I am writing this article to square up some issues which have been coming to the front, mostly precipitated by other articles I have written on the subject of men who want to wear women's clothing and why women don't like it or leave them over it.

First of all, it is always a matter of scale. A guy who wears panties is an entirely different proposition to a man who wears dresses, make up and wigs. Neither one is 'better' or 'worse' than the other, it's simply a matter of more or less.

As a female reader commented, attraction to men who appear to be more masculine is simply natural for many women. I concur with this assessment. Everyone is attracted to different types of masculinity, and whilst there are some women who find only 'macho manly men' attractive, there are plenty who can appreciate a touch of the feminine in their man. The degree to which they can appreciate masculine femininity will vary case by case and just as it is the responsibility of any person seeking a suitable mate or life partner to find one who compliments them well in other areas of life (desired life style, desired number of kids, similar outlook on life to the point where you won't kill each other over breakfast each morning, etc,) it is a man who wears women's clothing's responsibility to find a woman who can met him half way on that score.

I believe that it is also always the responsibility of the male to communicate his desires and indeed, the reality of who he is to the woman before serious commitments are made. It is entirely unacceptable and dishonest to conduct a long term love affair with a woman, or worse still, marry her and keep the fact that he wears women's clothing of any kind a secret.

If he is afraid that the woman will leave him, then he needs to simply take that chance, because as much as men have a right to find happiness wearing panties or skirts or dresses or whatever takes their fancy, women have the right to know what they are getting into. It is not fair or right to have your girlfriend of a year stumble over your panty collection.

Now, as I mentioned before, some women do find exclusively macho men attractive. However, in my experience, a woman who loves a man is unlikely to reject him because he likes to spice it up with lingerie sometimes. (If he is a full blown cross dresser however, it is perhaps a possibility.)

(Here the article shifts gears a bit and addresses men who wear women's clothing more directly. Terribly bad writing practice, but what can you do?)

Are women bad for being this way? No. I don't think you can call a woman's preference bad. I think you can call cruelty or being unfairly judgmental bad, but a simple, 'No thank you, that kills my attraction to you entirely,' is unfortunate though well within her rights.

Once again, having said that, if you do get that response, there really are plenty of fish in the sea who find the idea of men dressing as women kind of hot. There are also plenty more fish in the sea who will happily indulge your quirks in return for the indulging of theirs, whatever they may be.

At the end of the day, this issue is not a matter of right or wrong, bad or good, it is a matter of matching tastes. Some women are more flexible on this issue than others and if you need to find a woman with this kind of flexibility, then find her, don't waste your time on women who have very clear ideas in their minds on this issue already, and don't waste their time and break their hearts by entrapping them into an arrangement they will never be happy in by simply not telling them about it and thinking you can get away with it secretly. That way madness, heartbreak and divorce lies.