Hi, there it's me again talking about us black lesbian dating online. But this time I want to talk about something that is very dear to me.. And that is being a lesbian who just happened to be a black woman who is out with it out. I know your thinking to yourself here we go with the black thing!!! Now one must understand about us black lesbian it's not good being green. As the frog would say,and that is, how it is being a black lesbian sometime, I think if your a lesbian and your black you will have a long road..For in the black community, that is just one something you do not talk about or think about when it comes to loving the same sex.

Coming Out

You want the world to know ...That is what Diana Ross told the world that she was coming out..Well I wish my coming out was like that,, were I could just sing my way out of the closet... This how I remember my coming out. I was in middle school it was a nice day and I had gym class, this class was something that I didn't want to do. who want be in gym on a nice day like it was,not me for sure .... My gym teacher had showed me something that had to do with the 100 yard dash....Then I was told to go and work on it. As I was getting ready to do this, I saw this dust come by me.... what in the world was that?? That was a girl... Who had went so fast ,that dust follower her .....That was my first coming out and that set the stage for me. ...The girl and the dust and the face whom I didn't see.......Coming out can be comfortable for some of us and not so for other ..... Let me tell you there are lots of stage in coming out that one go through... I did not come out to my friends and family , not that I had a lot of friends of at the time. My middle school and high school I was in the closet... I didn't come out until I was an adult.

COMING OUT OF THE CLOSET

I was in the closet for a very long time .Shut in with my feeling... This isn't a good place to be in ...Did you know that a lot of women and men kill themself because of fact that they are gay...Some of the African American community is not so nice when it comes to us lesbian or gays loving the same sex. Being gay and lesbian in my community is not a walk in the park,...you might as well have a membership to "Hell "that is the way they see it..

COMING OUT WITH HELP

Thank God! that right I said" God "that there is so much out today.

The gay or lesbian who is seeking help to understand there feeling is here,I am gland that there is so much information out. that one do not have to be the closet..with this... Now one can go to groups,you can go online, go to the bookstore and pick books that talk about us! I could remember when I came out, it was not a lot on us! Black lesbian or black gay ..Now look around here it is so much! I read so much when I came out... I did go the club to get my lesson on coming out . I went to groups and I lived in the bookstores... Here are just some of the books that I read when I was coming out for the first time.. Bell Hook is a must read when it comes to understanding feminism in the black woman. the book is called AIN'T I A WOMAN:BLCK WOMEN AND FEMINISM. I will give you three more , you see I read so much when i was coming out because i wanted to understand the feeling i was having us a woman and a black one at that.... i find that books help me out .The other are,Double stitch: BLACK WOMEN WRITE ABOUT MOTHER AND DAUGHTER now this one very good it talks about the relalaship between mothers and daughters lets do one more I could go on..SISTER OF THE YAM; BLACK WOMEN SELF-RECOVERY. One more I need to give you this one... this book had me up all night and I read it in one day. This called SAY JESUS AND COME TO ME! Why am I talking about the coming out for us black lesbian and yes black gays . Because I see so more and more youth coming out and some of,

they think that coming out is about sex and what is the hottest shoes etc.....To me that is not what being a black lesbian or black gay persons is all about..! that just how i see it.....

I think we more of us black lesbian and black gay adult to set the roll for our youth and not let the clubs tell them what being a black lesbian or black gay is all about.

Have you seen this movie called the INCREDIVLY TRUE OF TWO GIRLS IN LOVE? while for me it was the first time that I seen a black woman play a part where she was a lesbian. I went to see that movie around three time if not more and when it came out on VHS I had it...... I do not have much to said about us black lesbian on the scene. WE need more of us black lesbian on the big scene!!!

There need to be more us black lesbian coming out. We got the books cover we need more movies of us living our life, our stories need to told and put out on the big sceen I am in search of the true love story of two black lesbian in love...WWW.blacklesbiansplanet.net or so here is just a small list of Black lesbian websites I think you will like. One more thing I think you should know if you are coming out for the first time know that you are not alone.

1. www.Niacollective.org

2. www.blacklesbiansnetwork.com    3. www.Shecircle.org