Are you in a Bad relationship? to quit is an option
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Just how do you know when its over? No one enters a romantic relationship anticipating a break up, but it can happen. Breaking someone you deeply care can mean a bitter fall from the heights of joy to the depths of rejection. Dreams can turn into nightmares and desires down into depression. Well if the partnership sees you reaching more often to tissue box than to each other, then you know its high time to cut your
way or in not so drastic manner. The following steps will help you assess the status of your relationship.
- Be realistic. If your being used, abused, cheated or lied to, its time to get out.
- Think about the future. If your partner is possessive, jealous, emotionally disturb,consider relations ahead.
- Are you enjoying each others company? whenever you part company. If its the latter you better think its you talk or walk.
- Does he promised to call and then forget? does he forget your dates or anniversary? Is he terminally late? Be all the sort of alibis and explaination?
- Do you feel accepted and appreciated? if not then its time to move out.
- No more romantic feeling. him anymore. When you feel stress out and drained after being with him, when you try to avoid him. And are tempted to seek out dating other man.
- Are you constantly tormented? Its over when you can't remember when was the last time you spent 24 hours without having a fight, and when he keeps telling you that you are you're a bad girlfriend or wife.
Ask yourself why you still in that relationship. Are you staying with him because you love him and don't want to loss him? or because you want to be with him no matter what the situation maybe. You gotta' do what's right for you, even if that means hurting and losing him. It will be good for both of you in the long run.
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We broke up, still hurts !
When was that? it really hurts specially when you the love the person. Is there still a chance of reconciliation? hoping
Good advice. Its important to know when your in an abusive relationship, and to know its not your fault.You dont have to be hurt all the time!!
The first time I married I was young. (you know where this is going) Problem is - I was married. I had made a commitment for life, for better or worse... I experienced every one of the things above and more, much, much, more. I got no peace inside to divorce her for twenty years. I prayed often and God let me find a way through the mental illness, through the cruelty, through the psychotic breaks, through the pregnancy by someone else, through watching her abort the baby as I screamed I would take care of it as my own (Just don't murder it!) I prayed all the time. Then I knew in my heart God said, "Now's the time. You've done all you could. Your children will know that you've done all you could. They will know when they grow up." Then I got a peace about it and I divorced her. You may think that I stayed with her on account of the children. no. The kids were still young when I left, thinking that we could work on it easier apart (I told you I was young) Any feelings of normal relationship were gone after only a month or two. But the decision to commit and to love despite another person's sin remained. You all may have just lost all respect for me but everything that God put me through was done for a reason. There is still lots of hurt but I have forgiven her. The pain comes from years of time lost that love could have been shared and time lost with my kids. But then God let me realize that my the trials of love made my ability to love even stronger. He let me see that all those years of celebacy, lonliness, and stuff that nightmares are made of, will stand for a model to my kids once they could be mature enough to think in terms of the bigger picture. On an even brighter note,(hahaha) my remarriage in '98 reversed every one of the things I had experienced the first time around. It was so different that it felt like I had never really been married the first time. You might be thinking, what would happen if the same thing happens again? What would I do? Well you see the problem would be - I'm married. For better or worse...
Starting over hurts, no matter how the relationship ended. The hurt heals in time. You def. can give a person something to think about.
dori
Thank you nobody for sharing about your life. I wish you all the best in your family.
Good article.. a lot of people are contemplating on when to quit and the main problem is how to go about telling that they want out..
advisor4qb says:
6 months ago
Great hub!