How To Break Up With Someone (Nicely)
85When you've got to get out, here's how.
I think we should just be friends. Let’s take a break. I just need space right now. I miss being happy. I’ve met someone else. The sex is great, but I just don’t love you. Life is too short to make mistakes. You’re someone, just not the one. Yes, I love you, but I really, really hate you too.
When that “It’s not you, it’s me” moment comes in your relationship, don’t kid yourself. You know it’s them. They know it’s them. You might as well have just admitted,” It’s not me, it’s you.” That’s the truth of it. Breaking up is hard to do, but it’s a whole lot easier that staying in a bad relationship.
So how exactly do you break-up with someone without being a bull-shitter or a douche bag? Well, the first step is admitting that most likely the other person is going to be hurt. Chances are you both know that things haven’t been ideal recently, however she or he hasn’t taken the step that you’re about to take, which means they might still have hope. This is the part where you go in and crush that hope because you want to be happy. The fun part comes when you realize that you’re actually freeing them to be happy too—however, for some odd reason, they never seem to see it like that.
Expect at least an hour of “breaking-up-ness.” Tell your gf/bf that you need to have a serious conversation. If he or she asks “why” or “what about,” feel free to say that you’ve decided that you need to end the relationship. Don’t jump around the topic, it’s best to just be straight-forward.
What? Why? How could you? Don’t leave me! What did I do? You asshole!
Yup, you’re most likely going to hear some of this when you do the deed. First things first, try to dump your soon-to-be-ex in person. It makes things a little easier, even though you probably don’t care to see them again. However, breaking things off in person will at least show that you respected the relationship you had. If they try to talk you back into the relationship, hold your ground. There are reasons that you want out and you need to be true to yourself, it’s not fair to go back to dating someone that you have no feelings for anymore just because you feel guilty.
In the end, the best that you can do is to be true to yourself and be respectful of the other person. Once the healing process is over, the two of you will be a lot happier. And happiness, after all, is what it’s all about…
Tips For Breaking Up:*Make sure you tell your boyfriend and girlfriend that you’re breaking up first. Yes, you’ve probably discussed it with close friends, but before you say “we’re done,” make sure you actually are.
*Try to break-up with the other person in person as opposed to email, text messages, etc. It might be harder to do, but at least there will be respect for the relationship you once had.
*Find a private place to break-up. Don’t do it in front of friends or in an unfamiliar place. If possible, do it on their turf so that they can have a familiar location to be vulnerable in.
*Even though he or she might ask for details, try not to be too specific when it comes to explaining why you want to break-up. No one likes to be hit with the why-you-suck bomb. |
*Don’t break-up by just ignoring or disappearing on the person. That’s just disrespectful.
*The sooner you can tell the other person, the better. However, if you find out that they are having a particularly bad day or are hit with a lot of things—try to wait and give them time to sort that out. 1-2 days max. You have a right to move on.
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umm im really just nit ready for a serious realtion ship i think it would be better if we just remain friends............really really good friends if you know what i mean
whoa! you opened my mind ;) thanx. gtg to break up with my guy. I like him, but I don't think I love him... I just enjoy his company.
thanks a lot for the tip of advice.
it's a big help :)
my boyfriend's dick is broken and on top of all of this he is 26 and im 16 he's really needy and i just don't like him like that but my problem is that his friends run security at all the raves so what do i do because i love to rave and im sure if i broke his heart like i want to he will end my raving career please what do i do .......? so he wont be mad or feel like getting revenge on me?
Nice article you have here and I am impressed with the way you wrote this.
Also, I definitely agree that breaking up is the best thing in a relationship when things are no longer going the way they are supposed to. It sucks but it's the remedy for a long time heartache.
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this article is really. good. i finally know a way to break up with my boy friend. i like him and i enjoy his company but he just isnt the one it is one of those more friend friend relationships
thanks for the advice.
this really helped. my boyfriend always says sorry to me and hes always trying to keep me happy. but its not working. it just gets on my nerves.
and we've been friends for a year and a half and hes really nice and i dont wanna hurt him but i feel like i have too.
my girl is always hugging other guys in front of me vyo0r5
hi and thanks for the help, think it'll come in useful
hi and thanks for the help, think it'll come in useful
This is allot of help thankyou. My bf is really gd with me, but he just gets on my damn nerves coz hes so freeking clingy, big headed, over the top and sooo cheesy. Need to get rid soon!!!!!
hello. its just not working. he says that as long as were friends, he'll try to win me back ):
i need to break up with my GF. Im seeing someone else. But i think my GF cant just take it from me. She loves me SOOO much. !! but still Im not happy with her. I need to break up. I don't want her to get hurt and i don't want to feel guilty..What can I do now???
