So this is the first of several hubs I will write to those who are romanitcally challenged. My first focus will be on birthday planning for the romantically challenged.  Just some helpful little hints to make the special day even better. . Yes this hub will center around the males of the relationship. Sorry Guys. Not that all of you are bad.. just need a little help in the romanitc department. This Hub will center around things you need to be concerned about on your sweetie's birthday

Ok A woman's view of her birthday is quite simple.. It's her day. There should be some sort of gesture in the day to recognize her as the most unique and special person that she is. It is a time to let her know how importatnt she is in your life.. Big expectations eh? But they can be resolved with the simplest of gestures.

 The birthday cake I have found in my older years is not necessarily a necessity (with one exception)  As I grow older I find a cake with all of those candles is a little daunting.  Plus what woman over 30 isn't worried about thier weight in some respect?  A cake when you have a gathering for your birthday is expected.  You can add variety by getting cupcakes or ordering a cheesecake.  ( you skip the candles :) )

Now for the exception to the cake rule.. if your significant other has very young children it is always a good idea to get a cake.  Little ones love a birthday party more than we can imagine.  What better gift to your partner than to see her little one get excited about her birthday..

The gift does not have to many but at least one thoughtful gift.. and yes guys please giftwrap. That shows you took the time to pay or cohearse someone to make the gift look pretty. The gift looses a little meaning coming to you right out of the Wal-mart bag. And once again if there is a little one involved please get a gift from the little one to their mom...It is all about the effort!

Flowers are an ok gift.. try to get something that is in a planter that could last longer. Chocolates...eh.. love chocolate but not as a gift.

Jewelry is always nice and permanent.   A note about Jewelry.. if you find a good deal don't brag to your friends and family how cheaply you bought it a K-Mart... it only takes away from the thought.

Unless you really know your gals' size stay away from the clothing dept. Nothing more depressing for a gal then to get a really sweet sweater that is too small!  If she wants clothes take her to the store yourself or get her  a gift card!

Electronics can be a great gift but very pricey.

Massages or a certificate for manicures pedicares or facials are very nice!

Cheap but practical gifts..depending on your lady's preference there are plenty of thoughtful and thriftygifts to please her.   Perhaps a journal or a favorite book. or DVD.  E-books are an easy thing to download on her labtop.  You can download her favorite song to her MP3 player. ( Finally! a use  for all those pepsi points!)

There are a zillion websites out there you can buy her a gift and have it wrapped!

Do her household chores for her.  You could do the laundry fold it AND put it away!

Last but not the least tell her how YOU feel about her

 So you are not just going to give her a gift but you are also going to take her out to show her just how special she is to you. 

Dinner. You can take out for romantic dinner, or a picnic or make her dinner if you are so inclined.  Try to include something she likes in your date not just dinner... Try to make it an activity that involves interaction.. a movie is an easy time filler but not necessarily meaningful.  It is a an OK thing to do if there is a movie you both are really wanting to see.  Maybe take her on a picnic and an hike.  Go on a day trip to see waterfalls or take her skiing.  If she like photography do a photo shoot with her in the park.. go to the zoo. ect ect ect..