Baby's Mama's Boyfriend Does not Love the Mama is written in response to a woman whose boyfriend broke up with an older  divorced woman and told her that he still loved the divorced woman. The boyfriend told the young woman  that he was unsure of his feelings for her. The young woman is carrying his baby while he confesses that he does not love her but loves the older divorced woman.

Sounds like a Jerry Springer show with the two women involved and one man except for the lack of confrontation of the older divorced woman and the younger pregnant woman.

Here is advice to the younger woman who is pregnant and have just been told by the baby's father that he is in love with the older divorced woman.

If you are expecting a child from this man who told you in no uncertain terms that he does not love you but love someone else then you need to get proactive and get child support for the baby that is soon to be born. If a man tells you that he does not love you, there is not too much you can do to change the choice he made even if you are carrying his child. You admitted that he told you that he was not sure of his love for you which means that he does not love you.Men are rarely unsure on an issue concerning a relationship.You do not question love, you either love a person or you do not love a person. The baby's mama boyfriend did not say that he loved you so he does not. He is most likely still in love with the older divorced woman.. You are now about to have  his baby but being a mother to his child will not make him love you.

You need to start a new life and make sure that the father of the child is made the responsible party to help support the child to adulthood. It was the least to say irresponsible of you for having a baby when there was a question about his love for you with all of the preventative measures available. You need to stop talking about the feelings for your baby's daddy and need to have a talk with him and get the court proceedings started so the baby can have what is needed to sustain a viable life.

if you have feelings for the baby's daddy you need to let him know right away of your condition and intentions. He has told you that he is in love with someone else so you should not marry someone who obviously does not love you. Let him know of your plans to start a new life and that you expect him to be a part of the child's life not only with support but with a presence as a father.

Let go of someone who does not have feelings for you and who was bold enough to let you know so that you will not be expecting anything from him in return for your love. Most likely, he will return to the older divorced woman and try to start up a relationship, leaving the product of his seed with you to take care of. Let it be known publicly through the courts that you are not planning on going it alone when it took two to tango.

Do not get emotional because that will ruin your whole rational approach of letting him know of the pregnacy. You both need to be in a mindset of moving on with caring for the child properly. Hard as it may be to do, accept the fact that he does not love you and told you so that he could be with the older divorced woman again. Do not continue to see your baby's daddy until after the courts rule on the child support obligations . Any additional meeting will result in your being susceptible to get into another predicament and the relationship needs to be ended right away. Love has a way of making you feel like you are the one and only when you are alone with the one you love. You must constantly remember that he said that he does not love you and that it is time to move on.  Your love will fade for him when you accept the fact that did not choose you to love always.

Do not hope that he will change his mind about the older divorced woman. He will not change his mind or he would not have spoken words to you revealing his love for the older divorced woman. Your main goal is to get child support for the baby and to start a new life for yourself without the baby's daddy except for child's support.. Get the help of friends and family in this endeavor and do not feel sorry for yourself as you have to remain strong for yourself and for your soon to be born son or daughter. Sum the experience up to going to bed without protection and getting pregnant by someone who does not love you as a lesson learned. Love yourself and be strong enough to do the right thing legally for your child as now sentiments are not as important as getting monthly support until your child reaches legal age.

Request help from your clergy for emotional support and seek community services to help care for the child in addition to the court ordered child support. You made a mistake and you have learned from it, now you must move on in a positive way for the sake of yourself and your unborn child. Be true to yourself and do not try to cling to something that is nonexistent as the loss has been spoken to you and surely the baby's daddy would have moved on. Do not go it alone. Women in pregnancy are vulnerable and need to follow the advice in this article as well as friends and family to take care of themselves and the new baby. Forget about the baby's mama's drama and move on to show your child that though you were left for another, you remained strong and was able to sustain your new family with spiritual, family, legal and socialguidance and support.