Everyone is entitled to their opinion, their perspective, and their point of view, but some women seem to take their position too far. Think about all the different types of women you have dealt with in your life, mothers, sisters, in-laws, co-workers, bosses, friends, acquaintances, you name it. Anyone can tell who is nice and easy to get along with and who is difficult to share mutual space with. Here are some tips to help you realize that maybe it's you, maybe you're the one that is a bitch, could it be that the world isn't out to get you, perhaps your friends and family do love you but they don't like you sometimes. If it isn't you, then here are ways to identify and work with the bitches in your life.

The Queen B!TCH: Sometimes it's your Mom and sometimes it's your significant other's mother, either way, it is important to understand that the Queen in a family's matriarchy can, in fact, be a b!tch. If your mother is always criticizing your life or the choices you've made, or perhaps she always has something negative to say about you and your bf/gf/husband/wife, or anyone you are close to outside of the family circle, she needs to mind her own business and be there for you without saying "I told you so." If she feels like she needs to be involved in your relationships or the decisions you make then she isn't being a supportive parent, she's being a b!tch. Do not allow your mother (or mother-in-law) get too involved in your relationship even if it isn't the best functioning one in the world, it's your life, you're the one that's living it and you (or your partner) may have to tell Momma to butt-out! Don't allow your mother to control, guilt, manipulate you or disrespect the person you choose to live your life with. In addition, don't be naive about it, you know when your parents are out of line so don't make excuses for them to justify their inappropriate behavior at the expense of your own feelings or the person you love. If you're a mother that might be guilty of this kind of behavior, you have two choices, you can tone it down for the sake of harmony in the family or be exiled and avoided. If you're constantly meddling, trying to control your adult child's life choices with guilt and other control tactics, or you treat your son/daughter in law without any respect then you are really gambling with some pretty high stakes because it will get old and eventually, you will too. If the time comes and you need to be taken care of, you may not be welcome in their home and be placed in a retirement home and left all alone. Queen B!tches are probably the worst type of b!tch in your life, she crosses the boundaries in your relationships or other aspects of your personal life that do not require her involvement. If you can't have an adult conversation about her behavior, whether its your mother or his, it may be best to avoid her to keep your sanity and the peace in your relationship. At this point, it might be necessary to cut her off for a period of time to let her know that if she is going to cause problems for you then she doesn't need to be around and your interaction with her won't be completely cut-off, but it will be limited. For all of you who hate your mother-in-law, and if your husband is a mama's boy and refuses to see things for himself, you may have to use sex as a weapon! You know your mom as well as he knows his and if he cannot acknowledge the inappropriate behavior and address it and if he refuses to make a simple effort to relieve a reoccurring argument about his mother's behavior then he may not be worth fighting for no matter what you have together. A man's obligations to his mother end when he is married with children, his new obligations are to provide for the family he has created, therefore, his wife isn't there to replace his mother, even though it seems like it, but she is there to serve as his partner in life. Your mother is not your partner, she raised you to be a good person, but your wife is your partner to help you raise your children to be happy, productive individuals and your husband should not allow anyone to disrespect you or come before you.

Sibling Rival B!TCH: Does your sister or sister-in-law always make a rude or degrading comment about your life or the people you share it with? Maybe they gossip about you and your partner to anyone who will listen? The truth of the matter is, they're jealous of you, they envy your life and wish they could have what you have and mask it behind degrading comments to put you down and doubt yourself. Mother and Sister-in-laws are the worst and most judgemental of all because they think one of two things: 1. You can do better, because no one is good enough for you OR 2. Your significant other thinks they're better then everyone else in the family. There is always some kind of rivalry between siblings and they tend to compete more with one another then the world at large. It is sad to see families torn about by such pettiness, but it is a reality in families no matter what ethnic background you come from. A lot of it has to do with the way your parents treated you while growing up, more specifically, the difference, due to age, gender, intelligence, etc. "Why can't you be more like...." is the worst thing you can do to hinder the development of unity among your children. Sibling rivalry b!tches can pretend to be trying to help you while secretly envying you and trying to sway you in the wrong direction. They are manipulative, but it may be hard to see because you naively think that someone you love would do that to you, because sisters are probably the most competitive of all b!tches.Sister-in-laws are competitive in a different way. It may be that they feel you are not the right one for their brother, or maybe your brother's wife is jealous of how much he loves and respects you, both your sister and sister in law are competitive with you for different reasons, but if your brother or spouse refuses to acknowledge that boundaries are being crossed then you may need re-evaluate the relationship you have with the men in your life and step back for awhile until he realizes it for himself. When he doesn't, then cutting communication off or limiting interaction with these women may be necessary.