naxora. i feel the same way. i am very interested in someone but my relationship with my girl has gotten stale. we ve been together 2 1/2 years, and shes still crazy about me, but she doesnt take joy in life and is very negative, the opposite of me. I want to meet smeone who enjoys life and makes the best of it.
ok, here it goes. My boyfriend and i have been dating 6 months and it feels like 6 years. He's such a damn kid when he gets around my nephews or cousins. He's 18 and acts like he's 12. he's pretty devoted (clingy/obssessed/bum) cause i wrecked my car and hes been my ride everywhere. but thats not a big problem. he's extremely jealous. i pay for our movie tickets, his cigarettes, his gas, and his freaking food. he has no job and is very pathetic. but the catch is, he wasnt right before we started dating.. ugh... ADVICE PLEASE.. i told him today that i needed "me" time and he started to cry so i hung up. i know that when i break up with him he's going to look like a lost dog walking around in school. how do i avoid that? i do i rid myself from feeling so guilty? comment on here or write me at dana_gail92@yahoo.com
Me and my boyfriend have been going out for only 3 months, but he's already seriousish. im 16, and he's 15!! he told me he loved me and i said it back, but i just dont feel it for real. he's had it hard lately and i dont want to make it worse, what should i do???
ok i have a boyfriend that ive been dating for almost two months. but im in love with my ex.... me and my ex were on and off for a year. and he wass a asswhole to me. he says when he dumped me a week later he knew he was wrong cuz he thought i cheated. but he was to stubburn to admit it. so he painted this evil girl so he can get over me. well i have a boyfriend that i like but my ex says he likes me. and now im confused. idk if hes just playing tricks with me to get me to break up with him so he can say he dont really like me or hes serious about still liking me. i love my ex like really alot but i dont want to hurt my bf. or should i stay with my bf and risk losing my love of my life in hopes and falling for my bf? HELP ME??????
ok i have a boyfriend that ive been dating for almost two months. but im in love with my ex.... me and my ex were on and off for a year. and he wass a asswhole to me. he says when he dumped me a week later he knew he was wrong cuz he thought i cheated. but he was to stubburn to admit it. so he painted this evil girl so he can get over me. well i have a boyfriend that i like but my ex says he likes me. and now im confused. idk if hes just playing tricks with me to get me to break up with him so he can say he dont really like me or hes serious about still liking me. i love my ex like really alot but i dont want to hurt my bf. or should i stay with my bf and risk losing my love of my life in hopes and falling for my bf? HELP ME??????
i have only been seeing my boyfriend for nearly 2 months and it feels like years he is so serious planning years ahead and im just thinking about that day! he is so clingy so i just cant take it any more! i really dont want to hurt him but what makes it harder is that we live in the same flat in our student halls so i still want to be friends but i dont want to be with him! any advice??
Elle i know what you mean. I have the exact same situation but he's so nice and i dont want to hurt him. :( plus i'm falling for one of my best guy friends. If i dump him everyone will be mad at me because he's so sweet, but if i dont, i'm unhappy. no one wins. of course, no one ever really does.
ok so i have a boyfriend and we have been on and off 3 years,i really really love him, but i feel as though im on a whole new different level in everything.He's 25 and im 18 and i just feel that im just more mature when it comes to certain situations than he is.In conclusion i just feel the need to just single and see what more life has to offer but its hard to let him go because we have been through alot.what should i do??
i'm going out with a guy, i really liked him atfirst and he i nicest thing every. i jusdont like him anymore
break-ups r so dffclt but if ur not happy or just dnt see the need to be with some1 then don't make ur own life miserable just bcoz u dnt wanna hurt that person, its hard at 1st but u'll get ova it we all do sooner or later...dnt date sum1 jst for the sake of dating them, coz u culd be goin in2 a dark tunnel nt knwing wat to expect...wen i mean for the sake of dating them it just means that u like them ryt naaw coz ther so hot or ther so funny blah blah blah, bt in that case u gtta think long term,nd i dnt mean a whole year, just that: am i datng this person coz i really want 2, do i see myself being with this person for a mnth or 2, or wuld this realtionship be like a slice of cake,that ur nt really hungry for bt it lookz so yummy uve jt gt to hve it, but then one slice away u realize that u dnt really want it any more...
That helps me alot!! I'm going to break up with him 2morow in school.. I like him actually and he's kinda nice to me.. But I just hate him!! Ergghh!
heather says:
12 months ago
tell them it was fun but not that i need my space.......................thank you come again