Getting over a break up can be one of the most painful experiences you will ever have. Depending on how long you were in the relationship, you can expect it to take up to a year or more before you fully recover. The following are normal emotions you may feel after the breakup:

• Shock and disbelief. You may walk around in a fog, feeling numb and void of emotion for awhile. You may also lose your appetite and lose weight.
• Anger. You may become extremely angry at your ex and desire revenge. It is important that these fantasies are not acted upon during this stage. Write a letter to your ex and burn it, call a friend and vent, punch a pillow and scream, but do not confront your ex and express your anger directly.
• Grief and sadness. This is the stage where you cry all day and feel deeply depressed. You may feel like you have been punched in the stomach and can't catch your breath. Hang in there, it will pass and you will start to feel better soon.

Here are some ways to feel better quickly after a break up:

• Get out of the house and do something you enjoy. Get a massage, read a good book, take up a hobby you never had time for, anything you can do to take your mind off of your ex and onto something positive will help
• Start your day by making a list of things you are grateful for in your life. Even though your ex is no longer in your life, there are still reasons to be happy and thankful. By thinking about what is good in your life, you will take your mind off of what you have lost and onto what you still have.
• Understand that everything happens for a reason. Someday you will look back and see that your ex was the wrong person for you. When you have met the right person, you will be grateful for this break up. If it had not happened, you would have never met this fantastic new person in your life.This may be difficult to comprehend now, in the midst of your pain, but it can be comforting to know that the universe has bigger and better things in store for you. You just have to trust and have faith that everything will be okay.
• Start making a list of all of the qualities you want in a new mate. List everything in great detail, from physical attributes, personality traits, hobbies and interests. Next, write down on a piece of paper what your ideal day with the new love of your life would look like. Waht would you do? Where would you go? Where would you live? The greater the detail, the better. Soon you will begin to attract the perfect new partner.

So you have read everything here about moving on and letting go, yet your still miss your ex with all of your heart and just can't get over him or her. Maybe you were the one who caused the break up and now deeply regret letting this person go?

If there was no physical or mental abuse in the relationship and you want to try and reconcile, you may want to give it a try. This way, even if it does not work, you know you did everything in your power to get back together.

Of course, your ex has to be in agreement and willing to try again. If your ex is adamant about not wanting to be with you, then you need to walk away. Only attempt to win your ex back, if you see that he or she is open to a reconciliation.

If you were the one who ended the relationship and make a mistake, the first step is to admit that to your ex. Do not make excuses. Be honest and take responsibility. This will show your ex that you are serious and have changed.

In order for your relationship to get back on track, you must not repeat the mistake you both made in the past. Look back on the relationship and take stock of all of the problems you encountered. These are issues that must be addressed and worked on if there is any hope of the two of you staying together.

The second time around can work only if both of you are willing to put time and energy into your relationship and not repeat the mistakes of the past.

There are many products out there promising to help you get back your ex and most of them can be hype. One I do recommend is "The Magic of Making Up System".