the hearsay office romance off of the work roles.

You are employed and as an adult you should speak for yourself and not depend on your girlfriend to speak up for you especially if it is going against your policy of no office romances. You are not in high school and the teenage trend of saying that someone likes you should be ignored. Even in high school, young men will come to you if they are interested to fend off someone else of getting your attention. These young men should not be employed at the same company or you will be breaking your rule of no office romance.


The office or workplace is not the appropriate place to meet a lover, to date a male co-worker or to start a relationship. You have to make a living and if something was to happen between the two of you, your job could be at risk. The "no dating co-workers" policy is tried and true not to mix the office ink with a relationship. Sure, you see couples meeting at work and dating on situation television shows but you are dealing with a real life situation. The personal policy of not dating coworkers is a good one and  you should adhere to your way of thinking about office relationships and office romances. 

Conversation about the guy liking you may be  all hearsay from a girlfriend in the office who goal may be to get you off your office project and to get the promotion because of office politics. Your girlfriend may not be true to you when it comes to getting a promotion and keeping you sidetracked and off topic to get the promotion for herself.  That is the main reason to focus on your office and promotion goals instead of male co-workers.  


Cell phone calls, emails, or face to face communication from a male co worker wanting to start an office romance should not be tolerated because of you no dating office worker policy.   If the male  is employed by the same company then he should stay out of reach because an office relationship goes against your personal policy of dating coworkers. 


You make the right decision when you say no to office romance. Do not date your coworker. Friendship is fine but a romantic office relationship can be dangerous to your working conditions and staying employed. If the two of you were to meet, form a relationship and then have a disagreement, you could very well lose your job.

 Your love and emotions would all be entangled in that one man who works in the same place as you do. An argument could very well cause a negative change in your job performance because of lack of motivation especially if you have to actually see the male co worker everyday. You can not turn love off once you get to work and have to work with a co-worker who you may have had a disagreement. With the status of the economy, you do not want to lose your job.


Let the resurgent thoughts of having a romantic office relationship with the male co-worker go and move on to meet someone outside of your workplace. You are only looking back on what could have been. Forget the past, choose to stay with your personal policy of not dating co-workers and move on.


The entire fiasco of the male co-worker liking you may have been  through conversation with your friend and not face to face with him. Let the make believe go and get on with your work and your life. There are plenty of available men offline and online away from your work place. Do the right thing and do not send a responsive message back to an interested male co worker through a  friend. .Your first move is always the best move and you did the right thing to not begin an office relationship with someone who did not speak with you out of interest and who worked for the same company. Do not rethink yourself. Remain friends with your girlfriend who may have told you that a male coworker liked you and do not bring up conversation about him or your will be going against your policy of no office romance.