The Wicked Witch B!tch: We have all met and dealt with the woman/women at work that get on your nerves! You have either quit because of her/them, they are usually not invited to lunch with you and other co-workers, and their invitations ALWAYS seem to get lost for parties or gatherings out side of work. If you're the one hearing about the cool party over the weekend or catch wind about a happy hour rendezvous or small lunch dates with other girls in the office but never get invited, then you've guessed it... you're the b!tch. If you are micro-managing, nit-picking on what your co-workers are doing, or if you are the office snitch, then you might as well commit social suicide because no one likes you, wants to be around you and can hardly stand the mere thought or sight of you. If you have a problem with more then one person at work then the problem just might be YOU. The only way to change your situation around is if you change your attitude and behavior... or you can start looking for a new job and start all over again. Sometimes you make friends with a co-worker, a great rule of thumb is to proceed with caution. Often times the wicked witch b!tch at work is a co-worker that befriends you quickly, perhaps she really is nice, but she may want to keep you close for ulterior motives. If you get too personal with her then she may be able to blackmail you or cost you your job when the honeymoon is over and she thinks you may be invading her territory or when hanging outside of the office, there could be an incident that may tear your "friendship" apart and your personal life engulfs your professional life and tragedy can happen. The wicked witch bitch could be your evil boss or your friend at work that seems cool until something happens, perhaps her competitive nature is unleashed and you are the prey.

The Fri-enemies B!TCH: No matter who you are, how nice you are, or if you have a ton a friends, some of them are jealous of you... or you're jealous of them. Regardless of who is jealous of whom, it is bound to happen because of how competitive women are with each other. Deny it all you want, but let's be honest and realistic... it is a woman's nature to be competitive with other women and sometimes, men. Who do you think came up with the old saying of "keeping up with the Jones'?" More then likely, it was another woman keeping with her friends, family, and the rest of the human population. There would not be a market for Coach, Louis Vuitton, and Chanel purses if women weren't so damn competitive. Don't get me started on clothes, shoes and cars either! Everyone has a friend that raises the status bar while the rest of the group hides their jealousy, conjures up a strategy to meet or beat the higher standards or simply struggles to either keep up or get shut out. All the while, the low women on the totem pole frown at the materialisticness and wage a popularity war, the ones who can keep up look down at those that can't and the ones who can't keep up look down at those who can and quickly label them as snobs, label whores, and all of sudden see their shallow and stuck up nature which now divides the group of friends into enemies, pretending to still be friends. They will attach with passive aggressive tactics, a comment here, and low blow there, well maybe she didn't mean to do that, but she really did, and then retaliation takes place. Retaliation consists of different things depending on the situation. Perhaps a little flirting with your man, a comment about your outfit, house, children, husband or whatever, and the worst retaliation is making it personal. Forming an alliance to exclude you from group activities, happens when the real bitch makes you out to be the bad guy, and engages in other manipulative behavior that sometimes includes stealing your man because she is competing with you and she thinks she is better then you. The fri-enemy is a manipulative, persuasive, selfish, insensitive and the most cut-throat of all B!tches, and she may be your closest, nicest friend that you have either known for years, or someone you thought was cool and became close friends while not really knowing her, so beware!

If you're the victim or the real b!tch, you need to know how to acknowledge the error of your ways and make the appropriate changes in your life to create a balance of harmony in your environment. If you're dealing with different types of b!tches, I hope this hub will help you identify the culprits so that you can carry on with your life with limited DRAMA. Good luck ladies!