For a long time in overheard conversations, dialogue in movies, and information in books and magazines, as well as in my own mind "Booty Calls" really have had a bad name.  But the longer I am single the more I understand the concept and maybe even the advantage of the occasional Booty Call.

First, I would like to define what I think a Booty Call is: If a person calls you in the middle of the night just to have sex...that's a Booty Call. If you go visit a friend you haven't seen in a while, have sex, then don't call them or see them again for another long while...that's a Booty Call.

WARNING!---Depending on which end of the call you are on can determine how you feel about it. If you are the person who receives the call you might get hurt if you think you want more from the relationship. The Booty Call doesn't work if you are in love. If this is the case, I repeat if this is the case, please step away from the Booty and keep your heart intact!

However, if you are tough, can guard your heart and have no real issue with having casual sex, then the Booty Call may be idea for you.

 In order for the Booty Call to be successful you need to follow a few simple rules: 

• Remember that the Booty Call is hit or miss.  If you are available, great.  If you are not, then oh well, sorry.
• These hookups are to be neat, clean and clear cut.  No mushy lingering or promises you know you won't keep.  There is no room for deep emotion here.  This is just sex, it is not making love.
• Its best to hookup with someone you at least know and can trust on some level for those moments when you have the urge.  Hooking up with total strangers after having too much to drink is not cool these days.  In fact, it can be totally dangerous! 
• Be health conscous.  Check the person out as thouroughly as possible, so what if they get offended by your physical exam--make it part of the fun!  Ask questions and pay attention to the way they take care of themselves.  Your health is so much more important.
• Use protection, duh!
• Get yourself tested on a regular basis for all those things that can come with having sex casually.  Pay attention to your body and don't ignore anything that seems suspect.

Let me just say that preserving sex for that special person you love is still the best idea. I am not an advocate for sleeping around. If you feel the need to constantly be with several different people you may want and need to take a step back and see "what's really going on." Men and women use sex for various other reasons than just for the mere pleasure of it. Sometimes we may use sex to feel better about ourselves. Maybe we have low self esteem and need some reassurance that we are still sexy or whatever.

Young women (and older ones too) should realize that guys will tell you anything they think you want to hear to get in your pants. That's just truth. I'm a mama and I can say that! I have always told my daughters that when you decide to have sex you need to be prepared for the feelings and emotions that go along with it. You need to understand that you will open yourself up to a whole new world of drama you may not be able to handle. Save yourself for that special person. It may be rare, but its still cool to be a virgin. As a matter of fact, I just saw some couples on the Tyra Banks Show the other day who had saved themselves for marriage.

This article was truly meant for entertainment. And it was also written with the knowledge that people are still going to have casual sex, its better to be smart about it.