Okay you've broken up again and you're heartbroken because it feels as though this is the final time,you've run out of words to say,he's just not the relationship type of guy,there's no convincing him that letting you go would be a big mistake,but you still feel that somewhere in his heart he loves you and god knows you love him. Is there really a way to turn things around and make him come to his senses? Of course there is but unfortunately women do all the wrong things at the breakup point.

     If he wants to leave you, you should not do any of the following.

1. Beg

2. Constantly call him

3. Make yourself vulnerable for him to come take advantage

4. Let him see you cry

5. Hang out where he's going to be

6. Pretend to go along with the lets just be friends role

7. Give him gifts or try to persuade him with money

      If you do any of those, I'm afraid you have already lost out because men don't want women who appear too vulnerable. Men have a different way of thinking and if they see you letting them take advantage of you they're also seeing you as a easy prey for others. Women need to learn how to tap into a mans heart,how to get what they want instead of coming off too controlling and how to keep their man after they have him. Other women already know this,these are the women who are in seemingly great relationships, the reason I said seemingly great is because the relationship might look great if you're on the outside looking in but on the inside it could be a mess and its something that woman is doing that's keeping him from leaving so there's a chance of making things right. Those are things you need to learn or your efforts will be for nothing because if he comes back he'll do the same thing and leave you again.

     Show him that you can be independent, that you can handle things like an adult instead of screaming,breaking things and having a breakdown right before his eyes. Changing yourself can in fact change him. Can you identify signals in his voice that lets you know his guard is down and you have a moment for him to confide in you without fear of looking less than a man? Can you avoid putting him on the defensive when talking to him? Can you figure out what made him date you or be in a relationship with you at first and then use it to your advantage? Can you identify the root cause of why he left? If you cant do any of those things this is where you definitely need help.

     He will come back to you, your relationship will be better than ever, those mistakes made in the past can be forgiven. The main obstacle is you, are you sure you want him back? You must first have a heart to heart with yourself, know what you're going to put up with in the relationship, and think positive.  In the end you can have happiness with that special someone as long as you keep it in your mind that the man doesnt make you or break you.