I am not basing my writing solely on opinion, rather I am merely sharing with you all, some of the things I have witnessed, and stories I have heard from friends and acquaintances. I recently mentioned in one of my hubs, that relationships can be very stressful. However, most of the times, the people involved in these stressful relationships are unconsciously competing in a tug-a-war game. As a result, Instead of pulling together in one direction, the parties involved winded up pulling against each other.

Whether a common law relationship, or a marriage relationship, it always takes two persons to start an argument. Likewise, it only takes those same two people to end it. Today, I am particularly interested in providing the ladies with a few words of caution! Gentlemen, I will address you some other time.

One of the common mistakes a woman could make is to constantly allow friends to dictate to her as to how she should go about solving problems she might he having in her relationship.Too often female friends who might had bad experiences in their relationships, fail to give other girlfriends advices based on logical thinking, but rather on strong emotions. There are others who are just jealous of their girlfriends, and would do anything to have them joining their lonely and miserable world, or it could be that they would like these men for themselves. Instead of offering rational advices, the first thing these friends are telling their lady friends who come crying to them, "leave this man, he is no good".You see, they are not interested in listening to both sides of the story! Whether their girlfriends are wrong or right, that's not important. The mission is to destroy those girlfriends' relationships! A lot of these girls winded up taking these selfish and cunning advices and the next thing you know, a few months later these same advisors are seen with some of these ex-husbands or ex-boyfriends strolling happily together, hand in hand at the shopping mall or in the movie theater. The other sad side to this is that, when these poor ladies sometimes find out that they were deceived by these so-called friends, it might be too late to repair the damage!

Ladies, you and your partners should go and talk to someone neutral, not a friend. Talk to a professional councillor, a pastor, or someone reputable who is not related to you or your significant others in any way.