If you've just been through the heartache of the breakup, you're probably wondering if you can get your ex back at least several times a day, it may very well be preoccupying your mind most of the time. Mostly, each relationship is different and this is also true of each breakup, the thing that is common is usually the confusion and hurt that you feel. It's not easy when you are heartbroken.

First, though, have you considered, "does my ex want me back?" It is quite possible that your ex is feeling the same way you are. However, if that is not the case then here are some things you can do to help get them back.

Be nice. Strangely, being nice is one of the best things you can do following a breakup that you did not want. It seems that the natural things that most people do are the exact opposite of what they should do if they want to get back together again. That might not sit well with you right now, but some people think begging to get back together, pleading forgiveness, demanding answers and trying to 'accidentally' bump into their ex is the best way to get them back. It's not. You have to avoid doing any of these things or you run the danger of chasing them away for good. Would you want to be around someone that is being unpleasant? No, and neither would your ex, all you will achieve is to close all communication with your ex for good. Never make them feel uncomfortable in your company, you may be heartbroken, but you must not let your ex see that.

The last thing you want to do is drive your ex further away. Be an easy companion to be with whenever your ex is around, remember that there was a time your ex wanted to be with you, so be that person again, and don't fall into the negative ways that your intuition is telling you to do.

If you can stay pleasant and in a good frame of mind, then you have a real chance of opening up communication with your ex, and if you can stay pleasant and non-judgemental then you have just as good a chance of getting back together again. You can't change the past, but you must remember that later when you're back together. The past should remain in the past.

What if they have taken up with someone else? This is probably the hardest situation to overcome. Not only is it difficult to be alone with them if they have someone else, but they are likely to be focused on the new relationship. You are now part of the past, and are no longer a priority. Being nice right now is even more critical. You have to make your ex see how wonderful you are and how much they actually miss you.

What about using some form of trickery? No matter what kind of deception you're thinking of, even if it doesn't seem harmful, just forget it. Even the most innocent lie or exaggeration could backfire later. What's the point of figuring out how to get your ex back only to lose them again a while later because they find out about your dishonesty?

What about making them jealous? It's just possible, but it could also backfire and make them think you've really moved on. If you feel the need to date, then do so if you need that to be happy, you are most likely over the breakup if you feel this way, and no longer want to get back with your ex. But if you're considering going out with someone just to make your ex jealous, that's not really fair to your date, or you. Games like this usually don't work. Be honest with yourself and others, and you stand a better chance of getting back together with your ex.