If you think that you are in love with someone and the feeling is not reciprocated, then you are infatuated or in love with the idea of being in love. Being in love is a good state of being and everyone is looking for that special someone that they can love forever. Forever is a word that most men cringe at, but that is basically what love is all about.

If you are in love with another person and the love is not returned then you are basically in love alone and need to make a reality check. You need to write down what has he done to show that he is in love with you. If you are doing all of the loving, then more likely, he is not in love with you. Most of the time if you are not interested in a guy, then he is the one who is on  the pursuit and is constantly trying to win your love. When you are in love with someone most of the time the guy does not have a clue. Go figure, that's just the way it is.

You may be planning all kinds of social events and imagining that he is by your side without even or ever asking him out. The subliminal thoughts of love can occupy a lot of your time and you can go for days thinking and imagining that the guy is ln love with you.  But for all you know, the guy  may have his love set on another person.

You must communicate your feelings to this guy who you are in love with to give the relationship substance. The relationship is not a relationship if you have not talked with him about how you feel. It is a good idea to not  blurt out that you love the guy, get to know him as a real person. If you have been communicating online then it is best to get together face to face and that way you can sense all that he is about. Take the relationship slowly and do not be anxious to let him know how you feel even though you may think that he is the one for you. You need to be sure that he is going to reciprocate the feelings so that your feelings are not hurt or wasted.

Once you get to know the guy, do not try to mold him into who you have been imagining him to be. You must accept him as  he truly is and he must accept you as you truly are. If the two of you are playing love games then the relationship will not last. It will  last until the superficiality of the relationship wears off. If the two of you have met,  convince yourself that you are going to have fun and just relax and curb your enthusiasm. Curbing yoiur enthusiasm should be an easy thing to do if he is not showing that he is head over heels in love with you.

Infatuation is not a bad thing as long as you keep your feelings about the other person to yourself. Infatuation means that you like what you see from a distance without having discussed your feelings. Enjoy the feeling of infatuation as the pleasantry can be conducive to productivity and relating to others in a positive manner. The guy who you are infatuated with does not have to know that you have these special feelings for him. The relationship will be somewhat empty without reciprocation but liking another person does not necessarily need a response. Be happy that you have the ability and the propensity to love and if you are serious about the person, then make it known in a subtle way that you would like to get to know him better.

Do not go over the top and spill out all of your infatuations and your dreams to him because he is going to think that you have been living in a fantasy world. Guys are realist and they are very practical. Most guys do not find themselves attractive and your outburst may be a bit much to them. So if you approach the guy, do not talk like you have been dating him and expecting for him to instantly fall in love with you. Just because you like someone does not mean that they have to declare love to you. Love does not have to be reciprocated. Love have to be reciprocated,however, if there is going to be any sort of  a relationship.

You should play down your love or infatuation for the guy until you get to know him. Once you meet him and have a cell phone or email conversation with him, yoiu may discover that you were just in love with love itself. Get to know the guy graduallly and if things does not work out, be thankful that you had the courage to introduce yourself to him and had the opportunity to get to know him better. If you see that your infatuation with the guy was that of a school girl, then face the fact that the attraction was merely infatuation. However, if the love is reciprocated, be grateful and then work on keeping the relationship strong and lasting. You would have secured a true love relationship if the guy reciprocates your love. Without the reciprocation of love from the guy, then your feelings are purely infatuation and that is alright too.