Growing up in care is a win or lose situation you can either make the most of it and use it to your best advantage OR not get on with your life and grow to not listen to the advice your given by the authorities around you, because once your in the care system the authorities become your guardians. They are there to help you get on with life without your parents. I learnt the hard way and rebelled against everyone that offered help and I lost out on the help I needed and because of that I didn't get the best out of life I took the long dark tunnel when it was there lit up in lights for me. If i could go back in time i would of walked straight towards the lights with no hesitation.

When you grow up in care the one thing I would say is DON'T dwell on the past and just try and stay positive because most of the time its not your fault your in care, everyone has a different back ground and have experienced different things, so don't ever feel alone because your not, there are people all over going through the same sort of thing. When your in care you get moved around a lot and it makes you feel very unsettled just keep your head up high and you will eventually adapt to change and wont find it so daunting. I was living with a number of foster parents and than eventually ended up in a children's home and believe it or not that was where i felt the most comfortable and it because I was with other kids in the same sort of boat as me. When i was living with foster parents I never felt like I never fitted in and felt like I was in the way or they were only doing it for the money and that they didn't really care. But these are the sort of things you start thinking and you cant let these thoughts cloud your judgement being positive may be your life line and you need to think about where you are going to get in life thinking the whole worlds against you this will do you no good believe me I know, just because your in care it dosnt mean you should feel different to anyone else you deserve to feel happy and settled and this is a really nice feeling and will help you through what ever life throws at you.

Life is only what you make it and no one is in control of your life, just you! so only you can build your future, But Social Services can help you achieve that and only if you let them, they have the resources to get you doing the career you want and live your dreams. just don't feel sorry that you ended up in care because you will end up being angry with others around you and most of all yourself, I ended up hating people around me and it was because I had no love for myself, so learn to love yourself, no one can look out for you unless your ready to let people in and that will not happen if you don't love and respect yourself, everyone is eccentric and beautiful in their own way and we all serve a purpose in life.

I am out of the care system now and I have a beautiful 3 year old son and live in a really nice area, its been hard but I have learnt so much, I should become a social worker myself the amount i have taken in over the years, Who knows maybe I will!!!!!!!! No i am happy being a good mother to my son, and I will treasure him because your children are so precious, so if you have read this and you are in care, have kids in care or no someone in care then I hope this has given you a better understanding of what it actually like for the kids that go through the care system. Thanks for taking your time to read this, It means a lot XX